My final thread.

[Tom]

 

[pjcnet]

I know I'm late to read this, I wish I'd spotted this particular thread sooner and I hope you are still receiving notifications of replies. I'm sorry to hear that you wish to leave this community and I sincerely hope you change your mind, although I see that you've already had a break, but maybe this forum just isn't for you, or you expected something else from it that it hasn't provided? No online forum should have the power to affect your life in a negative way like that however, please try to look at it more casually, I know it's often easier said than done when you're on the autistic spectrum.

Anyway judging from the replies so far quite a few members have read this particular thread and I'm sure loads of members have read many of your other contributions, but please remember that most people read a lot more than they reply to.

If you feel comfortable please help the staff and community and let them know what went wrong. I know that the most important feedback is constructive negative feedback, this is because the vast majority of people who are not happy just vanish without saying anything and they'll often never use the service again without anyone knowing why, this doesn't help the service improve.

What did you hope to get from this community that didn't reach your expectations?

What could be improved upon to make things better?

I hope to see a reply or even better that you decide to give the community one more try, you are also welcome to PM me if you prefer. If not then I sincerely wish you the best of luck and I hope you've at least seen how many replies you've received before you go for good!

 

[Mary Anne]

I used to feel the same on other forums, but it seems I'm banned for life from most forums anyway because I tend to make enemies of the Mods for my outspoken views, and particularly on UK based forums, the fact I don't like the Daily Mail because of their views on the unemployed, people on benefits, and the disabled, so they hate me because I'm disabled, unemployed AND on benefits

I for one, truly appreciate your candid view on living with disability and Autism, Rich.

 

[Mary Anne]

When I started on this forum I had very high hopes, if I had known then about the downward spiral my opinion would take on this place, I never would have made an account at all.

I used to love this forum, I truly did. It was something brand new for me and a realm of infinite possibilities. Man, was I ignorant.

It's no secret that I have taken a few hiatuses from this place, but every time I come back that depressed feeling just gets worse. I now think of this site as I do social media, which to me is a waste of time. I don't belong on any of those platforms and I certainly no longer feel like I belong on here.

It depresses me to know that my efforts at trying to reach out to people and all those threads and blogs I posted have really meant nothing. I should have expected that though.

I don't even know why I'm bothering to write a thread about this, I guarantee you most people won't bother to read it, and if they do they'll think "oh, he's just in another mood again."

I'm sure someone is thinking "why doesn't he just shut up and leave for good already if he feels this way?"

Well, I'm on my way out the door. I cannot handle the meltdowns and the assault of depression anymore that this place causes me.

Hi, you have me now wanting to go back and read everything you posted! Please do not go. Do not leave! We need to have diverse thoughts, believes, and personalities here! Please stay!

 

[Marcus]

It's quite lovely how you guys can turn a serious thread into a joke, it really shows the true colors of this community.

I knew beforehand that my presence didn't matter, but now it has just been proven for sure.

Farewell.

 

[Mary Anne]

What? People here have been extremely supportive! Please tell me how to have you understand this. Your comment is disturbing. Of course some people on the spectrum have no tact, are sarcastic, have weird humor, are brutally honest, or even have communication problems which make the comment come out sounding weird! We all are on a spectrum, and are as diverse as the world of humans CAN be!

Please take the positive comments and use them as they will help you. Ignore the rest and don’t judge or interpret them. It takes practice to not be so “sensitive.” Trust me, I am still learning that skill.

 

[tree]

@Marcus
The jokers joked.
Other people replied in other ways.

You take from it what you want, I guess.

When the joking started I thought....well, if this
were my thread that I posted in a state of depression,
and I came back to see this tangential material,
I believe I'd be put off by it.

There will be people expressing their unhappiness
at your decision.

 

[Fridgemagnetman]

The way you call it, the way you see it, does not mean
That's the way it is.

 

[Otenba]

I don't know you at all, but it might be worth keeping in mind that you're going to get bad people in all groups and on all forums, and so, if it helps, use the "ignore" feature to stop hearing from those that make you feel like you don't belong here. We're a mixed group after all and these tools are in place to make it more comfortable for you. If you've already tried this and it's still not okay, fair enough to you and I wish you all the best if you do walk away. Sometimes a break from a forum can do a lot of good, as I've found with some of my favourite forums. You can always come back when you're ready.

 

[Mary Anne]

The way you call it, the way you see it, does not mean
That's the way it is.

Do you always post with humor? Seems like most of the time you do! Are you aware that not everyone understands it, as to the thread maker here does not appreciate it.

 

[Fridgemagnetman]

Do you always post with humor? Seems like most of the time you do! Are you aware that not everyone understands it, as to the thread maker here does not appreciate it.

The way you call it, the way you see it, does not mean
That's the way it is.

