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Letting go of the past, being stuck in the past and moving forward

Jumpback

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I am having extreme issues with could have/should have beens related to exactly one subject. I do not want to mention the subject right now, but I can endlessly see my life being completely different and far, far better, over and over and over again if it wasn’t for this one issue.

And I have no confusion that I am right and I just got screwed, but the thing is that I am just continuing making my present worse as a result of being stuck in the past and as a result of my anger about the past

And psych help is not an option, psychs are a high percentage of the cause of the issue due to dominance of one belief system in relation to this issue

I’m just wondering if letting go of the past and moving forward is an ASD issue and maybe asking for suggestions on how to move on

I am endlessly stuck in should have been frustrations and this leads to endless anger and smoking and drinking and other self destructive things to deal with anger since I don’t actually do anything except hurt myself by being stuck with should have been questions and and anger and frustrations

I am not sure what to do, I want all of the past to disappear, but I am by myself all the time and all there are are thoughts of things that could have easily have been of people weren’t lazy, politically motivated, jackasses. Or that people just so blindly accepted dominate social messages so absurdly as to always find me at fault and punish me or judge me for things I was not only not guilty of, but was a victim of for being tolerant
 
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Like I have no confusion that I got screwed

But then there were people born in 1920 who got their legs shot of in WWII who spent their lives being angry and drunk, and there were people who accepted their fates of having their legs shot off for being born at the wrong time with positivity and maintained a focus on the future and looked to new possibilities

Like, what is the secret? And, again, getting professional psych help is a large percentage of the cause of this issue since my realities upset their social belief systems and political alliances, so they just accused me and diagnosed me for being inconvenient to them, rather than actually being supportive that crimes were just crimes and moved on to real issues such as ADHD and teenage trauma and ASD issues....like others behaved badly including committing crimes, meant that something about me must be at fault, and that is the end because professionals surmised sexual assaults were really about issues with the victim

Again, I have zero confusion that I got screwed, but how to let go and move on and not continually make things worse is what I can’t escape from
 
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Letting go is a human problem. Whole countries are locked in conflict because they can't let go of things that happened so long ago no living person has any direct memory of it. My wife won't let things go. Neither will my son. It is like they have internalized the anger and it is a part of them. Losing the anger is like losing a part of them. For some reason, they think letting go of the past invalidates their reaction to a bad event and allows the person who offended them to get away with it.

Of course, it is nonsense. Bitterness is a poison you swallow hoping to poison another person. The truth is that nothing you do can change the past. All fuming about it does is to ruin the present. You already took the hit and now it is time to move on. You can remember what happened without passion. Maybe eventually learn to forgive.

I had to do that about my parents and the kids who bullied me and the girls who laughed at me and every time someone stabbed me in the back at work and every time I tried and fell flat on my face because the boss went with his drinking buddy over me. If it weren't all water under the bridge I'd be a basket case. OTOH, I just accept my ASD-1 as how things are and go from there. No point in being angry about it.

Anger that is more than a flash in the pan can turn to obsession and even hate and neither one is useful in life.

Let me suggest you look into Zen Buddhism. You don't need to get into any kind of mystical stuff. The philosophy and principles are what is important. There are Zen instructors all over the place, some of them are good and lot of them are just mantras and incense and yoga.

An alternate philosophy is that of Stoicism. It isn't about being hard and tough. It is about learning to accept loss and change with equanimity. It would be more difficult to find an instructor in Stoicism than one for Zen though.

If you were interested in therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy focusing on Radical Acceptance is what I'd recommend. But therapy isn't an option, I guess.

Fortunately Zen and Stoicism - and even Radical Acceptance - are things you can work on by yourself if it is important. Plenty of online and hard copy resources out there.
 
Someone once nailed a phrase to describe what you've written and called it "Rusting"

That slow, corrosive process that eats away the sound or good layers until all that's visible is the rust.

Unless one does something about it.

