Is it just me.

[Au Naturel]

The censorship and double standards on social media sites are absurd. They ban innocent people but didn't ban people who goes against the guidelines.

I wanted to abandon Instagram but unfortunately, my university clubs and my friends use Instagram to communicate.

Many people approve of the censorship, most don't care, and double standards are often more profitable. That's why it may tick some people off but there isn't enough pressure to make them change their ways. Competitors can't get much traction. Who you are matters in social media. It has always boiled down to a heckler's veto on some things and a popularity contest for others.

Since FB is a business, it is not impacted by free speech requirements.

 

[NB79]

I don't understand the people who put pictures etc of all their private lives for all to see.
I got annoyed the other time because someone shared a photo with me on it in a birthday or something lol.

 

[Au Naturel]

Sometimes, it is deliberate bragging, and sometimes, they just want to share what's going on in their lives. I only use FB for family and close friends and I don't have many of those.

The cultural (and legal) default is that, in most cases, there is no need to ask permission to take and distribute any honest photo taken in a public place. (A whole different set of laws cover professional modeling.) It might be inconsiderate if you asked not to be in a photo, and you were anyhow, but it is still something you have minimal practical control over.

If you didn't ask, the cultural default will be assumed. The question remains as to why it annoyed you.

 

[Misty Avich]

Nah, Facebook has caused very little problems for me (some, but not enough to lose sleep over). Internet forums, however, have caused me nothing but grief in the past 2-3 years and I've never been so down on myself in all my life. I worry that deep down I'm a narcissistic psychopath and being on internet forums has brought that out in me and that offline I'm just fake and manipulative. It really frightens me and I keep ruminating, obsessing, questioning myself and needing reassurance from others that I'm okay because I can't believe it on my own. But then that's called attention-seeking which is also bad, so really I've just got to deal with it silently on my own. I wish I had never got involved with internet forums in the first place. Silly me.

I don't have any of this drama on Facebook. That's the only social media platform I use, other than internet forums. But I think my 14 years of being a member on forums is drawing to an end because I just can't cope with other people's crap any more. There are too many people on these forums who hate me and won't see reason, not only they hate me but they love "getting me back" and it's getting quite scary if law could get involved. I know I haven't done anything illegal online but try telling my haters that. I might as well have committed murder according to them.

 

[NB79]

Sometimes, it is deliberate bragging, and sometimes, they just want to share what's going on in their lives. I only use FB for family and close friends and I don't have many of those.

The cultural (and legal) default is that, in most cases, there is no need to ask permission to take and distribute any honest photo taken in a public place. (A whole different set of laws cover professional modeling.) It might be inconsiderate if you asked not to be in a photo, and you were anyhow, but it is still something you have minimal practical control over.

If you didn't ask, the cultural default will be assumed. The question remains as to why it annoyed you.

Maybe it annoys me because i am 'shy' and i don't want anyone to see me, or i think nobody needs to know what i am doing in my private life.

 

[Au Naturel]

Maybe it annoys me because i am 'shy' and i don't want anyone to see me, or i think nobody needs to know what i am doing in my private life.

Here's the thing. You are free to be annoyed. If you wish to avoid being annoyed, you'll have to studiously avoid any situation where a smartphone or camera might be involved. Or never do anything in public you don't want broadcast on CNN.

The remaining option is to work on not being annoyed.

 

[MNAus]

The biggest problem I have with social media is what it does to my kids' mental health, the girls in particular. It destroys their confidence, encourages them to identify with categories rather than remaining open minded about themselves and basically amplifies the challenges of being a teen by a thousand.

 

[NB79]

Here's the thing. You are free to be annoyed. If you wish to avoid being annoyed, you'll have to studiously avoid any situation where a smartphone or camera might be involved. Or never do anything in public you don't want broadcast on CNN.

The remaining option is to work on not being annoyed.

.... It was not the big deal anyway, it 'annoys' me a bit, not that affects me much.

 

[XEmoCatX]

Many people approve of the censorship, most don't care, and double standards are often more profitable. That's why it may tick some people off but there isn't enough pressure to make them change their ways. Competitors can't get much traction. Who you are matters in social media. It has always boiled down to a heckler's veto on some things and a popularity contest for others.

Since FB is a business, it is not impacted by free speech requirements.

The thing is that social media companies and YouTube relies on AI a lot which cause many problems for users, if they hire more people then it would be fine.

 

[XEmoCatX]

I've tried posting to Reddit and gotten shouted down immediately. It's not welcoming at all unless you're already an expert in whatever you want to talk about, and you're already flagged as an experienced user on the site.

Bruh Redditors downvote people for no reason, the downvote button was created to downvote trolls/spammers/bots but these stupid reddit mfs use it for stupid/no reasons. There's accounts/subreddits that went against the guidelines and they didn't get removed but they ban subreddits for dark humour. They banned 2Balkan4u subreddit for a nationalist joke (ppl on this subreddit even said they were joking around, they are poking fun at nationalists) but incest subreddits stays (they get quarantined instead).

