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One thing that scared me to the core.

I went to check that above link, scrolling down, l found 5 myths about female serial killers which was quite chilling. They usually know their victims whereas men hunt. - woman usually kill in places like hospital, daycare, home, unlike men. Another misconception- they kill for money not anger towards men. And they do kill other females and children. Just creepy.
 
I am curious why do you life with such a person?
Money/age/health

When left without any family, I needed a place to live.
I consulted my therapist, social workers, lawyers and placement consultants.
No one could find a place for me to live, not even a foster or group home, for the amount of
SSI and Soc. Sec I receive from my disabilities.

The system will put you in a nursing home because medicaid will pay for that.
The worst they can find and you must go to the one they choose. Could be anywhere in the state.
If you are disabled and can't be located in section 8 housing because you're deemed unable to live
alone, then you become a ward of the state.

So I knew this man and he has plenty of money, a large house he agreed to rent part of it to me
at a price I could afford because he wanted a companion, platonic, that could help him with
everyday chores. A win, win for him. Extra money and help around the house.
I thought it would work out OK until I moved in and learned the type of person he was.
So I put up with it.

I could maybe find someone else to house share with, but, not knowing anyone personally
who knows what they might be like?
He's elderly and in poor health now so he is cooling it a bit with the remarks.
Still happens though.
His health is getting worse and he's getting the house ready to sell and move to
a 50 + seniour living community. Apartments w/a lot of ammenities.
Maybe there will at least be more freedom there and people to meet. See how it works out.
 
Money/age/health

When left without any family, I needed a place to live.
I consulted my therapist, social workers, lawyers and placement consultants.
No one could find a place for me to live, not even a foster or group home, for the amount of
SSI and Soc. Sec I receive from my disabilities.

The system will put you in a nursing home because medicaid will pay for that.
The worst they can find and you must go to the one they choose. Could be anywhere in the state.
If you are disabled and can't be located in section 8 housing because you're deemed unable to live
alone, then you become a ward of the state.

So I knew this man and he has plenty of money, a large house he agreed to rent part of it to me
at a price I could afford because he wanted a companion, platonic, that could help him with
everyday chores. A win, win for him. Extra money and help around the house.
I thought it would work out OK until I moved in and learned the type of person he was.
So I put up with it.

I could maybe find someone else to house share with, but, not knowing anyone personally
who knows what they might be like?
He's elderly and in poor health now so he is cooling it a bit with the remarks.
Still happens though.
His health is getting worse and he's getting the house ready to sell and move to
a 50 + seniour living community. Apartments w/a lot of ammenities.
Maybe there will at least be more freedom there and people to meet. See how it works out.
I’m sorry that this is your situation at the moment Susan. I’m sorry that he’s a gaslighting, manipulative person. I really hope that your situation improves soon!
 
Me too.
Thanks, @Owliet.

That's why I tell everyone on here to prepare for older age and health if at all possible
while they are young enough to do so.

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Money/age/health

When left without any family, I needed a place to live.
I consulted my therapist, social workers, lawyers and placement consultants.
No one could find a place for me to live, not even a foster or group home, for the amount of
SSI and Soc. Sec I receive from my disabilities.

The system will put you in a nursing home because medicaid will pay for that.
The worst they can find and you must go to the one they choose. Could be anywhere in the state.
If you are disabled and can't be located in section 8 housing because you're deemed unable to live
alone, then you become a ward of the state.

So I knew this man and he has plenty of money, a large house he agreed to rent part of it to me
at a price I could afford because he wanted a companion, platonic, that could help him with
everyday chores. A win, win for him. Extra money and help around the house.
I thought it would work out OK until I moved in and learned the type of person he was.
So I put up with it.

I could maybe find someone else to house share with, but, not knowing anyone personally
who knows what they might be like?
He's elderly and in poor health now so he is cooling it a bit with the remarks.
Still happens though.
His health is getting worse and he's getting the house ready to sell and move to
a 50 + seniour living community. Apartments w/a lot of ammenities.
Maybe there will at least be more freedom there and people to meet. See how it works out.

I see, thats a difficult situation. I am sorry that you have to deal with that.
 
I went to check that above link, scrolling down, l found 5 myths about female serial killers which was quite chilling. They usually know their victims whereas men hunt. - woman usually kill in places like hospital, daycare, home, unlike men. Another misconception- they kill for money not anger towards men. And they do kill other females and children. Just creepy.
Yes, check out Beverly Allit. She was a nurse who targeted young children in hospital.
I watch too much crime documentaries....
 
Yes, check out Beverly Allit. She was a nurse who targeted young children in hospital.
I watch too much crime documentaries....

I do too. I read true crime books. My brother who is on the spectrum was a detective for a major city in America.
 
Money/age/health

When left without any family, I needed a place to live.
I consulted my therapist, social workers, lawyers and placement consultants.
No one could find a place for me to live, not even a foster or group home, for the amount of
SSI and Soc. Sec I receive from my disabilities.

The system will put you in a nursing home because medicaid will pay for that.
The worst they can find and you must go to the one they choose. Could be anywhere in the state.
If you are disabled and can't be located in section 8 housing because you're deemed unable to live
alone, then you become a ward of the state.

