As you get older you'll gain perspective - if you let it happen.
If you make improvements on yourself, that's a win. The improvements are the results. Making improvements does not change the world, it changes you.
Odds of what? What does moving accomplish? There are valid practical reasons to move but people are pretty much the same all over. If you move but you take your problems with you you've accomplished little.
Yeah I am sure I need to work on myself. But it does seem like I never have the time to work on my personal life b/c I am constantly dealing with work problems. The last decade has been spent with my mind on work related things most of the time. Battling extreme anxiety in my first three years after college in a job that I disliked. Then I moved on and worked elsewhere for four years. There the work was a better fit, but it is the American way to squeeze every once of juice out of their employees. Especially in the world of public accounting. I was one of the best employees and the best employees typically get punished with a sentence of more work. Then I left for another job and stayed their almost 3 years. More flexibility their, but the work I did not enjoy as much and was not a good fit. They squeezed as much juice out of me as well though. Constant uncertainty in my life because I never really liked my work situation. Now I have moved on to private accounting and the work is a good fit, but as usual the department is way behind and shorthanded. What else is new. I also had some drama of leaving there and going back. It seems like I have been dealing with two straight years of tax season. In large part b/c out out of touch and clueless politicians have the arrogance to think they can actually do things to stop the pandemic, but they just make everything worse usually. Passing stupid laws that hand out monopoly money to people and companies that don't need it but take advantage of the system. I worked 70 hours this past week. Fun. Funny thing is I actually like the work for the most part, but I am tired of always working OT and getting paid salary. Legalized theft. They stole 30 hours of my life this week. I am not some anti-capitalist, but our leaders in government and businesses have failed tremendously in the last two decades.
I don't know how things were exactly when you were younger, but from my view American society has been on the decline the last 25 years ago. Greed, overindulgence, and laziness are doing us in. We may have many more material goods now, but we also have a much less healthy society as more and more people are overweight, are dealing with mental health issues, or drug issues or all of the above. Loneliness is a pervasive problem. All these things make it more difficult to date since the options have become much more limited especially as I get older. Also add in the number of single parents limits options even more. On the stupid apps, I am uninterested in almost all that happen to like me or whatever. In the state I live, I think I read that around 25% of college graduates leave the state. Seems to be an aging population in the state and in particularly the area I live in. When I go out, sometimes I wonder where all the young people have went. It seems like they have all disappeared. All these things make it more difficult to date. Heck, how will I find a significant other when I can't even find a date? Then throw in the dark, freezing, miserable winters and I feel totally hopeless. It feels like my life is entirely pointless and I am heading to unending bitterness and regrets. Few quality entertainment options. The dating sites don't even have any events because the area I live in is not big enough.
I have some hobbies that I enjoy such as running. I go to a running group most weeks, but there are not young people there. I am the youngest person typically by 15-20 years and the male/female ratio is about 95/5. But the group is probably 15 strong in the winter. Again, I don't know where all the young people are. Then at work, I feel like almost everyone is older than me. Few dating opportunities there. Plus I don't know where all the workers are. It is a fairly big office, but feels like no one is there. People working from home maybe, but I was told the CEO wants people there to promote company culture. LOL.
So here I am. Since I am a white male, I apparently have every privilege there is in the book and my life is so easy. That is according to CNN at least, and we know how reliable source of info they are. But the reality is, the only thing society wants from a man is for them to work and pay in taxes. We are used and abused. I was failed every step of the way by schools, the health care system, family, friends, and employers.
, it's time to look at your work/life balance.
