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Post What You Wish You Had Said To Whomever Was Last Rude To You.

This is what I wish I could have said to my female high school bully:
Why don’t you shut up? I don’t care about you! You are nothing but a [expletive] hypocritical piece of garbage! You are the ugliest person I know because your soul is the ugliest one I have ever seen and no amount of makeup, jewelry, or clothes will ever make you pretty in my eyes! Oh did I hurt your wittle feelings? [Expletive] you!

Just think of that with a bunch of bleeps.
 
You are the last of the patriarchs of the family. Please, fight and pray to get clean and sober. Go to counselling. Be kind to your elders. We need you.
 
'You keep using that word, and I do not think it means what you think it means...' Inigo, the Princess Bride
 
If I ever meet my tormentors and they recognise me the conversation will go like this
Me: Well, that's disappointing.
Tormentor: What is?
Me: You're not burning in hell where you belong.
 
"I'm sorry, you must have mistaken me for someone who gives crap."

"If I did things like you, then I'd be just as useless as you are. I'll do it my way, thanks."

BTW, I just made these up. I haven't had anyone be rude to me in any recent memory.
 
I have a growing notepad file on my phone where I write these exact kinds of things. If my phone is ever lost, and someone reads these, they'll probably think I'm a nutcase. My problem is that I actually say these things to people who are rude. I just blab them out without even thinking twice about it. Here's some actual examples:

(I was 15 and taking someone's groceries to their car - they parked on an incline, and their door kept wanting to shut on me - I put my hand out to hold it open, and my hand was on their window)
Person: Don't put fingerprints all over my window! Were you born in a barn or something!?
Me: No...but that Jesus guy was, and he was pretty cool.
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(a nerf ball landed in a neighbor lady's yard, and she dashed outside to snatch it and take it in her house - obviously, I went to knock on her door and find out the weird issue)
Lady: It's my ball, now. You shouldn't have let it come into my yard.
Me: I don't control wind patterns or what direction a ball bounces.
Lady: I don't care. It's mine now. You'll learn. I don't mean to be ugly, but...
Me: Oh, I know you can't help it. You were just born that way.
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I do have a lot of ones written down that I think of way after the fact, though. I definitely understand this.
 
Dagan said:
I have a growing notepad file on my phone where I write these exact kinds of things. If my phone is ever lost, and someone reads these, they'll probably think I'm a nutcase. My problem is that I actually say these things to people who are rude. I just blab them out without even thinking twice about it. Here's some actual examples:

(I was 15 and taking someone's groceries to their car - they parked on an incline, and their door kept wanting to shut on me - I put my hand out to hold it open, and my hand was on their window)
Person: Don't put fingerprints all over my window! Were you born in a barn or something!?
Me: No...but that Jesus guy was, and he was pretty cool.
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(a nerf ball landed in a neighbor lady's yard, and she dashed outside to snatch it and take it in her house - obviously, I went to knock on her door and find out the weird issue)
Lady: It's my ball, now. You shouldn't have let it come into my yard.
Me: I don't control wind patterns or what direction a ball bounces.
Lady: I don't care. It's mine now. You'll learn. I don't mean to be ugly, but...
Me: Oh, I know you can't help it. You were just born that way.
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I do have a lot of ones written down that I think of way after the fact, though. I definitely understand this.
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The thing I've come to know about human beings is that we all probably have something somewhere that if it were discovered out of context without explanation, others would conclude we are nutcases :-)

I like the jesus comment! That's going on my list for the future! :-)
 
Use them all you want to. Just be careful. I have blabbed things and get mean looks or people wanting to beat me up. Like one time, I had a crazy acting homeless guy keep coming up to me at a park and he really loudly asked me for change. So, I really loudly told him that I just accept things the way they are. He got pretty mad and started waving his arms around at me. Other people came and ran him off before I had to get defensive or anything. I made it worse is what I am saying, though. Oops.
 