Letting go without witnessing justice, or some being held accountable for their actions is a tough call.
It can create helplessness, frustration, disappointment and anger.

It's on us to make the choice to let go.
Nobody can do it for us.
Each time we relive the trauma and assign blame we receive a natural chemical hit to flood our system over and over and over and over again until it becomes a habitual response.

I was led to believe that changing my thought process would change my endocrine response thus my behaviour/reaction/choices.

My past helped shape who I am today.
I can't change my past but can use it to learn. Adapt. Move forward.

Any choices and decisions I make from this very second in time, at this age and stage is on me.
I can't blame anyone else for it.

I hope you find the answers you're looking for :)
 
@Jumpback I really feel for you and I understand in that I too have been stuck before and found it hard to move forward. In my case what helped was a combination of a practical matter and therapy. I can't advise re your exact situation but I had been living in a place close to people who had treated me very badly. I was unable to move for a long time. But then eventually I got my chance, I moved away. That was the practical thing that gave me a kick start towards mentally being able to move on. To be clear though moving away didn't just 'fix' everything. It just gave me a little jump start. So I'm just wondering whether there is anything in your life, something positive you could do, that might give you a jump start on it, too?

Then, after the move, with the help of a therapist (a good one - not all are good) I was able to make further improvements to my mindset. You mention psychs but I'm not sure if you mean psychologists or psychiatrists? At any rate - there are other options. Counsellors maybe. It just depends on finding the right person. For me it took quite a while of working away at my problem because over years I had developed unhelpful patterns of thinking. It was worth it.

@Gracey & @Au Naturel also made some great points! I really wish you the best.
 
Letting go is a human problem. Whole countries are locked in conflict because they can't let go of things that happened so long ago no living person has any direct memory of it. My wife won't let things go. Neither will my son. It is like they have internalized the anger and it is a part of them. Losing the anger is like losing a part of them. For some reason, they think letting go of the past invalidates their reaction to a bad event and allows the person who offended them to get away with it.

Yeah, it’s basically exactly this, I seem to be the only one who truly cares about what I have lost to absolute nonsense because bad behavior committed by others was creatively blamed on me and have no society behind me, so if I let go, it’s like my losses mean nothing to nobody and others who were not nice to me win, and this includes all kinds of authority figures

So it’s like if I let go all the wrongs committed against me are just forgotten
 
Of course, it is nonsense. Bitterness is a poison you swallow hoping to poison another person. The truth is that nothing you do can change the past. All fuming about it does is to ruin the present. You already took the hit and now it is time to move on. You can remember what happened without passion. Maybe eventually learn to forgive.

I had to do that about my parents and the kids who bullied me and the girls who laughed at me and every time someone stabbed me in the back at work and every time I tried and fell flat on my face because the boss went with his drinking buddy over me. If it weren't all water under the bridge I'd be a basket case. OTOH, I just accept my ASD-1 as how things are and go from there. No point in being angry about it.

Anger that is more than a flash in the pan can turn to obsession and even hate and neither one is useful in life.

Yeah, but these issues are in the past for you, and bullying is in the past for me as well

But sexual assault/manipulation issues have never ended for me and still affect every second of everything.

Like straight through from when sexual assault by a couple was inconvenient to setting up my entire life around guy who felt he was “made gay” resulting i me being homeless and losing my business a few years ago, but I cannot explain to ex-girkfriends family and friends who didn’t know me but found my explanations of gay males repeatedly misbehaving as somewhere between impossible and dangerous hate that makes me a threat to my ex-girlfriend

So, fighting for years to get adhd medication due to how upsetting I continually was to others, solving probable ASD completely on my own, and on and on and on

Misbehavior of others means something between me being somehow at fault for sexual assaults due to repressed things or me being flawed for sexual assaults due to beLeif’s of others and me being up to something due to political power of one side by apparently other observers like ex-girlfriends family, and this also resulting in being cut off from actual help, to how dangerous I am to repressed minorities and others.

