I can't let go of wanting a girlfriend

[Markness]

Try it.


What would be fun to do?

I don’t really know.

 

[Markness]

Mission accomplished?

I don’t understand the context of your post.

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

Liking animals got me bullied and considered boring instead of liked. Volunteering, in my experience, has never lead to making even friends.

Having a cat has never lead to a date nor did having a French bulldog puppy that’s no longer around.

I can’t start a reading group at the library even if I wanted to. There are already book clubs that cater to certain demographics so there is no room for more and I’ve honestly lost my passion for reading.

Why all the excuses to do nothing? Why not put that energy into things you can do to get involved with life?

 

[Markness]

Why all the excuses to do nothing? Why not put that energy into things you can do to get involved with life?

I honestly just don’t know how to do so.

 

[tree]

I don’t really know.

Give it some time.

You may think of something that you might enjoy.

Surely there are activities which you could pursue that
aren't all composed of pain, hate, fear, humiliation, or
boredom.

 

[Markness]

I can stop thinking about how I don’t have a partner and I wish people here didn’t dislike me.

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

I honestly just don’t know how to do so.

i have told you how I started getting involved in outdoor activities. Soon I was leading trips and getting known for making good group meals on river trips where we would camp out. Where I am now, things started as I got to know people for various things. Soon I found myself on the Planning Commission and as Election Chair for my township. Who suggested that you get involved with the local animal shelter? They are always looking for people to help. A friend of mine is helping out locally and he is having a great time. Do that and you will be appreciated for the work you put in. What about local historical societies or places. Here, like at the Point Betsie lighthouse, people volunteer to help with visitors. At the Sleeping Bear dunes National Lakeshore I volunteer as a trail ambassador, biking on the bicycle trail to help people . . . and I have coupons that I give out for ice cream to children wearing their helmets properly. I do a section of trail with a hill that has a 13% grade where I offer encouragement and tips for people unfamiliar with the gears on their rental bikes.

You have got to move before you stagnate.

 

[Markness]

i have told you how I started getting involved in outdoor activities. Soon I was leading trips and getting known for making good group meals on river trips where we would camp out. Where I am now, things started as I got to know people for various things. Soon I found myself on the Planning Commission and as Election Chair for my township. Who suggested that you get involved with the local animal shelter? They are always looking for people to help. A friend of mine is helping out locally and he is having a great time. Do that and you will be appreciated for the work you put in. What about local historical societies or places. Here, like at the Point Betsie lighthouse, people volunteer to help with visitors. At the Sleeping Bear dunes National Lakeshore I volunteer as a trail ambassador, biking on the bicycle trail to help people . . . and I have coupons that I give out for ice cream to children wearing their helmets properly. I do a section of trail with a hill that has a 13% grade where I offer encouragement and tips for people unfamiliar with the gears on their rental bikes.

You have got to move before you stagnate.

A lot of what I wanted to do with my life is not readily accessible to me.

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

I can stop thinking about how I don’t have a partner and I wish people here didn’t dislike me.

If you keep on saying that I will continue to ask you "What are you doing to prepare yourself for a partner?"

A lot of what I wanted to do with my life is not readily accessible to me.

So, what are you doing to make your goals accessible?What if you find that you do not possess the skills or talent for your goals? Are you judging yourself too harshley?

 

[Aspychata]

Find something that you want to be involved with. And thank you for having the courage to ask. We have to put ourselves out there which is hard and uncomfortable. But the payoff is so worthwhile. So you may need to put yourself out there to get the prize you seek.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

The real purpose of life is to be happy, do not lose sight of this. my uncle a dairy farmer was content with his life. 38 years old, lived alone as a bachelor, liked to have a good time would go to social event he liked to play spoons something he picked up in the old country. a woman who had went through a series of failed marriages. saw this weird guy she was a city girl just opening her view of life wanted to try something different, she meet this strange guy at this social event. outside her comfort zone. they started dating got married both died 3 years ago he at 98 a she at 97 a few months latter, they had a fifty year marriage.

Look for happiness first, the rest will take care of itself. you sound like one of my wife's close friend's, single with no girlfriend breaths through a oxygen tank, has one leg many health issues now 68 years old, still works plus he still lives in a basement apartment, cannot really leave due to being tied to the oxygen. His woe on me attitude really bug's my wife , they become friends before she meet me. this could be your future. His social life is his job.

He is always holding himself back. scared to spend money. We had a back yard barbeque a few weeks ago. he did not come because he could not get a ride. To him the glass is always half empty not half full. The only thing holding him back is himself, We are both approaching the next inflection point on my statistical life graph, I had my stroke on the previous infection point. Keep in mind there are no do overs.

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

The real purpose of life is to be happy, do not lose sight of this. my uncle a dairy farmer was content with his life. 38 years old, lived alone as a bachelor, liked to have a good time would go to social event he liked to play spoons something he picked up in the old country. a woman who had went through a series of failed marriages. saw this weird guy she was a city girl just opening her view of life wanted to try something different, she meet this strange guy at this social event. outside her comfort zone. they started dating got married both died 3 years ago he at 98 a she at 97 a few months latter, they had a fifty year marriage.

