Has anyone else decided they don't want children?

[ksheehan88]

I've decided I don't want children.

Bit late now though, can't send them back!

 

[Alis1998]

To be honest I want children.
Or lets say a child. Not nessary more then one or two. I dont think as autism as something bad. With the right care and love there childhood can end up fine.
Something to consider is alot of work, therapy, special schools and special activitys. To be honest, I had a lovely childhood besides from the "normal" bully's, the pressure from school and other important task. So the posibility of having a child with autism doesnt close the posibility of wanting children at all for me. A child is a child, autistic, handicapped (body like and mentally), adhd or anything else or not. Besides that I always wanted to have a child. To teach them, give care to them and love them is a couple of the things I want to provide a child. My only doubt is getting one adopted or having my own.

 

[StephF]

No kids, ever !

 

[xudo]

Both myself and my husband have no interest in having children for various reasons. Partly, neither of use would want to pass anything on (both on the spectrum, I also have a few other co-morbids and my husband is Albino) and partly neither of us could cope with a baby or a child. Also neither of us like children.

 

[Mattymatt]

It's good to see that I am not really alone. In the NT world, I am considered a monster because I don't want children of my own and I don't particularly like them due to the noise and tremendously high energy.

 

[Fridgemagnetman]

I've decided I don't want children.

Bit late now though, can't send them back!

Guessing they wouldn't fit anymore?

 

[Mr Allen]

I want kids, I've just come to the conclusion that if I was ever intended to get any, I would've done it years ago.

 

[onlything]

I was watching a young mum with her little daughter and all without the gnoring sense of lonliness that always hits me that drags me further away from my own species. I saw her suck deeply on a dummy, before placing it into her child's mouth and seen this action so many times and of course, it is to clean it; I get it, but for me it raised such an distaste that I thought: thank goodness I am not a mother!

It always surprised me that people clean kid's dummy by transfering their own bacteries to it through their saliva...

 

[Propianotuner]

Several posts here mention the idea of not wanting to have a child who might have to go through even more challenging symptoms. That's a funny thought to me because part of why I'm unsure about having a child is wondering whether I even want to inflict this whole thing of being alive and having typical human experiences, on someone else.

It can be an ugly world and sometimes I think it's a shame that others have the same world to look at too.

 

[Fridgemagnetman]

why I'm unsure about having a child is wondering whether I even want to inflict this whole thing of being alive and having typical human experiences, on someone else.

Bingo.

Kind of overrated

 

[Fridgemagnetman]

It always surprised me that people clean kid's dummy by transfering their own bacteries to it through their saliva...

A wolf licking cuts to protect,seal.

Wouldn't surprise me if a mother's spit doesn't have similar qualities .

The product will be on the shelves by Friday

 

[LucyPurrs]

The product will be on the shelves by Friday

You found your new career?!

 

[Lichi]

I used to think I would have to have children at some point in life, because that's what life is supposed to be. The older I got the more scared I was of whether I would be able to protect the child from all of the evils of this world. Then I was scared if I could ever care for the child because of my issues with empathy, or if the child would suffer because I cannot display affection. Then I wasn't sure if I could teach the child how to behave socially when I don't even know how to myself. That was until I became pregnant. All of the worries disappeared, everything seemed possible. I had never felt that close to anyone before. It was truly a bliss. Unfortunately I lost her, and that was a very hard thing to go through. After that I suspect another pregnancy and the time it took to confirm it I was worried I wouldn't feel the same for the next child as I did for the one I lost. That was when I found out I might in fact not be able to have children. So now it doesn't matter if I want to or not, I most likely won't.

That being said, I do see that raising a child is a perfect way to leave your legacy in the form of your model of what a human being should be. I would consider adoption as a possibility but that wouldn't be in another 7-10 years.

 

[onlything]

A wolf licking cuts to protect,seal.

Wouldn't surprise me if a mother's spit doesn't have similar qualities .

The product will be on the shelves by Friday

Well, there's a difference between blood clotting and bacterial infections and although enzyme lysozyme does aid in battling some infection, the bacterias in human mouth are just as likely to cause one. Of course, I'm no specialist but overall, it seems much more hygienic to me to just use other ways of cleaning.

 

[ksheehan88]

Well, there's a difference between blood clotting and bacterial infections and although enzyme lysozyme does aid in battling some infection, the bacterias in human mouth are just as likely to cause one. Of course, I'm no specialist but overall, it seems much more hygienic to me to just use other ways of cleaning.

Often its convenience.

 

[OlLiE]

don't want any either, my life and mind are way to busy to put up with chaotic noisy children,

they are needy and egotistical, they cost a fortune, when i look at the children and adolescents around me i know i don't want anything like that in my home, too much effort, too much cost, too much uncertainty

if raised well, i'm sure some children are well mannered and can be 'raised' to be responsible adults, i just don't see very many of that type when i look around me, i just see the obnoxious, vain, shallow, entitled bunch that happily criticise a world they have opulently benefited from but have never contributed to in any meaningful way, other than posting vapid opinions and selfies on morons anonymous (facebook, twitter, instagram...)

why would i want a child if i can get a dog, at least you can train a dog to know its place

 

[Tom]

To be honest I want children.
Or lets say a child. Not nessary more then one or two. I dont think as autism as something bad. With the right care and love there childhood can end up fine.
Something to consider is alot of work, therapy, special schools and special activitys. To be honest, I had a lovely childhood besides from the "normal" bully's, the pressure from school and other important task. So the posibility of having a child with autism doesnt close the posibility of wanting children at all for me. A child is a child, autistic, handicapped (body like and mentally), adhd or anything else or not. Besides that I always wanted to have a child. To teach them, give care to them and love them is a couple of the things I want to provide a child. My only doubt is getting one adopted or having my own.

It may be good to really wait for a while after the first, to see if they are on the spectrum. Multiple NT children does increase the workload, but multiple kids on the spectrum can be quickly overwhelming. Its more then just considering 'workload' of course, but the real point is feeling out what you can manage, one step at a time. If you become chronically over-taxed it will effect everyone in time.

 

[Isadoorian]

It's good to see that I am not really alone. In the NT world, I am considered a monster because I don't want children of my own and I don't particularly like them due to the noise and tremendously high energy.

Everyone who don't want kids is considered monsters and at time selfish by everyone else, pretty sad really

 

[Arkanu of Galatiel]

Not exactly. While I do hope someday to have children, I'm worried I might not take care of them properly, as all of my current responsibilities seem to pale in comparison, and I already view those as imposing or challenging. If my responsibilities are challenging now, I'm not ready for kids... at least, not yet.

 

[FreeDiver]

Everyone who don't want kids is considered monsters and at time selfish by everyone else, pretty sad really

And the sad irony of it is, is that it's resulting in people having kids when they aren't ready to have them. Resulting in the family being overburden just to fulfill a social/cultural obligation. But then again, sociality expects women to look as beautiful as those on the cover of a magazine. Not realizing that that's impossible because that picture has been photoshopped.