If it was as simple as something that happened in the past, but it’s an issue that is always present, always increasing the difficulty level of everything, always affecting every single thing, from when I was 21 through right now
 
@Jumpback I really feel for you and I understand in that I too have been stuck before and found it hard to move forward. In my case what helped was a combination of a practical matter and therapy. I can't advise re your exact situation but I had been living in a place close to people who had treated me very badly. I was unable to move for a long time. But then eventually I got my chance, I moved away. That was the practical thing that gave me a kick start towards mentally being able to move on. To be clear though moving away didn't just 'fix' everything. It just gave me a little jump start. So I'm just wondering whether there is anything in your life, something positive you could do, that might give you a jump start on it, too?

Then, after the move, with the help of a therapist (a good one - not all are good) I was able to make further improvements to my mindset. You mention psychs but I'm not sure if you mean psychologists or psychiatrists? At any rate - there are other options. Counsellors maybe. It just depends on finding the right person. For me it took quite a while of working away at my problem because over years I had developed unhelpful patterns of thinking. It was worth it.

@Gracey & @Au Naturel also made some great points! I really wish you the best.

The issue is that my issue is political without me trying to make it political. My sister is a therapist who seems to specialize in advocacy for transgenders and who is very liberal

But my issues entirely involve openly gay couples and gay men and other men who feel like they have been “made gay” misbehaving

Even my sister finds creative ways to blame me. She and most of the psychology profession find ways to blame me for misbehavior of others and then, even worse, cut me from help for things I actually need help with.

Like I was just beyond very clueless and already troubled and am simply trying to be nice to gay men and get sucked endlessly into things, but it’s the wrong place and time, so I feel like my entire adult life is a giant sacrifice to gay rights

But it’s ridiculous, crimes committed against me and manipulations are repeatedly so obvious, but people never grasp that I am just clueless autistic who was beyond clueless even in country and trying to be liberal sucked me into gay male world that I did not understand, much less grasp the politics of

Like women get upset about sexual assaults and manipulations and they are just being upset, but for me, there must be some secret reasons and judgements made by the majority in power assume the fault must be with me. But the majority in power in psych, especially in most liberal location, just does not bother to attempt to understand but assumes things, making attempting psych help consistantly making things worse
 
One can see the issue, if I go to other sites I tried, I get punished for being upset instead about crimes and wrongs instead of being supported. And it’s the same all over the place, from online boards to psychs to assumptions made by outside observers, and these things never seem to end

Here I end up being annoying and assumed to be political and get cut off , other places I get punished for hate for trying to stand up for myself and why I am just a victim of others misbehavior

I feel like I have the one single issue which is more upsetting to political belief systems than any other issue might be.......it’s not about me s much as it is me being afraid to let my guard down and needing to fight against everyone, because it seems like everyone will always find a way to accuse or blame me for crimes and wrongs committed against me and others cutting me off from basic help like adhd and ASD due to their political assumptions

Why this is so different from any other issue is all
 
Anger that is more than a flash in the pan can turn to obsession and even hate and neither one is useful in life.

Let me suggest you look into Zen Buddhism. You don't need to get into any kind of mystical stuff. The philosophy and principles are what is important. There are Zen instructors all over the place, some of them are good and lot of them are just mantras and incense and yoga.

An alternate philosophy is that of Stoicism. It isn't about being hard and tough. It is about learning to accept loss and change with equanimity. It would be more difficult to find an instructor in Stoicism than one for Zen though.

If you were interested in therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy focusing on Radical Acceptance is what I'd recommend. But therapy isn't an option, I guess.

Fortunately Zen and Stoicism - and even Radical Acceptance - are things you can work on by yourself if it is important. Plenty of online and hard copy resources out there.

