Grumpy Cat
Well-Known Member
True I did and do make the effort to blend in, and most NT's do see that effort and ajudge me "normal," or, more accurately (since my efforts are imperfect), they see my as a quirky/odd NT (I've never been able to get all the way there with my efforts).
However, my issue is with those whom I have told, and I have largely only told those who knew me well enough to know the act was an act. These are the friends and family who always knew there was something different from me and should have learned not to expect "normal" from me even before they knew what specifically was different about me.
Actually, the 3 people I've told at work (just 3), who only knew the "normal act" I put on have done the best at remembering and accepting it. This is strange, since these are the ones were were "surprised" by my Dx. The ones with who I have the most problems are the ones to whom this came as little surprise.
Maybe these people think that now since there is a reason for your actions (an actual diagnosis) then maybe there's a chance for a "cure". Theres actually something found wrong with you so now fix it. You've already proven that you can act halfway like an NT, maybe if they try to "look the other way" and forget about your new diagnosis they can then hopefully change you to full NT status. If they accept the new diagnosis, then a "new you" follows too should you want to just act yourself and they will have to "learn" a new way of living with you. They may also be thinking you are using the new diagnosis as an excuse for your past behaviors.
I'm rambling.