Dagan said:
Use them all you want to. Just be careful. I have blabbed things and get mean looks or people wanting to beat me up. Like one time, I had a crazy acting homeless guy keep coming up to me at a park and he really loudly asked me for change. So, I really loudly told him that I just accept things the way they are. He got pretty mad and started waving his arms around at me. Other people came and ran him off before I had to get defensive or anything. I made it worse is what I am saying, though. Oops.
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I guess it's always a risk when you shine someone on. But I guess sometimes after the fact we think of something that would have been great in the moment. I think it's good sometimes to get these things off your chest and vent a bit of pressure rather than keeping things bottled up :)

The problem I have is when I'm stressed I develop a stammer so I end up mangling my retorts. So no one gets to hear my witty remarks :smilecat:
 
Quite older, now, I can get away with a bit more, and I imagine that I don't look like a pushover, either. We do what we have to per certain other "adults" in this world. Still, it is definitely safer to post in here than to blab. People have knife or gun courage way too much, and the last thing I want to do is encourage anyone to mouth off like I really shouldn't and don't actually mean to. As such, this thread could be never ending, I bet. I'll check it often.
 
Okay, actually I have a new one. There's another thread going about someone saying that the odds are stacked against them. I wouldn't tell them to say this...but if it was me...it would probably play out like this:

Them: "Hey, buddy, the odds are stacked against you!"
Me: "Hey, buddy, I'm autistic, and we f##king love numbers! Challenge accepted!"

See, this can go on and on. This is a great thread.
 
SusanLR said:
I am not a mind reader.
Why do you get angry when I don't know what you're talking about even though
it doesn't make sense?

You can't always get what you want, but if you open your mouth and clearly state what you want and need, 9 times out of 10 your spouse will respond positively.​

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For some strange reason this must be taught to people!
 
I would add:

If Autistic people have trouble understanding Allistic people, then it's only logical that misunderstanding goes the other way, too.

Just because I'm making a different choice than you doesn't mean I'm confused.

If I misunderstand you, it's not always my fault. If you misunderstand me, it's not always my fault.
 
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At an my old job I was given the task of ordering some items we needed. I did so, but the supplier seemed to be dragging their feet. I had sent an email the day before I had a rest day. I had been promised that a landline phone would be installed for my desk but it didn't happen. The day before my rest day the IT guy came to my office with a phone he said he would install. All good I thought.

So I had my day off and returned to work the day after. I was going through my emails to check if the supplier had responded and saw that they haven't. Then almost as soon as I had checked a "senior" colleague turned to me an rudely informed me I needed to call the supplier.

I didn't rise to it and just said I had chased it up via email but since they hasn't responded I would of course, call them.

Then I said "Oh did Andy install that phone he was talking about?" Looking around at my desk.

Senior guy then snarls at me with "NOOOO!?!? WHAT WOULD YOU NEED WITH A PHONE?!"

Now based on the "conversation" that lead to my inquiry, you might feel as I did, that the answer to that question would be self evident. But apparently not.

What I wanted to say was the following:

"Hmmm well let's see. A phone only has a limited range of use cases. But I could use it to jam in your rude little trap if you ever talk to me like that again!"

Unfortunately, I just said "Oh my mistake, he said he was going to install a phone."

To which he responded "No YOU don't get to have a phone!" Apparently phones were some sort of status symbol and the irony was lost on him. :smilecat: :smilecat:
 
^ We could have a long thread on workplace idiocy. I finally got dental insurance after 3.5 years. It's hard to imagine the incompetency behind that. Taking care of a one-page application shouldn't be such an event. Yet, these are people you must be nice to every day.

For a bunch of people with no social skills, we certainly learn to be expert diplomats.
 
Mr. Stevens said:
^ We could have a long thread on workplace idiocy. I finally got dental insurance after 3.5 years. It's hard to imagine the incompetency behind that. Taking care of a one-page application shouldn't be such an event. Yet, these are people you must be nice to every day.

For a bunch of people with no social skills, we certainly learn to be expert diplomats.
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Diplomacy seems to be something that most people here, the vast majority I would say, display almost to a fault!

It's weird how it often seems to be us who are accused of committing some bewildering faux Pas but apparently we aren't allowed to be upset when people do it to us.

And to be honest, a lot of people here seem to routinely put the feelings of others first. It's rather pleasant here. I wish the wider world was as nice! :-)
 
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