Thank you for the suggestions

To be completely honest, nothing I have experienced has done anything but convince me that I have endlessly got screwed. Like I joined group therapy, this guy tried to talk about how he had got molested as a kid screwed up his head, and led him to question his sexual orientation, which caused him to become a gang banger...group therapist cut him off due to the politics of the being “made gay” thing, but this sent me and other guy into a rage. At one point all of the men in group therapy were molested or sexually assaulted and there are always homosexuality concerns (both me and one other guy were sexually assaulted by gay men, and others have no idea since they were young), plus men not being taken seriously, so all of us had to keep our mouths shut while women go on and on about how terrible men were to them very openly

But, whatever, what you say still holds true. One just has to accept their lot in life and not keep throwing bad after bad after bad after bad and getting worse predicaments and getting addicted to things and losing more things as a result of being stuck in the past. One just has to accept things and move on
 
I felt like it took a lot of bravery for black gang banger to finally open up about being molested as a kid and how this has led sexual orientation confusion, which affected everything else in his life. But group therapist shut him down for the being “made gay” comments, and he immediately quit group after this.

But this is exactly/the same issue, piled on top of lots of other gay issues I have had, that two roommates had, where I was manipulated into things and grooming in one instance and being made homeless as a consequence of the other. I do not feel anger towards these guys, I feel anger towards psych profession abandoning anyone whose realities upset gay advocacy

Women never have to deal with anything like this. They know men misbehave and they get sympathy when men misbehave...they don’t have to face endless consequences of daring to accuse men of misbehaving or for being honest about having confused sexuality as a result of things.

Just saying, everything people say is true, but the rules and realities really are totally different.
 
Here I end up being annoying and assumed to be political and get cut off

The world is very political at the moment and I also find it confusing sometimes. I'm really glad in some respects that it is, the world is changing for the better for minority groups. I love that. Where I find it confusing is when we are unable to discuss realities because that is said to be 'against' or 'not helpful' to the broader movement. Individuals can be lost and hurt among attitudes like that.

From your messages it sounds like this whole thing has left you in a place where you can't be heard, where your motivations are being misconstrued and ignored etc. It must be really hard and I'm so sorry that you're having to go through it :(

You've made some attempts to get help that have not been beneficial (or have made things worse). But if you could find even one therapist who knows the subject, the right person (the right one will allow you to speak your truth and will help you deal with your feelings and restructure your thoughts)...well, I feel like it could be really helpful for you. I really wish I could do more.
 
nable to discuss realities because that is said to be 'against' or 'not helpful' to the broader movement.
That is the very definition of political correctness, is it not? The more polarized we become the more the extremes try to dictate what is and is not acceptable to be discussed.
 
Yeah, it’s basically exactly this, I seem to be the only one who truly cares about what I have lost to absolute nonsense because bad behavior committed by others was creatively blamed on me and have no society behind me, so if I let go, it’s like my losses mean nothing to nobody and others who were not nice to me win, and this includes all kinds of authority figures

So it’s like if I let go all the wrongs committed against me are just forgotten

Those wrongs and losses wont be forgotten by you.
Even if you only use the memories of incidents as lessons to learn from.

It's bliddy awful that you had to go through what you've gone through.
Have your experiences taught you anything at all?
 
The world is very political at the moment and I also find it confusing sometimes. I'm really glad in some respects that it is, the world is changing for the better for minority groups. I love that. Where I find it confusing is when we are unable to discuss realities because that is said to be 'against' or 'not helpful' to the broader movement. Individuals can be lost and hurt among attitudes like that.

I agree that it’s good for minorities to finally have advocacy standing up for them and I am extremely sympathetic to the plight of gay men, but the issue is that I also experienced severe bullying in school and instead of violence against gays, I experienced gay men sexually assaulting and this leading to everyone creatively being against me, simply because I was completely clueless and just believed what I was told and others had one belief system.

