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Nope never happened to me.

Tony Ramirez said:
Whats so good about life when I can't get a girl to hang out with me but other guys get girls to hang out with yet I am straight but other guys want to bother me by hanging out with me.

Then I got the hear the same crap that no woman will want me because I am obsessed, desperate, want a mate. Really I heard it from everyone and I am tired of it.
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Oke I am going to be pretty mean here. If you are tired of hearing people tell you that no woman will want you because you are obsessed, desperate and want a mate stop making multiple posts a week going on and on about wanting someone and never being able to get it.
There might be a reason people keep telling you the same thing. And that is because it is the truth. You can do with it whatever you want. But if so many people keep telling you this it might be time not to hear it. But to listen.
You ask us what it so good about your life. We don`t know because we only really hear that you are depressed for not being able to find a women. A friend of mine just found out he has a brain tumor. Because of all the operations and things he is just sitting on his couch right now not able to do anything he wants. I`m pretty sure compared to him your life is pretty amazing. Instead of always looking at the things others seem to have and looking at the things you think you can`t get. Get up and enjoy the things you do have. A girlfriend isn`t magically going to change your life and make you happy.
At work we have people who are upbeat and happy. Everyone likes to work with them. There are also a couple of people that begin the day complaining. Guess how many people enjoy having lunch with them? You guessed it. 0.

Sorry for being so mean. But if you are tired of hearing something stop starting posts to which you are garanteed to get those replies.
 
Tony Ramirez said:
Whats so good about life when I can't get a girl to hang out with me but other guys get girls to hang out with yet I am straight but other guys want to bother me by hanging out with me.

Then I got the hear the same crap that no woman will want me because I am obsessed, desperate, want a mate. Really I heard it from everyone and I am tired of it.
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Just to say. You do know you can end up with a woman who does not have your health or happiness in mind by getting with you.
 
I've always been a bit of a loner, also like to talk. So when someone sits near me and starts a conversation. I will chat.
Either way it has been men and women. Even before I meet my wife Looking back, I do think many of them had ulterior motives. The downside of being an Aspie. Must admit the women were a bit more assertive.
 
kenaij said:
He did have a lot of men around him that were obsessed with him. Those men even wrote hundreds of words about how awesome he was. So who knows.
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Good point never thought of it that way before, Never make assumptions, Always make room for cultural differences.
 
I don't think you were blaming women and other men at least in this thread, nothing you said gave me any hint you are.
Tony Ramirez said:
Again what is wrong with me? People who know me don't think of me like you do here.
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I think life is tough and unfair, it's not equal for all people, and without dating experience it can be even harder in terms of dating success.

I would say don't let dating success define you. First impressions at a date aren't a reflection of who you are and even more skilled NTs struggle with dating due to its complexity. In the dating trials I would expect many failures before any success.
 
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I know having patience is hard like I have experienced myself, after a while you kinda get over it. I think it's interesting to see the whole process and how to handle this lack of interest in trying anymore that can install after a while of unsucessful dating as well as the toll it can take on a person.
 
My method of tackling the loss of interest was sort of switching to another method for a while. I seem to lose interest in some things like games in general or have other things take up my time. The important thing for me was finding a means of getting in touch with people.
 
All-Rounder said:
I think life is tough and unfair, it's not equal for all people, and without dating experience it can be even harder in terms of dating success.
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How can I have any dating experience when I can't even get that first date? When any woman won't even attempt to even want to ever hang out with me, ever.
 
Tony Ramirez said:
How can I have any dating experience when I can't even get that first date? When any woman won't even attempt to even want to ever hang out with me, ever.
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Yep, without exposure experience is limited, other than human interaction which can help in some ways in the sense of how to handle a person in a discussion, how to be sharing experiences and topic interests, how to create talk and even how to be assertive.

Exposure to me means keep trying and just talk. See what might get better replies, or people to think about it. Although that to me is extremely hard with strangers in real life situations. And specialists suggest an actual friendship first, an approach based on dating would be awkward to create and I don't think would be well received. There are flirting tips but friendship approach seems to improve the chances in most instances, especially in places like where you go to courses or workplace.
 
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There is this woman from life group named Ashley from life group. I kind of give her hints to hang out, like when she goes to go to the pier to hang out, but she says she wants to go by herself. I even asked her once to share an Uber on a ride home since she lives near me, but she declined and rather walked home from life group, so I don't offer anymore. It's frustrating.
 
Tony Ramirez said:
There is this woman from life group named Ashley from life group. I kind of give her hints to hang out, like when she goes to go to the pier to hang out, but she says she wants to go by herself. I even asked her once to share an Uber on a ride home since she lives near me, but she declined and rather walked home from life group, so I don't offer anymore. It's frustrating.
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The positive take away here is... you did it! Keep it rolling, and next time you meet someone, try again.

There could be lots of reasons why the woman you mentioned always says no and none of them are necessarily related to you. When I'm invited to places, say with new work colleagues, I usually politely decline as it's just not my thing. Sadly some people read more into it. It's difficult to explain that in not being rude, I have to have alone time, particularly to fulfill my required engagement with my special interests.

This lady may be similar, she just may have fulfilled her socialisation quotient for that day. She also may just prefer her own company in general and doesn't want to compromise. Nothing personal, just maybe the way she is.
 
She is friendly. I understand. She goes to the pier to be by herself. I would love to comply to her, but I understand. I also understand why she rather walk home by herself.
 
All we ever hear is how you are single and miserable. What else CAN we know more about you?
 
AdamG said:
All we ever hear is how you are single and miserable. What else CAN we know more about you?
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I love different types of music. EDM Trance, epic trance, progressive, melodic progressive, ambient, lofi, 80's pop, 80's r&b, 90 r&b, salsa. Classic TV, classic cartoons, marvel cartoons. Star wars. That's just some. Just wish I can share that with a special someone.
 
Tony Ramirez said:
I love different types of music. EDM Trance, epic trance, progressive, melodic progressive, ambient, lofi, 80's pop, 80's r&b, 90 r&b, salsa. Classic TV, classic cartoons, marvel cartoons. Star wars. That's just some. Just wish I can share that with a special someone.
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Cool! Do you ever go to gigs? Perhaps you could start checking out if your favourite artists, particularly more local ones, have a discord server you could join and just chat and get to know more people there, maybe arrange to go to some gigs as a group?

You could meet lots of new people on your wavelength there! When you divert the focus from persual of a partner, to associating with like minded people, other opportunities can fall into place. Not everyone is actively looking for a partner but they are actively living their lives and doing things they enjoy. They tend to meet their partners as a consequence of that.

Just a thought! :)
 
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