lovely_darlingprettybaby
Well-Known Member
I can internalize and externalize, sometimes I need to let it all out and pour my feelings on someone, I do not feel like though I like talking about feelings all the time to untrained professionals, it depends. Sometimes I need to let my Feelings out.In general, there are two types of people. Externalizers and internalizers. For externalizers, they need the "release" of emotions, or else "their head will explode".For internalizers, emotions are deeply distracting, means a "loss of control", and is interpreted as "bad". Anyone who knows me, knows that I am an internalizer. I feel things very deeply, but any expression of feeling means a "loss of control" with resultant negative consequences. It's been this way my entire life. I am very much an informal student of Stoicism.
That said, for externalizers, they have to be careful with whom they express their feelings to, and in which environment. For example, the work environment is NOT the place, whereas, outside of work may be. Your co-workers don't care about your issues, only your results. If an externalizer is "venting" to an internalizer, they will be seen as someone who has "a lack of self-control and discipline", introduces an element of "unpredictability", and then a negative judgement is placed upon them. Externalizers tend to struggle professionally and are often passed over for advancements in their career for just this reason.
So, it has less to do with NDs vs NTs, as it does externalizing personalities vs internalizing personalities, as well as, the specific environment.
I can be private about some but sometimes I like to talk about certain aspects.