The reality is that almost the only people who study anything gay as it relates to straights at universities are gay men themselves, including a few others who are also very motivated towards gay advocacy. They have achieved such a stranglehold on power that they are free to force out non compliance and use obviously bad research techniques such as self selection bias and simply ignoring inconvenient information, because they are just thinking about their history as beat down gay kids and they have devoted their lives to research to further gay advocacy, and I believe they rationalize their own bullying and bad research techniques and sacrificing the welfare of others who are inconvenient because they are fighting for a cause which is central to who they are. But these gay, gay advocate researchers who have grabbed complete control have absolute power to explain reality to the masses, seems to have directly affected me and others around me in endlessly negative ways, because we are just inconvenient to their cause

It’s difficult to explain, I do not blame gays for misbehaving, I do not even blame self interested gay advocates for grabbing control and bullying even victims, because I understand that they are coming from a perspective of being thoroughly harassed gay kids who were beaten down, but I do not see beating me and others down and taking away things from us such as our general sanity and help for hope as acceptable because we are inconvenient, as being fair.

Like, to me, things are a checks and balances issue and abuse of power issue and a equality and civil rights issue where one side is only interested in their own interests and can be abusive and discard the rights of others due to their power and control.

Like I have looked things up, on one porn site “straight men” is the most searched for subject, gay men sexually assaulting each other at gay clubs is far worse than sexual assaults of women at straight clubs. And I am not bad looking and was involved in bodybuilding, but the unquestionable message was that gays and especially minority gays (black, Jewish and immigrant) are incapable of being a threat to heterosexual men, but because one side has absolute power and I am autistic, I get sucked into such things because I believe things and others gang up on me because they believe things. But the things that people believe are simply not true.

It’s not that group a,b,c are evil, it’s about control and power and those being abuse and destroying the lives of others who are inconvenient not even occurring to people with power because they are only interested in their history as beat down gay kids and there is no way to question anything, including wrongs committed against me being blamed on me as an already messed up person now experiencing sexual assaults.

It’s about things like freedom of speech and freedom to disagree with those who have complete control without being punished. It has almost nothing to do with individuals directly, it’s about power and control

Like in the 1950s, gay couple sexually assaults me, and I am automatically the victim because gays=mentally troubled and likely up to something, in more recent times, gays sexually assault me=me having repressed homosexuality causing me to be around gays and hatred and delusional beliefs because the power and control cannot be questioned and so numerous sexual assaults and manipulations, caused by first sexual assault by gay couple where I actually trusted authority figures and assumed the issue was with me, leasing to more sexual assaults and more frustrations which cannot be addressed anywhere since gay advocacy has achieved complete control, which means that I am somehow repressed, have disorders, have delusions, might be a danger, and on and on and on and on and on

It’s just not about hatred of gays since I have no hatred of gays it’s a minority/majority issue because gay, gay activists make up an extreme majority in research, then psychs make up a high majority in belief systems and media and social belief systems, which tell the populace what to believe control everything, so then I and both of my roommates and guys in my group therapy must suffer the consequences of the majority gay advocates just sacrificing us for their cause

But it has nothing to do with hating gays, it just gets represented this way because control is very close to dominated by gay, gay advocates who were beat down as children. The issue is that these self righteous advocates probably first do not see the damage they are doing, then secondly any questioning will be punished as hate due to their freedom to be unfair due to their complete power and control, then thirdly actually tormenting a victim with legitimate frustrations and trauma and endlessly accusing is actually even seen as a victory agaunat hate, since absolute, complete dominance of any control over belief systems, while also tormenting questioning of the absolute majority power can be classified as hate, since only one side has any real power

Things have actually nothing to do with gay rights or even victims, they really have to do with how one side can shield itself from any criticism and torment and ruin people who dare question, because they have gained absolute power and control, and people who cannot be questioned always torment and punish others who are inconvenient

Again, the issue almost has nothing to do with gays or straights, it has to do with the democratic process and peoole abusing minority status asa shield to gain absolute power and be inconsistent and abusive

Like one can see the results of one side having absolute control with someone like Jussie Smollett faking homophobic and racist attack because he wanted a raise. Almost everyone was instantly on his side and his strategy to just lie to manipulate everyone into gaining advantages for him for being black and gay almost worked, because people in the media almost all sides with him and were motivated activists for his victimization, and he almost got everything he wanted, including a raise and hero status presented to the population of the world which would have resulted in endless advantages and support for his heroics which would have made him sort of a hero, but he just lied so bad that he got caught.
 