(Was my message)

 

[Mary Anne]

The way you call it, the way you see it, does not mean
That's the way it is.

(Was my message)

You posted some ridiculous karaoke video! What the heck? Scroll above to you post please. I can see how the original thread maker might be confused by your humor /lack of empathy.

 

[Fridgemagnetman]

You posted some ridiculous karaoke video! What the heck? Scroll above to you post please. I can see how the original thread maker might be confused by your humor /lack of empathy.

As well as the message!

The way you call it, the way you see it, does not mean
That's the way it is.

 

[Juliettaa]

Do you always post with humor? Seems like most of the time you do! Are you aware that not everyone understands it, as to the thread maker here does not appreciate it.

Isn't that part of the appeal of this forum, that we can be who we really are? Humorous, morose, rigid, literal, free thinking, diverse, submissive, bossy, angry etc etc etc.

It takes all sorts to make a forum. Although there was a small amount of joking on this thread, the vast majority of the posts were serious in nature and mostly supportive.

I think it's a shame that the OP chose to come back and seemingly ignore the supportive posts and pick up on the small percentage of posts he didn't like, posts that weren't aimed at anyone, just a couple of posts with humour to brighten someone's day.

Oh dear

 

[Mary Anne]

As well as the message!

The way you call it, the way you see it, does not mean
That's the way it is.

I am sorry, but I scrolled back and saw your multiple posts that say nothing. “Will the last person to leave please turn off the lights.” is one. “Do rebellious revenants eat revels?” How is this helping the depressed sensitive original poster?

I do not understand what you are talking about! I know that you CAN and HAVE posted pertinent things previously, but is this strictly a spectrum thing? To post silly things? Just trying to understand the spectrum more.

 

[Fridgemagnetman]

I am sorry, but I scrolled back and saw your multiple posts that say nothing. “Will the last person to leave please turn off the lights.” is one. Another was something about “revels.” How is this helping the depressed sensitive original poster?

Do you want me to stroke his hair?

The guy spat his dummy out (pacifier) because someone made a joke.

If my joke changes his depression in any way that could be a good thing.
Reality is it's up to him.

Saying 'there theres' don't help in my book.


But different things work for different people, and the OP decided to concentrate on the humor,making a childish dig on his return, whilst ignoring the actual genuinely supportive posts people had taken time out to make.

You depressed you don't see things right hence my message :

The way you call it, the way you see it, does not mean
That's the way it is.

We also had several "goodbye threads at the time...

Our revels are now ended....

 

[55853]

The way you call it, the way you see it, does not mean
That's the way it is.

(Was my message)

You may not be intending to insult or confuse people, but you are. You are unintentionally causing offence. The original poster saw it as making a joke of him. I don't know how much you can relate, but it's "rubbing salt in the wound" if you really struggle to open up about something and it's met with jokes about it for many people. Do you not see how joking about something serious to someone will hurt them?

 

[Juliettaa]

@Mary Anne

If you scroll back right to the beginning, the OP started this thread some 7 weeks ago. He'd long gone before any banter started. He hadn't come back for ages. He said he was going and in true Aspie style, we believed (well I did) that yeah, literally he's gone.

The OP posted weeks ago, hasn't been back on this thread until now so surely a little bit of harmless banter would show there was absolutely no intent to hurt the original poster at all as he'd long gone!!!

 

[Mary Anne]

Do you want me to stroke his hair?

The guy spat his dummy out (pacifier) because someone made a joke.

If my joke changes his depression in any way that could be a good thing.
Reality is it's up to him.

Saying 'there theres' don't help in my book.


But different things work for different people, and the OP decided to concentrate on the humor,making a childish dig on his return, whilst ignoring the actual genuinely supportive posts people had taken time out to make.

You depressed you don't see things right hence my message :

The way you call it, the way you see it, does not mean
That's the way it is.

We also had several "goodbye threads at the time...

Our revels are now ended....

Good grief...classic case of autism...complete lack of empathy? I had never witnessed it to this degree until now. Thanks for the learning experience. Please never volunteer to work on a suicide hotline, ok?

 

[Fridgemagnetman]

You may not be intending to insult or confuse people, but you are. You are unintentionally causing offence. The original poster saw it as making a joke of him. I don't know how much you can relate, but it's "rubbing salt in the wound" if you really struggle to open up about something and it's met with jokes about it for many people. Do you not see how joking about something serious to someone will hurt them?

Lots of people supported him.

I took him at his word.

I disagree with your post.

Youre not seeing it right imo.

The OP chose to ignore the people taking time to help him and chose to come back to make a childish dig.

 

[tree]

Just because people don't post on a thread,
visit chat, or make Profile Posts....that doesn't
mean they are "long gone."

It's possible to log on and view everything
without saying a word.