Obsessions that are a little immature?

[GrownupGirl]

Disney music isn't babyish. Some of the most awesome, epic music I've heard is from animated Disney movies, especially the 90s movies like The Lion King and Beauty and the Beast. Back then I could not for the life of me understand the popularity of New Kids on the Block but I fell in love with the soundtrack from Beauty and the Beast, which I bought on tape and listened to even before I saw the movie.

When will people learn that many things can be enjoyed by both kids and adults?

 

[Owliet]

I understand completely, except that happened very personally for me. I remember when talking with guys and the topic turned to which girls in class one liked. At the time I focused on the girl's demeanor and interests and would add who I thought was nice. They responded as if it was unusual that I would have such thoughts and then begin tearing into the girl I mentioned, acting like I was stupid for liking her. This had a profound negative impact on me and my relationships with girls/women. Being mocked for taking an interest in another person, especially a romantic interest, is so very damaging. It took me a decade to recover.

That’s really sad that they had thoughts like that. It’s horrible going through this at a young age but you’re a way better person than they’ll ever be.

When will people learn that many things can be enjoyed by both kids and adults

I know, it is as though they get to the point and say “no more.” Then become judgmental. It’s another reason why I dislike the hype interest of superheroes or game of thrones or the Witcher because not too long ago the same type of people bullied and harassed me for liking them when it was not cool to do so. Really wish people wouldn’t pass judgement on others interests unless it hurts someone or themselves.

I also loved the lion king to the point of over obsessiveness as a kid. I even printed out the script and would act out the scenes with my toy lions. I also drew fan art until I went to university to do my undergraduate. One of the best soundtracks I’ve ever heard.

these posts are really helpful for me to feel like my love of Disney stuff is acceptable.

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

Disney music isn't babyish. Some of the most awesome, epic music I've heard is from animated Disney movies, especially the 90s movies like The Lion King and Beauty and the Beast. Back then I could not for the life of me understand the popularity of New Kids on the Block but I fell in love with the soundtrack from Beauty and the Beast, which I bought on tape and listened to even before I saw the movie.

When will people learn that many things can be enjoyed by both kids and adults?

I really enjoy musicals by Sondheim and when I heard the expository opening song to Beauty and the Beast it made me think of how effective such a technique was in Into the Woods.

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

That’s really sad that they had thoughts like that. It’s horrible going through this at a young age but you’re a way better person than they’ll ever be.

Sad, but my revenge has been to have a good life. My odd interests have taken me to places to do things and experience things that moved far beyond their constrained lives. Who are the ones limited by their neurology?

 

[iamlindsaythatisall]

Oh man, I got something similar once. I’m awkward anyway but as a teenager way more gawky. It also didn’t help that my lack of ...interest in actual guys in my year or had acceptable crushes was perceived that I was a lesbian. One time, because I just happened to really like a certain female sports person, I had some guy make a similar comment with a flex of his muscles saying it’s because she had muscles that I *loved* her. So many years wasted being worried about what others think and feel about me. And so many years of confusion and questioning...my mom isn’t exactly supportive when it comes to LGBTQ stuff, if I’m still in the closet it’s because of these reasons OR I’m just entirely asexual. I don’t even know.

Also that student teacher was wrong to do that to you. Sorry that that happened too.

I understand completely, except that happened very personally for me. I remember when talking with guys and the topic turned to which girls in class one liked. At the time I focused on the girl's demeanor and interests and would add who I thought was nice. They responded as if it was unusual that I would have such thoughts and then begin tearing into the girl I mentioned, acting like I was stupid for liking her. This had a profound negative impact on me and my relationships with girls/women. Being mocked for taking an interest in another person, especially a romantic interest, is so very damaging. It took me a decade to recover.

That is something I will never understand… why people give a crap about who you love (or don’t) and why. I think things are getting better nowadays, but it especially sucks when it’s your own family judging you I am sorry you have to go through that. Know that you’ll be accepted here

What I find attractive is not conventional, either… my ex and I both describe it as being attracted to someone’s aura.