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I got bullied and harassed a lot in school, only kid I saw getting bullied and harassed as much as me was both only black guy and only obviously gay guy in my school. So I felt bad for him and became ultra liberal.

So I became involved in bodybuilding and fitness just after high school, like working out hours every day and I am athleitic to begin with. But I never developed an idea how to deal with other people, especially women, before college

And I am fairly good looking and was incredibly in shape with a bodybuilding physique and 6 pack abs and so on.

So I go to raves and so on at biggest university in the state to try to find my place and there is extreme aggressiveness from gay males, like I can’t solve how to get past these guys to get to women. My first real girlfriend I found because black gay guy sat on my lap and I had to fight him off and then I met his female friend as a result, who I liked. But this guy never left me alone when I was with first girlfriend, things just escalated from repeated lap sitting to pressure to let him do things to me if he lubed up whenever he left the room. But he talked about how difficult it was to be black and gay and all that he had suffered and how he had been suicidal, so I put up with his aggression because I felt bad for him, and because of social messages. This was extremely stressful for me, to be around this girl I liked I had to put up with aggressive attempts to conquest me, which girlfriend pretend to ignore because her and this gay guy had moved together here and this was here only friend and he was very social

These things went on and on, to be around first girlfriend, I had to put up with aggressive attempts to conquest me, but I put up with them because I was very liberal and both devoted to gay rights and intolerance against blacks, but then I get in an argument with girlfriend and go to this party and wake up the girlfriends black gay friend and his Jewish boyfriend sexually assaulting me. So I become angry, but everything gets blamed on me because I must be cheating with girlfriends gay friends, and I will be beat up if I go around my social circle, which eventually happened by black group where I was told lead guy was looking for an excuse to beat up whites, but I could not have nothing happen, probably because main guys dad was a police officer

So I go to university counseling and guy I am signed is gay, gay advocate who finds me inconvenient and ignores crime, then I go to psychs, but woman I;am assigned is gay advocate who I later encounter in men’s bathroom at gay club

Then on and on and on and on, despite gay coupled admitted gay threesome occurred, it must be all about me, no sympathy of any kind, no support for being a victim, just what secretly motived me and all the things wrong with me

Then because I actually believe all this and see no reason to change my behavior, more sexual assaults by gay males and consequences for sexually confused or “made gay” males and so on

My life has never really gone beyond this. It’s just basically been exactly the same problem since I was 21, with not only no sympathy, no support, but then even more how I must be mistaken because gay or “made gay” men are interested in me

It just has never stopped. I bought a ridiculous number of things so me and my friend could trade stocks and futures and I could sell off items, but he felt that developing schizophrenia had made him gay and so on, which made me homeless, but ex-girlfriend was best man at her gay friends wedding and person she talks to most is very motivated gay advocate, so they do not believe my explanation. Then I had been homeless, but trying to explain nothing about gays is very upsetting to everyone and all past things receive accusations everywhere due to assumptions that I am lying and have dangerous hate, so girlfriend is gone, causing endless frustration because it was about outside forces judging and punishing me for misbehavior of gay or “made gay” males because her family was wealthy and me explaining homelessness as a result of rejecting homosexuality and being upset about how this subject has affected my adult life as being like impossible or like hate to everyone

Then on and on and on and on. I don’t feel like my two roommates were bad guys, I just feel like their ideas of being “made gay” by childhood rape and then developing a psychotic illness were not being taken seriously by the psych profession, so I had to deal with the consequemces, including physically fighting guy off repeatedly and sneaking into my room if I forgot to lock the door and being forced into homelessness and not getting a chance to make myself and “made ga “ roommate rich, because he wanted someone who might love him tgere
 
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That is the very definition of political correctness, is it not? The more polarized we become the more the extremes try to dictate what is and is not acceptable to be discussed.

