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Friends or no friends??

Alien girl- I just think you could have a very strong introvert personality coming through. I am also a introvert.
I would not mind a hand full of true friends now, I don't care for phone friendships as the phone to me is one of the worst inventions ever(just my dislike of using it). For me the internet is a recent addition.
 
Not a single friend what so ever. I learned to accept it and I can do things that I like that most people don't give a dam.
 
I haven't posted on AspiesCentral for awhile so here goes I now have a few more friends and a couple of close friends has taken awhile but am happy a lot of work too! I find socialising difficult and exhausting sometimes even boring and am finding it is hard to keep up with friends life is so busy and also due to problems with reading body language am learning few more social skills though. It doesn't bother me as much with not having many friends now unfortunately a lot of Aspies just don't have a lot of friends due to our difficulties with social skills etc
 
All my friends are online and even I'm not sure that their really friends or just people who are praising me for making captioned memes on DA ...

I guess I caption memes to get people to talk to me even if they don't seem that interested in conversations :( Does not make desperate ?
 
I have some good friends, but I don´t see them very often (except one) because most of the times I don´t feel like being with people. I much rather be alone, or sometimes with that friend, but being with two or more people can be very difficult and boring.
 
I've only ever had one good, true friend. Other than that i've had what i call school friends - kids i talked to in school but never associated with outside of school. As a little kid i found it really lonely, still do i guess, but i've learned to accept it for what it is. People skills just dont come naturally to me. I'm fine with my one friend, even if our work schedules get in the way of us ever hanging out.
 
i have no friends at all i have people who could be my friends but am scared they will not like me for me
i go to groups for my mental health and Trans groups ( am transgender ) last time i was there we where talking about cats and i love cats
showed them my cats on my phone
i know a few people there but at times its too busy for me and i just talk to my husband or one of the workers there
am trying to be social with people but sometimes i dont talk at all

really would like friends
 
I know how you feel, I have friends, mainly on Facebook, and people I know through work, family and my carers, but I would like more, maybe even a girlfriend (might be a bit much to ask that, I turned 40 week before last and still single)
 
I don't have any real life friends at the moment. I have a few old friends from years back who I occasionally speak to on facebook or whatsapp but haven't seen any of them in person for at least 9 years and 18 years in a couple of cases. The reason is probably twofold, I admit I can sometimes be a difficult person to get on with, and the other reason is that I deliberately isolate myself after having some bad experiences with so-called friends.
 
Astroganga said:
I don't have any real life friends at the moment. I have a few old friends from years back who I occasionally speak to on facebook or whatsapp but haven't seen any of them in person for at least 9 years and 18 years in a couple of cases. The reason is probably twofold, I admit I can sometimes be a difficult person to get on with, and the other reason is that I deliberately isolate myself after having some bad experiences with so-called friends.
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I do, too. Isolate, after bad incidents I mean. For instance, I ran into an old friend I hadn't seen in over ten years. She at first didn't even remember me! Then she demanded to know what I was doing "here" (meaning back in my old town because I had moved away ten years ago) So I told her I had moved back. Then she gave me a hug which surprised me, and told me that she and her family were still at the same address and phone number. She encouraged me to give a call. So a few days later, I did but got voice mail. I left a message, but it's been over a week and no reply. So now I feel shy about pushing it.:pensive:
 
I'm friends on Facebook with a guy I've known for about 22 years in real life, and I recently friended a woman who was in my class at school when I was about 8.
 
Hello Rainbow, I'm sorry you've no friends but there are some very friendly people here
 
garnetflower13 said:
I do, too. Isolate, after bad incidents I mean. For instance, I ran into an old friend I hadn't seen in over ten years. She at first didn't even remember me! Then she demanded to know what I was doing "here" (meaning back in my old town because I had moved away ten years ago) So I told her I had moved back. Then she gave me a hug which surprised me, and told me that she and her family were still at the same address and phone number. She encouraged me to give a call. So a few days later, I did but got voice mail. I left a message, but it's been over a week and no reply. So now I feel shy about pushing it.:pensive:
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I've had several friends that have turned out to be compulsive liars, I am less gullible than I used to be but still give people the benefit of the doubt and I think liars pick up on that and take advantage. Also had people who just didn't show up when we had arranged to meet or I had invited them, both things that are so hard for me to start with, and they didn't even have the decency to call and let me know....
 
Cazzie said:
hi all,
Why dont people with autism or asperger's syndrome have no friends or not very many?

what are your thoughts on this......

i have 1 really good friend other then that non!!

i did not have many friends at school nearth college

take care
cazzie
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I don’t have the energy ,the person who I am I would say friendly with i’m shattered if I spend an hour with,I’m knackered if I comb the cat for half an hour, i’m tired if I watch a program for half an hour especially some documentaries you can’t really have relationships when you’re like that
 
I usually have only a few close friends at a time, but they usually move away or become too busy with something else and then I don't have anyone to talk to.

The biggest problem is I have difficult time meeting new people, especially now that I'm no longer in school or around others to make friends with.

I also worry that people are going to think I'm lame to hang around, since I don't really have any other friends.
 
I have finally come to the realization that I won’t have any friends in my life. It’s a bit lonely but I got all my forum friends here that I’m ok with that fact.
 
for me personally its a bit of both, i want friends and then i don't want any friends. I'm just afraid that i might get taken advantage of, lied to or worse. there are a lot of fake and suspicious people out there even these days. i have had a few in the past but things didn't turn out well. i apparently gave up on people for years but lately I've had thoughts about trying to put myself out there again but i have to take care of some personal things first.
 
hardrockandmetalguy said:
for me personally its a bit of both, i want friends and then i don't want any friends. I'm just afraid that i might get taken advantage of, lied to or worse. there are a lot of fake and suspicious people out there even these days. i have had a few in the past but things didn't turn out well. i apparently gave up on people for years but lately I've had thoughts about trying to put myself out there again but i have to take care of some personal things first.
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Find people who support you no matter what. It's a bit weird, but people who are a lot older or a lot younger are more understanding and supportive than people our age. I feel with older people, they are more mature than people your age. With younger people, they are looking up to you and it gives you motivation to do good and know that you are doing your best. There can be people our age that is like that but it almost feels like we are trying to compete since we are at the same age in life or people judging for not being like them more often than not. Like peer pressure basically.

Seems crazy, but that's been my experience I guess. I rather hang with and talk to old people or play games with my little cousins. I feel more comfortable in these situations.
 
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