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Nope never happened to me.

A friend of mine just found out he has a brain tumor. Because of all the operations and things he is just sitting on his couch right now not able to do anything he wants.
im sorry to hear that :( I know this is OT but cherish every moment you have with him because you never know when you’ll lose him. I’ve heard brain tumors can completely change the personality of some people, which is very sad.
 
There is this woman from life group named Ashley from life group. I kind of give her hints to hang out, like when she goes to go to the pier to hang out, but she says she wants to go by herself. I even asked her once to share an Uber on a ride home since she lives near me, but she declined and rather walked home from life group, so I don't offer anymore. It's frustrating.
It sounds to me like she would like to keep things in the group rather than meet separately. Some people are scared of meeting online people. It also sounds like she is not interested in dating. More like a distant friend or group activity person.

I also think many people need a connection or a spark with a person before being offered such a private date. It seems like to her it hasn't taken place yet.
 
The positive take away here is... you did it! Keep it rolling, and next time you meet someone, try again.

There could be lots of reasons why the woman you mentioned always says no and none of them are necessarily related to you. When I'm invited to places, say with new work colleagues, I usually politely decline as it's just not my thing. Sadly some people read more into it. It's difficult to explain that in not being rude, I have to have alone time, particularly to fulfill my required engagement with my special interests.

This lady may be similar, she just may have fulfilled her socialisation quotient for that day. She also may just prefer her own company in general and doesn't want to compromise. Nothing personal, just maybe the way she is.
I've never in my life done such a proposal, so it's an achievement. I know a lot of people especially on the spectrum would rather die than do it, to me it's a grand achievement.
 
If you haven't, try looking for a volunteer group. This can be a good way to meet people.

I think you also live with your parents. You need to work yourself up to live independently if that is the case. This will make a big difference. Either that, or look for places where you can find women who want to or have to live on disability their entire life and you are likely to have a chance with them.
 

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