My ex-girlfriend is great, I have no specific complaints about her, she was always my by constant companion and best friend and constant support, but everything unrivaled when others surrounding her told her how evil I was, almost entirely because I could not get past being accused of things because I had been homeless because of previous roommate being “made gay” and endless other consequences of sexual assaults being blamed on my secret things and hate things and being cut off from any rational help for actual issues, plus punishments for not desirijgbgaybsex being very suspicious or proving how evil I am

I cannot explain a single thing to ex-girlfriends family and friends because all explanations sound implausible or like hate, so I have woman I love and am planning marriage and nice future and we are going to sell things from our house and I can make us rich due to my idea to make massive amounts of money off of market plummets using complex option set ups, but then because I was homeless because I did not desire gay sex and because I was upset about previous gay sexual assaults which turned psych profession against me for basic help and upset girlfriends gay and gay friends, everything is gone again

So now I have 2-3 times the bills, have lost the love of my life and endless other problems, yet again because I was very sympathetic to the plight of gay men and others are so focused in one direction that my realities and experiences and traumas must just prove how filled with hate and repressed things I am and how dangerous I am to ex-gorkfriend, then the more upset I get, the more I must be accused and punished more and more and more

But there never is no actual problem, gay couple sexually assaulted, other gays sexually assaulted, two roommates felt that they were made gay and the complete control of gay advocacy cut them off help, which I was also sympathetic to, which resulted in physically fighting off sexual assaults and being ho,else’s and accusations for seeking help for adhd and ASD
 
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It’s like autistic girl tries to be nice to minority straight guy who will not stop trying to conquest her, then minority guy, after being unable to conquest autistic girl, brings along a friend and they both sexually assault her. Then they admit what happened, but it just must be about her secret repressed desires towards men and her endless disorders and her danger to men

Then other minority guys sexually assuage and manipulate woman which proves other negtives about her

But since belief system is focused on how terrible straight women are to straight men, when there is even more misbehavior, now woman must be secretly up to things and be dangerous to straight guy she is around and be truly delusional because obviously straight men are no threat to straight women, which results in ganging up on straight woman because everyone is motivated to stand up to and punish the hatred straight women pose to straight men, and punish even potential hatred every single place because there must be a zero to,earn extra policy against straight women who have been sexually assaulted and manipulated and tormented and lost e eryrging to torments multiple times, because the only possibility is that straight women accusing straight men of wrong doing is dangerous and hateful and might prove how dangerous straight woman is to;straight men, but definitely proves how awful the straight woman is for her felusi8nal and dangerous beliefs where she might f
Go attack and beat up straight men at any time, which proves how dangerous she is to oppressed, incapable of doing wrong, straight men, which truly requires consequences everywhere for the straight woman’s evil and hate and delusions and how dangerous her disorders are, and how how the straight woman’s disorders can’t be something as simple as being a victim, but must prove disorders and how she is a dangerous threat
 
Letting go is a human problem. Whole countries are locked in conflict because they can't let go of things that happened so long ago no living person has any direct memory of it. My wife won't let things go. Neither will my son. It is like they have internalized the anger and it is a part of them. Losing the anger is like losing a part of them. For some reason, they think letting go of the past invalidates their reaction to a bad event and allows the person who offended them to get away with it.

Of course, it is nonsense. Bitterness is a poison you swallow hoping to poison another person. The truth is that nothing you do can change the past. All fuming about it does is to ruin the present. You already took the hit and now it is time to move on. You can remember what happened without passion. Maybe eventually learn to forgive.

