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@benaspiringwriter , I appreciate your candor and enthusiasm! Those are charming attributes in a world where the underdog is said to deserve sympathy and where the woman on the tv can't understand why the government isn't entitled to give her whatever she desires.
If you have the desire to write a book, then write the book. If you have a problem following through on a project, then sit down, identify where you have problems following through, and work through each problem, one by one. (Anyone who has faced any sort of voluminous project has been faced by the same hurdles as you. Don't let it intimidate you--let it teach you.)
How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.
In my quick review of the above posts, I didn't see your apraxia addressed. Granted, I don't know a lot about it. But I have been told by a lot of people in life that I "can't" do something. I'm kind-of finding out that I probably would have had a lot of justification for following their sometimes well-meant--sometimes hostile--advice for not doing
a lot of the things I've done. So here's another question for you (and you don't have to answer this online). Who makes your choices in life--does your condition, or do you?
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Here's a little story to show why this is important. There was a little old lady I heard about who used to live down the street from where I lived in the desert. She was long gone by the time I lived there. But someone who knew her would say every time we drove by her house how this poor woman had no money but wanted to build a low wall in front of her property. So she took matters into her own hands and, every day, went out into the desert and collected four or five good-sized rocks. She'd pick them up, set them in her wheelbarrow --because each rock was too heavy for her elderly frame to carry-- and wheeled them over to where she wanted the wall. Weeks turned into months, and she built that decorative rock wall she dreamed of. I saw the wall. It was functional and aesthetically pleasing for the yeard which had been hers. She was gone, but her wall still stood.
We all have limitations. Whether we decide to let those limitations define us is up to us. I grew up in poverty, from a violent home with a disabled parent and a disabled sibling. Colleges recruit from nice neighborhoods, searching for students with good grades, community involvement, and from families that can pay. The high school official who refused to help me with my college application was right--I was not college material. I came this close --> || to failing high school. And I failed my first semester of college. But he was wrong about my will and determination. Let me ask you this, Where is your will and determination?
Remember. It only takes one rock at a time to build a wall, and it only takes one word at a time to write a book.
Some quick advice here. (There's lots of advice on the internet. Pick what you will & discard the rest.)
1.) Why do you want to write a book? Money? Fame & glory? Pressing passion? Obsessive desire? Someone, somewhere, has at one time or another justified each of these as legitimate reasons for writing a book. But, why do
you want to write a book? That can only be answered by yourself, for yourself, and should you commit yourself to your own cause, you may soon find that the reasons you have for having written the book (after it's finished) look quite different than the reasons you had in the beginning when you thought of writing a book. Allow yourself to be taught by your book and it will teach you about how to live.
2.) On comrades. Personally, I'm not interested in buddying up with somebody unless they: a.) share the same vision as I do for the project, b.) share a similar intensity for seeing the project to completion, c.) have an educational or experiential background that I can respect as being informative for the purposes of our teaming up together. For exmple, I belong to a small, academically professional reading group. If someone in my group were to ask me this question, then yes, I would definitely jump on board. Likewise, the reverse is also true. We have a mutual bond of trust and respect, and I know I challenge them & they likewise challenge me, so that what we would produce together would be greater than what any single one of us could produce on our own. These are what good collaborators do--they don't carry the boat
for you, they redesign the boat
with you, so it can go the distance you thought impossible to sail.
3.) On reading. You seem well-read. If you join an online writing group, expect to hear, "read more!" So I won't tell you that. What I will tell you is, seek to understand what you read. Seek not only to understand what is written, but seek to understand
how it is written. What makes this particular piece of writing stand out? Why does it resonate with you? What was the cost suffered by the hero, and what became of the hero's agony toward the denouement, or resolution, of the story? What is the pacing? How does the voice it is written in guide and direct your experience as the reader? (Here I am thinking of Willa Cather.) In other words, what is your existential experience of the piece? In other words, what I am trying to say is, interact with the text on such a deep level that you walk away having mastered the piece. In doing so, your reading will begin to master you.
4.) Discouragement. Experience it. (Sorry, tough love here.) I used to think writers needed 'crocodile skin', meaning, that they needed to defend their ideas about their text at all costs. I no longer think that. (It was poor advice.) Rather, they need to hear the bad as well as the good. It's the only way you can grow. If you want to be published, let other people into what you write. While your actual writing may be labored out in the vacuum of your closet, what you write must stand before an audience much wider, and much broader, than you can envision. Accept that not everyone who reads what you write will be either enamored by or possessed with the passion with which you have invested in your work--and listen to what these people have to say. Compare it to what you think your message is saying, weigh those comments, and after having slept on it for several weeks--all the while letting their comments abrade you and torment you in the night watches--then decide on whether to accommodate or reply or dismiss those comments. But do think on them heavily. No one gives negative advice easily; it's much easier to give no advice at all.
5.) On completing a project. Read everything you can on the nuts & bolts of writing, read about structure and plot and how to write characters and set scenes and, most of all, practice, practice, practice. Personally, I love reading about successful authors and how they wrote their masterpieces. Mostly, it is persistence and luck. Anyone can manage that. What you can't manage is the book-buying public, its fickleness, and the influence of technology on literature--or on any book for that matter. But look for structure especially, because out of a well-structured book you get meaning. For the beginning writer, I'll admit this is largely happenstance. But for the skilled journalist writing about his experience in war-torn Chechnya, nothing is happenstance except the events that unfolded. The meaning comes out of the shared experience he has with those around him and the cycle of events that unfold around him which all involved are subject to. Nothing he puts in his diary is by mistake. Strive to let nothing you put into what you write be by mistake, either.
Don't excuse the cynicism. It's genuine. When I am writing, I live with it daily.
Sometimes I am happier not writing.
Sometimes, when I am writing, there is no greater pleasure I have ever received on earth than the very experience of writing itself.
That I may publish what I have written for the public to read, that is extraneous to why I began as a writer. Yet, regarding publication, I take a very different approach to what I write when the intention is publication. Everyone's different. You
should have different motivations--find them. There are some first-time writers out there who do publish their first book. But I'll share with you some sage advice of one of my professors: just because you
can, doesn't mean you
should.
I'll let you make of that what you will.
If I haven't entirely discouraged you from your labors, PM me and we can chat. I'd be happy to share with you some titles for books on writing (and editing) that I have enjoyed.
And I hope you do stay. There are some wonderful people here and they are very giving and compassionate with their time and advice and have built up a very inclusive community.