Look for happiness first, the rest will take care of itself. you sound like one of my wife's close friend's, single with no girlfriend breaths through a oxygen tank, has one leg many health issues now 68 years old, still works plus he still lives in a basement apartment, cannot really leave due to being tied to the oxygen. His woe on me attitude really bug's my wife , they become friends before she meet me. this could be your future. His social life is his job.

He is always holding himself back. scared to spend money. We had a back yard barbeque a few weeks ago. he did not come because he could not get a ride. To him the glass is always half empty not half full. The only thing holding him back is himself, We are both approaching the next inflection point on my statistical life graph, I had my stroke on the previous infection point. Keep in mind there are no do overs.

Very nice. While I am probably past my sell-by date, I will remain optomistic towards my relationships with people. This morning spent it cycling around Arcadia Marsh with a lovely detour to Lake Michigan, enjoying the company of the group I was with. Then stopped at the Port City Smokehouse for some fresh Lake Perch for dinner tonight and a bit of smoked Lake Trout that I will use with Penne in a light Tomato sauce. Life is good.

More to the point. While I cannot control the trajectory of our health as we age, should the worst happen and I lose my spouse, I hope I will have the courage to continue to live a good life and perhaps have a companion.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

MY point is you cannot force or will things to happen, when you stop looking and relax things will start to happen naturally. My uncle had given up years ago about finding a companion, he had his farm and the life style that went with it. She had a started a family, was not compatible with a few guys she had married. Gave it one more shot she was doing pretty good successful as a business person doing well. Hit a home run when she meet my uncle Freak (Fred). their marriage lasted for 50 years.

For those not must be milked familiar with dairy farming, cows must be milked twice a day. every 12 hours, no day off, no vacations. that was the life style, my new aunt walked into.

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

MY point is you cannot force or will things to happen, when you stop looking and relax things will start to happen naturally. My uncle had given up years ago about finding a companion, he had his farm and the life style that went with it. She had a started a family, was not compatible with a few guys she had married. Gave it one more shot she was doing pretty good successful as a business person doing well. Hit a home run when she meet my uncle Freak (Fred). their marriage lasted for 50 years.

For those not must be milked familiar with dairy farming, cows must be milked twice a day. every 12 hours, no day off, no vacations. that was the life style, my new aunt walked into.

Dairy farmers know the meaning of work, and their product needs to get to the co-op with good quality. That is why I enjoyed bicycling Wisconsin's back roads. They were well maintained to facilitate farm to co-op hauling. Best road touring in the Midwest, especially in "The Driftless Area" where you will find the first rail-trail that goes through 3 tunnels, "The Sparta, Elroy."

 

[Markness]

If you keep on saying that I will continue to ask you "What are you doing to prepare yourself for a partner?"

So, what are you doing to make your goals accessible?What if you find that you do not possess the skills or talent for your goals? Are you judging yourself too harshley?

I feel like a failure when I realize I don’t have the abilities as well as when I don’t acquire them despite practicing for them. It makes me want to commit suicide quite often.

I’ve attempted things like going to social places in Austin and seeking out a matchmaking service (Which I paid $100 something dollars for but it went nowhere.)

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

Dairy farmers know the meaning of work, and their product needs to get to the co-op with good quality. That is why I enjoyed bicycling Wisconsin's back roads. They were well maintained to facilitate farm to co-op hauling. Best road touring in the Midwest, especially in "The Driftless Area" where you will find the first rail-trail that goes through 3 tunnels, "The Sparta, Elroy."

funny cows are not clean animal, unlike pigs, udders cover in manure, when they lay down the nipples or teats are just wiped with a cloth soaked in disinfectant. thank God they pasteurize the milk

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

Start doing stuff you enjoy, let those around you know you are enjoying yourself. the women who enjoy the same activity will take notice, and then they will notice you, which leads to them wanting to share the activity with you.
I guess at a farm dance my uncle jumping on stage playing spoons with the band got him noticed by this laid back city girl, who decided to try some thing outside her comfort zone. Found the one single guy not part of a couple.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

When I meet my wife it did not take long she loved dancing, I really liked rock and roll music. which is natural dance music, hence the name. I like dancing but being single did not get much chance to practice. my first date was take her to a bar where my cousin was playing knowing he played rock and roll cover music He noticed us made her feel real comfortable, after all he was a former tenant of my rooming house. she had taken over his former room. believe me she likes to dance. the band noticed, Eddy being drummer and singer, even changed some of the lyrics ad hock to draw attention to her. That was our first date, my biggest issue was keeping up with her.

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

Start doing stuff you enjoy, let those around you know you are enjoying yourself. the women who enjoy the same activity will take notice, and then they will notice you, which leads to them wanting to share the activity with you.

EXACTLY!!! Y'all have heard my tale of calling and meeting my future spouse. She fell for my delight in the Natural world and skill at backpacking, and we have been having adventures since.

She draws the line at fossil collecting and driving the MR2, which I have all to myself.

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

funny cows are not clean animal, unlike pigs, udders cover in manure, when they lay down the nipples or teats are just wiped with a cloth soaked in disinfectant. thank God they pasteurize the milk

Have you seen a modern milking shed with a thorough cleaning station before they are allowed in the stalls that reads their tag and logs data about the cow and her milk? Sanitary pipe and hose fittings is big business in Wisconsin too, to keep the milk safe.