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Nope never happened to me.

Tony Ramirez

Tony Ramirez

Forever Alone Aspie
V.I.P Member
No girls ever ever asked me to go for a walk
(in the park, to the store) or to hang out (at the park) with them.

But plenty of men asked me to hang out with them to go for a walk (in the park) to hang out (in the park, at their place, at my place) married or single even when I was on Facebook that time pleading for single woman to talk to me on their church page only men wanted to hang out, super annoying. Now I am not saying to do this with women it's different with guys like not to hang at their place for example.

Just I gotten coffee dates text from guys which riled me up and ruined my day. Especially one I thought would be from two potential woman which then I ended up leaving that life group for different reasons.

Anyway even yesterday for the third time I had to hang out with some married man at the park because it was the polite thing to do. It's never once ever in my entire life a woman.
 
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I know this is probably won't feel like an option and I'm not sure if perhaps the men you mention were maybe interested in you in a romantic sense? But married men have wives, their wives may have single friends. If they are just looking for someone to hang out with maybe you could meet more people and increase your odds that you meet more single women?

I appreciate that you may not have the social energy for that. I probably wouldn't. If the guys are just looking for someone to hang out with and be friends with then it may be worth trying to get a little out of your comfort zone to increase the potential of meeting someone and maybe, even enjoying hanging out with some new people?
 
I have zero interest in men. Men turn me off 100% with there hairy legs and chest, disgusting facial hair. Don't get me started on men with long hair I feel like someone should get a razor and cut it right off. Or men who dare to wear sandals and slip on shoes barefoot. Make me want to vomit seeing that.

Also the married men wife's don't know any single women. Trust me. That is a complete dead end. I know it.
 
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Don't get me started on men with long hair I feel like someone should get a razor and cut it right off.
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Believe it or not, challenging this type of thinking will likely help you with the ladies. Most women that I know would be put off or wary about someone who cannot accept others’ choices for something simple like hairstyle.

I’m not trying to criticize you, just highlighting a place where your thinking could actually be prohibiting you from building relationships with women.
 
Tony Ramirez said:
I have zero interest in men. Men turn me off 100% with there hairy legs and chest, disgusting facial hair. Don't get me started on men with long hair I feel like someone should get a razor and cut it right off.

Also the married men wife's don't know any single women. Trust me. That is a complete dead end. I know it.
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I understand that you don't want to be romantically involved. So I think perhaps the guys you mentioned were indeed interested in a more romantic context? I'm sorry you keep hitting this dead end.

The only thing I can suggest is the (by now) pretty cliché route of joining social groups where you can enjoy conversation with people who share your interests and just get to know people. Odds are there will be someone who has a single friend who is a woman.

I know it really sucks trying so hard to find someone and never having any luck. I've been there too. But don't lose faith, you will meet someone. It's just a darned irritating waiting game.
 
We have a short life and only one of them. You can't get it back. You can't have a "do over". You have a choice: Do you want to spend the rest of your life hating it because it isn't the specific way you want it to be? Or do you want to do everything in your power to enjoy good things about your life each and every day? No one else will make that decision for you. It's 100% up to you.
 
Tony Ramirez said:
No girls ever ever asked me to go for a walk
(in the park, to the store) or to hang out (at the park) with them.

But plenty of men asked me to hang out with them to go for a walk (in the park) to hang out (in the park, at their place, at my place) married or single even when I was on Facebook that time pleading for single woman to talk to me on their church page only men wanted to hang out, super annoying. Now I am not saying to do this with women it's different with guys like not to hang at their place for example.

Just I gotten coffee dates text from guys which riled me up and ruined my day. Especially one I thought would be from two potential woman which then I ended up leaving that life group for different reasons.

Anyway even yesterday for the third time I had to hang out with some married man at the park because it was the polite thing to do. It's never once ever in my entire life a woman.
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If I was a single woman who was interested or potentially interested in guys (whether platonic or romantic), and I saw a guy who was openly desperate, I'd be pretty wary as that's a lot of alarm bells right there.

And even if they seemed like someone I might be interested in, I would be concerned about safety, and consider sending a guy friend or relative to "test the waters" first to see if that guy seemed okay.
 
Magna said:
We have a short life and only one of them. You can't get it back. You can't have a "do over". You have a choice: Do you want to spend the rest of your life hating it because it isn't the specific way you want it to be? Or do you want to do everything in your power to enjoy good things about your life each and every day? No one else will make that decision for you. It's 100% up to you.
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Whats so good about life when I can't get a girl to hang out with me but other guys get girls to hang out with yet I am straight but other guys want to bother me by hanging out with me.

Then I got the hear the same crap that no woman will want me because I am obsessed, desperate, want a mate. Really I heard it from everyone and I am tired of it.
 
Tony Ramirez said:
I have zero interest in men. Men turn me off 100% with there hairy legs and chest, disgusting facial hair. Don't get me started on men with long hair I feel like someone should get a razor and cut it right off. Or men who dare to wear sandals and slip on shoes barefoot. Make me want to vomit seeing that.
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You do realize that you're describing attributes of Jesus??
 
"What's so good about life when I don't have a billion dollars in the bank? Some other guys get to do whatever they want with their time and can buy whatever they want?"

"What's so good about life when I'm not as tall as I'd like to be? Some other guys are tall. I'd be happy if only I was [ fill in the blank ] inches taller."

