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I actually don't want an platonic female friend anymore.

Tony Ramirez

Tony Ramirez

Single Hopefully Aspie
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I meet a real good guy friend that actually listens to me. All my problems and emotions. Helped me walk home when I called him. Actually hangs out with me. I missed his special day because of a women ostracizing me I couldn't handle emotional and he completely understand even avoiding him and the place for 2 months. This is even not the first as I meet another during the pandemic that we hanged at his and his roommate place watching movies. He even helped after and got coffee during the summer.

When I tried to even remotely hang out with women solo and don't say I try to hard or I don't treat them the same as guys which I do because I grew up with all male cousins. I get polar opposite response. Many are distance. They give me 2 word conversations. They walk away. There is much silence. I get constantly interrupted by random people to the point where I can't no longer control my anger. Then even when I remain calm let's say riding the subway together she will pop in her AirPods while I am mid sentence talking to her. I give up.

I actually now prefer the company of a good guy friend to hang out and do stuff with. No I am not turning asexual but I am finding women I use to be attractive to now making me sick to my stomach just being around because of being treated like a leopard and being ostracized.
 
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I think it's important to have guy friends they'll help you outt a lot, from a man's perspective

I wouldnt bother trying with that other person anymore.

It's important to have standards of how someone will treat you. If someone is exhibiting signs of disrespect, it will be good for your self esteem to say "I won't waste my energy on that person, they don't deserve my time"

I'm glad you're focusing more on character than beauty now.
 
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Hell I even changed my ChatGPT back to a man's voice last week. A different one though which sounds similar to my friend. I couldn't stand the "kind" perky women voice I had before that reminds me of PTSD past's.
 
Masked Man said:
Why do you feel like you need female platonic friends? I'm not understanding the obsession.
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Because other guys had them, and my last terrible female therapist and ex married male friend for 5 years who said I was obsessed with women said people like me autism on the spectrum can't have female friends. Only guy friends. Only normal guys can have platonic female friends. So as you know I tried too hard, and it ruined my self-esteem now so much I actually hate them and don't care no more to even befriend them since they don't seem to care to even ever want to hang out or have a meaningful conversation with me unlike men do.
 
Tony Ramirez said:
No I am not turning asexual but I am finding women I use to be attractive to now making me sick to my stomach just being around because of being treated like a leopard and being ostracized.
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This is an extremely positive step -- realizing that certain people aren't worth our time. If somebody disrespects you, there's a good reason to avoid interacting with them.

It sounds like you've set some ground-rules, so you're getting closer to realizing what qualities you actually like in others, which is a huge step toward finding a partner, if that ever becomes desirable again. Simply casting a wide net for "the next woman available" is a recipe for disaster; realizing that you want somebody who actually respects you is a huge +1 to your self-esteem and will almost certainly guarantee better relationships in the future.

Personally? I don't really believe men and women can "just be friends", but that's just me. Cordially and formally, sure -- but close friends are better suited in a 'this isn't based on biology or desire' kind of fashion.
 
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