It's starting again trauma dumping danger with new yoga teacher.

[Tony Ramirez]

I don't know about your church's rules, but a lot of religious people frown on two opposite-sex people not in a relationship hanging out alone, even in public places. It's a very common idea among churches and Christians in general. My husband is a deacon and one of the rules is that he isn't allowed to be with any other woman alone.

I'm personally more flexible on this because I work in a male-dominated field, but beware you might be running into this "unspoken rule."

Thanks. Did not realize that. I bet you many that do hang out guy and girl are not believers or anything and might even be friends with benefits or stuff .

I think even with this new church it's all about growing with groups of mixed genders and relationships. Single and married. That's how it was at game night. I am always fine with hanging with a mixed group even though as you know I prefer it to be more females than males.

 

[Tony Ramirez]

What an idiot I am. @jsilver256 you are so right Madison is still a good friend but by me trying to make her into a casual close friend I was pushing her away, that's why she was kind of avoiding me at church but of course still messaging me in person.

This article explains everything.
https://applygodsword.com/can-single-christian-guys-and-girls-really-be-just-friends/
I think it is the best thing that I am at another church now so I can still occasionally message her in moderation more positive things but no longer obsession about meeting her on Sunday. Then eventually with my other couple friend we can all go out and eat out together, talk and catch up.

 

[jsilver256]

I didn't realize you didn't know this Tony. I could have told you much sooner!

Yes, mixed-group gatherings are usually the way churches encourage interaction between opposite sexes.

 

[Tony Ramirez]

I didn't realize you didn't know this Tony. I could have told you much sooner!

Yes, mixed-group gatherings are usually the way churches encourage interaction between opposite sexes.

As I said I might be older but I am a newbie when it comes to this as most of my life I had little social interaction with women and it was mostly not positive ostracized you know.