I could go on and on. Again it's our choice how we choose to view our own lives each day.
 
Tony Ramirez said:
No girls ever ever asked me to go for a walk
(in the park, to the store) or to hang out (at the park) with them.

But plenty of men asked me to hang out with them to go for a walk (in the park) to hang out (in the park, at their place, at my place) married or single even when I was on Facebook that time pleading for single woman to talk to me on their church page only men wanted to hang out, super annoying. Now I am not saying to do this with women it's different with guys like not to hang at their place for example.

Just I gotten coffee dates text from guys which riled me up and ruined my day. Especially one I thought would be from two potential woman which then I ended up leaving that life group for different reasons.

Anyway even yesterday for the third time I had to hang out with some married man at the park because it was the polite thing to do. It's never once ever in my entire life a woman.
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It's great to have goals, and clearly this is one of yours. But when you have only one or two goals, and they are HIGHLY dependent on other people and luck, well you're going to spend a lot of your time waiting around. The real kicker is that the best way to improve your chances of achieving that goal is by enjoying other activities that may lead to it. Let's try an analogy (which is going to be imperfect, but I hope you get the gist).

So imagine you're the type of guy who completely loves dogs. Imagine you had your heart set on being the next Cesar Millan. You've tried stuff out with the puppers at home and you're actually really pretty good. Now imagine never applying for any other jobs, even the ones at vets, dog groomers or ANYTHING because you're waiting for the job ad of Dog Whisperer to show up in the paper? As each day goes past you get more frustrated. And if you look at it objectively, waiting for that ad to show up doesn't make it come any quicker. It won't suddenly appear because you want it to. And in the meantime, you're missing out on great jobs that, although they're not your real goal, could actually give you a lot of reward and fun. They're not below you. Sure they're not what you have your heart set on, but why miss out on some fun? And who knows, maybe the great man himself tours the local animal hospital to film, and is on the lookout for a protégé?

And be good to those guys asking you out. Maybe they're in the same boat and wondering how on earth they can find a gay partner or friend. You're not obliged to meet them, but recognise they might just be fellow travellers on the same path.

TL;DR: You're hostile to the idea of anything except your specific goal. That both narrows your chances of achieving that goal and of enjoying life in the meantime whilst not making it more likely to happen.
 
What women look for in a guy is probably transport, a plan that matches theirs, a job, and to live near but not too close.

What are your plans for the future, what do you value in relationships and do you tend to have better common sense or worse than the norm, neither is good for dating.
 
MNAus said:
It's great to have goals, and clearly this is one of yours. But when you have only one or two goals, and they are HIGHLY dependent on other people and luck, well you're going to spend a lot of your time waiting around. The real kicker is that the best way to improve your chances of achieving that goal is by enjoying other activities that may lead to it. Let's try an analogy (which is going to be imperfect, but I hope you get the gist).

So imagine you're the type of guy who completely loves dogs. Imagine you had your heart set on being the next Cesar Millan. You've tried stuff out with the puppers at home and you're actually really pretty good. Now imagine never applying for any other jobs, even the ones at vets, dog groomers or ANYTHING because you're waiting for the job ad of Dog Whisperer to show up in the paper? As each day goes past you get more frustrated. And if you look at it objectively, waiting for that ad to show up doesn't make it come any quicker. It won't suddenly appear because you want it to. And in the meantime, you're missing out on great jobs that, although they're not your real goal, could actually give you a lot of reward and fun. They're not below you. Sure they're not what you have your heart set on, but why miss out on some fun? And who knows, maybe the great man himself tours the local animal hospital to film, and is on the lookout for a protégé?

And be good to those guys asking you out. Maybe they're in the same boat and wondering how on earth they can find a gay partner or friend. You're not obliged to meet them, but recognise they might just be fellow travellers on the same path.

TL;DR: You're hostile to the idea of anything except your specific goal. That both narrows your chances of achieving that goal and of enjoying life in the meantime whilst not making it more likely to happen.
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I think that studying and failing tests before the job is part of the process as well.
 
I don't know how much it has to do with autism but when I tried dating apps I gave up after a while, the necessary patience wasn't there although I have had incredible success with one person which I left amongst last because she was in-between in terms of physical and clothes choice. It seemed the most realistic person, though, like people on the street and more decent clothing, not too lax either. Nothing came out of it as I settled on other things and then somebody else.
 
Tony Ramirez said:
Whats so good about life when I can't get a girl to hang out with me but other guys get girls to hang out with yet I am straight but other guys want to bother me by hanging out with me.

Then I got the hear the same crap that no woman will want me because I am obsessed, desperate, want a mate. Really I heard it from everyone and I am tired of it.
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It sounds like those guys are just trying to be friends with you, and help you out. Maybe hanging out with some guys can help you work on social skills and loosen up a little bit?

In your last thread I wrote out a pretty long response to you, trying to give you some advice on what is probably going on and how improve your outcomes. But you've completely ignored that and instead are making yet another self-victimizing post where you are yet again blaming women (and now other men?) for not having a partner yourself. The only reason you are "tired" of hearing the feedback we gave you is because it clashes with the narrative you have created that you are the victim.

You and you alone are responsible for your life.
I'm going to be really honest with you. Unless you make some serious changes to your personality, you're not going to get a partner. You send off a ton of red flags that don't just say "caution" but instead "dangerous" to women. Some of the things you've said come across as genuinely scary to read.
 
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