Iamnotarabot
Well-Known Member
Whenever someone on Facebook on autism "friendly" pages say their autistic child actually did something very non-autistic, like speak when they're not normally very verbal, or go to a social gathering and enjoy it, or eat something different, it just really annoys me to no end. I'm not really sure why, but I think that to me it's like inspiration porn. Of course everyone else is simply delighted when they read this, while I look like a huge jerk. Also when I was a kid I could speak, eat different foods and go to social gatherings, and no one cared!But that was all right, because the whole world still had unrealistically high expectations for me.![]()
Hight functionning people had a hard /still have a hard time because we expect from us a lot more, especially if you had good results at school, for my family I should have been a doctor , at the end of hightschool everything crumbled because of social issues that no one understood, and now im lost in useless grades that wont lead me anywhere with 5 years lost in the process.
So ofc, no one will ever understand, no one will ever even acknowledge that we have a permanent struggle that no one is able to feel or understand ( then they talk about empathy.).
But just imagine for a few sec, the feeling of hopelessness and despair of parents having non funcitonnal kids , they know they wont be able to take care of their kids one day, one of the parent probably lost his full time job in order to take care of the kid, their life changed for ever.
When they see their kid going out of their isolation , speaking and doing thing, they have hope, hope that one day their kid will be able to handle their own life, like the light at the end of the tunnel.
So yeah, it is heart-warming.
But I understand you , we will never get recognition, and we are sometimes lost in our own darkness , so we may not realize it.