Things are just ultimately as you wisely described initially

Bitterness and fuming about the past is ultimately just a poison, it’s just that this issue is different

My one roommate was raped as a child by his older cousin in Nicaragua and he drove as far away from his family in Miami as far as he could go before he ran out of money. His story was that his gay roommmates at Ohio state university had kicked him out and made him homeless. I identified with everything he said, from trying to escape to gays misbehaving when he said he wasn’t gay but was trying to be nice to gays

So I let him move in with me and he is a basically a good guy, especially because I needed an ally against lol the professional psychs and my previous circle of gay advocates who found my previous breakdown and hospitalization after being sexually assaulted by gay coyote, after one guy workday not stop with endless attempts to conquest me, as being all about my repressed things and disorders and whatever else

I needed an ally, but after he moved in he began getting drunk and being in love with me and being “made gay” by childhood rape and I had to fight him off and he got rid of multiple female friends, including one I might have married

Then another roommate, also a minority immigrant, who felt that being an immigrant and developing psychizophrenia in his 20s had “made him gay”. Like I knew him before he developed psychzophrenia and he wan’t gay before, and so on and so on, which eventually resulted in me being homeless and more issues

But I have looked things up, men raped as kids often have sexual orientation confusion and men who develop schizophrenia in their 20s often develop sexual orientation confusion.

So I felt very sympathetic towards these guys because I felt like being “made gay” was off limits and psychs would just accuse them as they had accused me, due to the complete control of gay advocacy

But then both screwed my chances in life up due to my sympathy, the first one by banning women I liked and the second me by kicking me out and making me homeless. One guy committed suicide and other one is still very lonely

But I am still sympathetic to these guys, I just feel like we all got cut off from help due to absolute, complete dominate control of gay advocacy, cutting off myself and both roommates from and chance at help

I do not even blame various other gay men for sexual assaults and manipulations, I blame absolute power and control by an exttreme majority who grabbed all power in research, abused it, then grabbed all power in social sciences, abused it, then screwed up my life and these guys lives for us being inconvenient to gay advocacy

Like, in my head, I get sexually assaulted repeatedly by gay males and others develop sexual orientation issues from childhood rape or developing psychotic illnesses, all these things are simply things which should be addressed. Our lives should not endlessly be misinformed or our internalizations should not be ignored and punished or result in endless accustationd and punishments for being inconvenient to the complete and total monopoly on power which gay advocacy had seemed to achieve
 
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That is the very definition of political correctness, is it not? The more polarized we become the more the extremes try to dictate what is and is not acceptable to be discussed.

The basic reality is that everyone knows what whites, black, Hispanics, etc tend to do and none of these groups has gained enough power to mispresent whites/blacks/Hispanics/etc as being incapable of wrongdoing by advocates of these groups grabbing complete control at a university level and managing to portray their people as innocent victims of everything and all who oppose being punished directly or being questioned and punished for bing inconvenient victims

But gay men are such a small population and gay men dominate all research telling others how great their people are, and since this has been the #1 Social cause fo the last couple decades, all negative behavior can both be convered up and blamed on blamed on others

Like if one look at porn websites, “straight men” is either the top or near the top searched item, sexual assault is much worse among gay men towards each other at gay clubs and drug abuse is worse.

This is not about accusing gays, almos all minority groups behave worse in one way or another than majority group

The issue is bing autistic with a history of bullying and abolute cluelessness of how to deal with peopl when one lives in the middle of nowhere, then getting thrust into all this because I just saw gays as fellow victims

I see it as like since whites or blacks have complete and absolute control, they can cover up any racist ideas by whites or robbery issues by blacks and sucker autistic into these situations and then when whites are racist or blacks commit crimes, these are all delusional beliefs which are the fault of the victim, because the advocacy group or whites or blacks is so extraordinarily powerful that they can first misrepresent everything’s mg and then blame victims of crimes for the misbehavior of thei pool, because they have such extraordinary power in relationship to their group size, that they can get away with such things

There is no hate anywhere, and the entire issue is caused by extreme tolerance towards a beat down minority, but if the beat down minority has grabbed complete control at the university level, they can even get away with expkaining bad behavior of their people as something evil about the victims of bad behavior of their people, then there is a problem
 
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