As far as the student teacher thing goes, I’m sure he was trying to be nice and include me. I don’t fault him for that. I appreciate your concern

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

That is something I will never understand… why people give a crap about who you love (or don’t) and why. I think things are getting better nowadays, but it especially sucks when it’s your own family judging you I am sorry you have to go through that. Know that you’ll be accepted here

What I find attractive is not conventional, either… my ex and I both describe it as being attracted to someone’s aura.

As far as the student teacher thing goes, I’m sure he was trying to be nice and include me. I don’t fault him for that. I appreciate your concern

In my writings here I describe just how life altering it was to fall in love with my spouse and have her accept me sexually. I ascribe our meeting to the Red String of Fate that we were destined for each other.

 

[Gerontius]

I feel ya. I actually used to dislike children… then I worked with them, and i definitely connected with them better than most people my own age. The elderly are some of my favorite people, as well.

I think most of my dislike of the little ankle-biters isn't the kids themselves, but the persistent compulsive dread of being thought a paedophile. For whatever reason I ended up accidentally getting very good at working with little children. (Bigger ones too.)

I had to teach at an English class not so long ago substituting for a friend--he teaches a bunch of classes at a local schoolhouse & one of them was about the history of the movies, as a little elective. I have even less use for the picture-show than I have for kids, but friend knew I repair typewriters, and "voluntold" me in as a teacher for the day to let the kids work with the machines a bit and get an idea what the old-time screenwriter would've had to go through.

The real hard ones to deal with were the parents--"Oh, don't touch it--Oh, be careful with it, mustn't mustn't" and all that. I finally just said straight-up "Lady, that machine your child is currently banging on came out the year the Titanic sunk, so it's just turned a hundred and ten years old. If it was going to break, I think it would've gone and broken by now; the boy is fine."

Pretty easy teaching kids in a classroom setting--get them a little information to work with and shut up, let them explore, and wait until they ask questions and then answer them. I think I could deal with kids.

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

I had obessions that was clearly a little immature for my age. But my problem was that I was suddenly a guy in my 20s. And non of the guys I worked with or hung out with did anything immature. So I forced myself to quit those things I liked. I had to.

Maybe that makes me a coward but my generation was a generation that learned to not be childish, it was not acceptable to be a grown man and childish. I just couldn`t do it, everyone would have laughed at me all day long. So I kept that inside, not letting it out.

I learned not to be childish through my work and involvement in my community. But, I continued to foster my interests. Nowadays, I see the obsession of adults in pro sports as they sit on their asses in front of a TV as childish.

 

[Owliet]

That is something I will never understand… why people give a crap about who you love (or don’t) and why. I think things are getting better nowadays, but it especially sucks when it’s your own family judging you I am sorry you have to go through that. Know that you’ll be accepted here

Thank you. Means a lot.

my ex and I both describe it as being attracted to someone’s aura.

This is what I feel like I am.

As far as the student teacher thing goes, I’m sure he was trying to be nice and include me. I don’t fault him for that. I appreciate your concern

i am apparently a very attentive, protective and caring teacher. I know how one commeNt can really make things difficult for a student *receiving end , and try to avoid such things myself. *At least my reference will be very good when this job is completed in late June.

Maybe that makes me a coward

You are NOT a coward.

little ankle-biters

As I’ve actually been bitten by a student during duty, they had a fight and I stepped in to break it up and got bitten on my hand...still have a bruise.. this is an accurate term.

The real hard ones to deal with were the parents

yes. I hate dealing with parents and dread parent emails, parent conferences and even when they wish me a good morning.

 

[Owliet]

That sounds very difficult, sorry to hear you have had to deal with that. And I hope you find something that makes you happy.

The owl takeover will be the reckoning.

I know that it was childish making fun of but it seems to have been a constant narrative in my life, it’s left me with a lot of esteem and emotional issues and it’s just about picking up the pieces and trying to recover.