So I knew this man and he has plenty of money, a large house he agreed to rent part of it to me
at a price I could afford because he wanted a companion, platonic, that could help him with
everyday chores. A win, win for him. Extra money and help around the house.
I thought it would work out OK until I moved in and learned the type of person he was.
So I put up with it.

I could maybe find someone else to house share with, but, not knowing anyone personally
who knows what they might be like?
He's elderly and in poor health now so he is cooling it a bit with the remarks.
Still happens though.
His health is getting worse and he's getting the house ready to sell and move to
a 50 + seniour living community. Apartments w/a lot of ammenities.
Maybe there will at least be more freedom there and people to meet. See how it works out.

Hope it works out for you. I am sorta stuck in the same boat. Having to go back to my abuser or have more horrendous abusers try to force me to live with them. So I am trying to keep the power play as balanced as l can- first no marriage ever again. Then separate bedrooms for life. And so on. I read this cool book on odds. You odds at life decrease the older you get. Like no more room for success, you just gotta leave the game and get on living. My abuser has mellowed some due to age and health issues also. Thank god.
 
Hope it works out for you. I am sorta stuck in the same boat. Having to go back to my abuser or have more horrendous abusers try to force me to live with them. So I am trying to keep the power play as balanced as l can- first no marriage ever again. Then separate bedrooms for life. And so on. I read this cool book on odds. You odds at life decrease the older you get. Like no more room for success, you just gotta leave the game and get on living. My abuser has mellowed some due to age and health issues also. Thank god.
All this is hard for me to hear and take in. Hearing about women abused or taken advantage of makes me feel very sad. And I am glad I could feel sad and not triggered (woulda' been triggered two months ago). At my loneliest I could see girls/women getting treated poorly and make snide comments, but looking back at that without lying to myself I recognize that I never acted to connect and give them a choice. That makes me sad. Mea culpa.
 
All this is hard for me to hear and take in. Hearing about women abused or taken advantage of makes me feel very sad. And I am glad I could feel sad and not triggered (woulda' been triggered two months ago). At my loneliest I could see girls/women getting treated poorly and make snide comments, but looking back at that without lying to myself I recognize that I never acted to connect and give them a choice. That makes me sad. Mea culpa.

The one thing l noticed about us here at the forum, it's hard to step outside of ourselves. I now see this in myself and others. So it's like the tunnel vision has lifted away or the black and white thinking has morped more to background static. It's just the way we are wired.
 
The term of legal insanity is problematic, because delusional criminals can understand the criminal charges against them, but were not tested accurately, and of course they do understand the criminal charges against them, they are adults, but the question of legal responsibility comes when there is even more evidence to suggest that they are delusional.

I think that definition of Not Criminally Responsible should be:

1) Irrational understanding of the consequences of their actions, due to severe neurodevelopental disorder

2) Might understand the nature of their actions, but had command hallucinations

3) Delusions clouded the judgments to make right legal decisions.

Although insanity defence is rarely successful, I am sure there are a little bit more people that are in prison but should be NCR
 
I have been wondering if some people are supposed to be NCR, they committed killing and hidden and bodies, but not because they understand the consequences of their actions, but because they don't want anyone to interfere with their delusions. Those types of delusional criminals are very intelligent, but hiding the bodies for the most part is an indacator that you know right from wrong, but in extremely rare situation, that is not always the case. As I watched those documentaries, most of those delusional criminals are very intelligent.
But those documentaries I watched is a little bit old, the reason why it's old, it's because those cases are rare, and statistically most people with mental health and neurodevelopmental disorders are more likely to be victims than being perpetrators.
 
Statistically, most people with mental health and neurodevelopmental disorders are more likely to be victims than being perpetrators.

I am very frustrated when I get falsely accused of stigmatizing mental illness when I explain that certain mental disorders highten the risk for criminal behavior, but the problem is that the blanket term "Mental illness" is too broad.

To be honest with you, people who committed serial criminal activities have severe personality disorder that causes antisocial traits, and delusions.

I even got accused of being more afraid of Schizophrenics, but that is not true. I am only afraid of people who have specific types of delusions that hightens the risk for criminal behavior. It's very frustrating. I am more afraid of people who have unhealthy twisted delusions that hightens the risk for criminal behavior, and those are personality disorders with antisocial traits and delusions, not Schizophrenia.

I was even accused of discriminating Antisocial Personality Disorder, and to people with Antisocial Personality Disorder that don't commit serious felonies, I am sorry, but the diagnostic criteria for Antisocial Personality Disorder includes elements of criminal behavior.

If most articles point out that crime is not a product of mental illness, and they really need to be specific about what mental disorders they are talking about, then it's ironic, because specific paraphilic disorders, Disruptive, Impulse Control and Conduct Disorders, especially Antisocial Personality Disorder includes elements of criminal behavior.

I was even accused of discriminating personality disorders as a whole, and that is not true, I was only talking about specific types of mental disorders that hightens the risk for criminal behavior.

Is there a stigma against mental disorders? The long answer is yes and no, it depends on what types of mental disorders we are talking about.
 
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