 

[stevens]

Bruh Redditors downvote people for no reason, the downvote button was created to downvote trolls/spammers/bots but these stupid reddit mfs use it for stupid/no reasons. There's accounts/subreddits that went against the guidelines and they didn't get removed but they ban subreddits for dark humour. They banned 2Balkan4u subreddit for a nationalist joke (ppl on this subreddit even said they were joking around, they are poking fun at nationalists) but incest subreddits stays (they get quarantined instead).

I've had a Reddit account for years, but for some reason every once in awhile I decide to re-engage. It's always a mistake. I thought Reddit might be different from other social media, which I avoid because of unpleasant results every time. Reddit just completed an Initial Public Offering (IPO), so now it has all the Wall Street incentives to make the site just like all the others. The one thing that kept bringing me back that will ruined immediately is that some subreddits on certain topics (for example, woodworking) are a trove of useful information. With the IPO this will devolve into a facebook-style level of nothingness in short order.

One thing I've noticed lately is that apparently the AI industry is using artificial (fake) accounts to "train" its AI platforms using reddit, because there are thousands of accounts with no past presence on the site asking various subreddits all kinds of questions. It interests me that people seem to take these questions seriously. Yet it is a tech-driven form of trolling of the highest order, even when the questions don't seem to be intended to vex or annoy. I've gotten to the point where I check the account age and "karma" before even reading them.

Also, being an expert on reddit is no assurance of acceptance of being taken seriously. I've attempted to engage on a couple of topics that I spent over 25 years working with and with which I've developed an advance expertise, only to be called an idiot for what I had to say. This is just simply a feature of autism for us, which follows the rule that it doesn't matter what is said--it matters who says it and in every instance on those mainline social media platforms, I definitely am the wrong person to be saying anything. Social media is a great way for autistic people to develop higher levels of self-loathing, that is for sure.

 

[XEmoCatX]

Also, being an expert on reddit is no assurance of acceptance of being taken seriously. I've attempted to engage on a couple of topics that I spent over 25 years working with and with which I've developed an advance expertise, only to be called an idiot for what I had to say. This is just simply a feature of autism for us, which follows the rule that it doesn't matter what is said--it matters who says it and in every instance on those mainline social media platforms, I definitely am the wrong person to be saying anything. Social media is a great way for autistic people to develop higher levels of self-loathing, that is for sure.

I remember I used to have 6 upvotes on my fanart of the main characters from Tales of Zestiria on r/tales. But when I check my post later, I got 2 upvotes now, idk why they downvoted it. All I did is just draw main characters in Yugoslav soldier uniform that's it. My friends and people on r/drawing like my fanart. Also idk how I feel about the comments on my post. This is the post:

https://www.reddit.com/r/tales/comments/1aux4bs/sorey_and_mikleo_as_90s_yugoslav_soldiers

I sometimes question myself why I thought it's a good idea to post this

 

[MNAus]

Also, being an expert on reddit is no assurance of acceptance of being taken seriously. I've attempted to engage on a couple of topics that I spent over 25 years working with and with which I've developed an advance expertise, only to be called an idiot for what I had to say. This is just simply a feature of autism for us, which follows the rule that it doesn't matter what is said--it matters who says it and in every instance on those mainline social media platforms, I definitely am the wrong person to be saying anything. Social media is a great way for autistic people to develop higher levels of self-loathing, that is for sure.

Hahaha, yeah. I frequent a board that's highly related to my career. A career of more than 25 years. I still get called an idiot who doesn't know what he's talking about by the kids on there. More disturbing is that it's happening IRL too. I was at an event the other evening and a person who, somehow, had gotten to a senior level in another profession had decided to move into my profession. And what he was saying was wrong. There were people asking him question and his answers were demonstrably wrong. I sent a little note to correct him (rather than humiliate him in front of everyone)...... and he talked down to me like I was 5 or something. SMH. I was gobsmacked.

 

[AuAL]

Most people consider forums to be a variety of social media. (hides under table)

The difference with forums (I was active in several back in the day of Usenet News) is that YOU choose what you will look at. There is no algorithm pushing content to you. I have a LinkedIn profile, because it was the expected thing in my profession, and have sought out this forum to try to understand this new discovery of who I am. I have nothing to do with any other of the modern phenomena of “social media”, which I think are listed in the dictionary as ontological examples under the definition of “oxymoron”.

 

[stevens]

More disturbing is that it's happening IRL too.

This has been a problem for me too. Fortunately I have a few special interests that I'm not quite as expert at to fall back on. They're more solitary, although one is associated with a small-to-medium-size professional organization that I'm a member of. The interest that I left behind when I retired is something I can't really do, as I can't afford the industrial infrastructure to participate. I successfully worked as a consultant after retiring (short, focused engagements are great for autistic people), until the pandemic pretty much ended that. But the real disappointing thing for me was how my former colleagues basically hit the cancel button on me after I retired. it's not that I didn't have a lot of positive peer review over the years, mainly through professional organizations, but still. There are two people who worked for my former employer I still keep contact with. They're both former patrons in management who used my problem solving capabilities on a regular basis.

It's not that my former coworkers and professional colleagues thought I was incompetent. I just think that the "weird" overrode all else. It almost always does. Autistic people often feel that facts and figures and actual examples control the perception of things. Non-autistic people are much more likely to shoot the messenger when they don't like the person.