 

[Owliet]

LoL All hail our new owl overlords!
I`m already on the right side so I`m not worried.




You are strong and smart, I think you can do anything you set your mind to. Those issues will go away with some time and work I think.

Thats really kind of you to say as I don’t feel at times I am. I know that life has challenges regardless, but I always feel like every time I overcome one obstacle I have another in it’s place. I’m happy that I also have a psychiatrist who specializes in ASD who can actually help me. I’m also learning to not care anymore about obsessions, interests. I guesS it helps that one of my hobbies has me painting myself colors and being characters from things. Have to have some form of grit there to go out In public in costume, and it’s not like I haven’t had people say anything either. I think that’s another thing. Cosplay is technically dress up. Most people do this at Halloween, I do not consign myself to one day only. But others probably perceive it to be a childish thing since only kids do this.

 

[Judge]

It's all relative to who thinks what. But then being in a two-percent minority right away sets us up for discrimination with the other ninety-eight percent whether you're interested in Disney or Totalitarian Societies. Makes me chuckle reminding me of the few people who enter my home and notice a number of books on the shelves indicative of some very dark chapters in human history. The kind that for some evoke an "OMG" response.

I think such interests (or obsessions) are the sort of thing that defines us more for the better than worse.

Simply as the human beings that we are. Nothing wrong with that.

 

[Judge]

Experiencing fun for the sake of fun is indicative of a child's existence. As an adult, I suspect most of us experience fun as a deliberate method of stress relief to escape the daily grind of just being an adult.

Get in touch with your inner child as much as you can. And ignore anyone who chastises you for it.

 

[Owliet]

I think such interests (or obsessions) are the sort of thing that defines us more for the better than worse.

That’s a really nice way of putting this.

About that Cosplay, I happened to see a woman here in Norway, she is an Ice Elf. She said that putting on the Ice Elf persona gave her confidence and made things easier for her in life. She had struggled with some issues and it clearly helped her.

I`m not very familiar with Cosplay but if it helps you, I think it`s great. And from what I have seen, some of those costumes are too elaborate and difficult for a child to handle. So I wouldn`t say childish.

that’s pretty much my approach to it, plus the creativity elements. And yes, it’s not possible for a child to create thing like this but doesn’t stop some judgements being passed.

As an adult, I suspect most of us experience fun as a deliberate method of stress relief to escape the daily grind of just being an adult.

Get in touch with your inner child as much as you can. And ignore anyone who chastises you for it.

Another insightful post, thank you Judge I will bare it in mind.

 

[Pats]

What would be considered immature for someone who's 64? Acting like a 45 year old? lol I remember when I was turning 40 and becoming a grandmother at the same time, thinking to myself I guess I needed to start acting like a gramma (rocking, knitting, etc), then one day I snapped out of it and said, "No, I just wanna continue to be me."
I don't like other people's kids, yet they always tend to come up to me and want my attention. At the same time nothing could be greater than my own kids and my grandkids - can't get enough of them.

 

[Aspychata]

I was always had jobs taking care of a number of kids. But l attract birds , it's interesting. It seems to happen no matter what state l live in. Lol. I don't care what people think about my obsessions. When l am dead and buried, l won't care what people think. So might as well just start living my life like this now.

 

[Owliet]

What would be considered immature for someone who's 64? Acting like a 45 year old?

that’s a really good point Pats.

 

[Owliet]

You attract birds? I saw that in a Hitchcock movie, be very careful.

Now I’m curious if @Aspychata has been around any owls? If so, please teach me your ways.

 

[Aspychata]

I love owls. I saw a huge owl before. It came out to look for food. I think l am the bird whisper. Lol
I have rescued a duck and a undetermined bird species, and a tiny bird baby.

 

[Owliet]

I love owls. I saw a huge owl before. It came out to look for food.

It might be surprising but I love Owls.