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I connect with socially awkward girl's.

Tony Ramirez

Tony Ramirez

Single Aspie with perceived rejection
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Really the ones who are socially awkward and like to dye their hair and/or stuff and just weird is funny cuz they like many of the same things I like I just like connect with them, I never thought I would, but I just do is that strange.

And to be brutally honest I actually like them better, and I find them more attractive but in a Platonic friendly way.
 
Amazing ... good ... good job

Because good people attract good people. Bad people i.e. Impatient people attract eachother.

It has to do with experience. It has to do with patience.
 
Tony Ramirez said:
Really the ones who are socially awkward and like to dye their hair and/or stuff and just weird is funny cuz they like many of the same things I like I just like connect with them, I never thought I would, but I just do is that strange.

And to be brutally honest I actually like them better, and I find them more attractive but in a Platonic friendly way.
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Neurodivergence attracting neurodivergence. It is a "thing".
 
Maybe we connect with those that we are similar with. Socially awkward happens more than we realize. Just being confident is a big step. To trust your judgment, not let others affect your thinking.
 
It is definitely a completely different world of life and emotions when both people can acknowledge, admit and feel comfortable making mistakes, rather than instant fear, instant feelings of rejection or instantly wanting to collapse into yourself and/or hide away.

I'll keep saying it - everything that makes us our best selves is when we have trust and comfort.
 
I'm glad you've finally cracked the nut, and understood how system represents life differently and knowing difference.
If seek companion in a woman accepting her looks, quirks and less perfect smile you will probably be happier in the long run, with genuine person.
 
Great going, Tony. When I met the woman who is now my spouse I was attracted to her because she is basically shy and introverted like me. And since then, I have been seeing how the shy women certainly are more accepting and enjoy guys who are different. As you start out with a platonic friendship, I hope that you will encounter just how safe with them women like that will make you feel. When that happened with me, I went way out of my comfort zone to express my interest in her, and while my mind panicked, thinking that I ruined our friendship, she kindly quelled my anxiety and our deeper relationship began. Friendship, acceptance, kindness that develops into love, is something I hope you experience
 
velociraptor said:
That was unkind. Tony has been working hard, has had some successes, and deserves to have them acknowledged and celebrated. To @Tony Ramirez I married a socially awkward girl almost a quarter century ago. We've had some fun adventures and a wonderful daughter together. Best decision of my life.
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i know i'm in good company for this, but socially-awkward/socially inept women typically end up in relationships a lot more than socially awkward/socially-inept men do.

Yes well i said that because, Tony has admitted several times in which he feels he should accept that it will never happen for him. I'm starting to feel that way myself because my last relationship felt like we were just friends instead.
 
I think there are many single women who have never been married or in a serious relationship because quite a lot of men are simply looking for something else with as many women as they can meet, as one guy simply said that he wanted to be with as many women as he could until he lost his looks and was forced to get married.
 
Aspychata said:
I think there are many single women who have never been married or in a serious relationship because quite a lot of men are simply looking for something else with as many women as they can meet, as one guy simply said that he wanted to be with as many women as he could until he lost his looks and was forced to get married.
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@Aspychata , that is a sad commentary about men. I could not act that way, firstly because at the time I thought I was undesirable, but mainly because my thought was that I would want to get to know any woman well. That, in part, was because I wanted to be good enough that a woman I was interested in would want to stay around to get to know me. That worked with my spouse.
 
Yeah, I never understood wanting the utmost intimacy with a woman, but that it would just be all for my benefit. That feels so "under my skin" bad. The ick. It's also something that should be properly, respectfully earned and never once expected (or for a person to feel entitled to).
 
Aspychata said:
I think there are many single women who have never been married or in a serious relationship because quite a lot of men are simply looking for something else with as many women as they can meet, as one guy simply said that he wanted to be with as many women as he could until he lost his looks and was forced to get married.
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Woman in first ever relationship at 42 reveals how it lived up to her dream

I think i have posted about this woman, she has a presence on tiktok, but her case is a reminder of something you would never expect to happen to a woman, last thing you would expect.
 
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