@ Kelly: I'm glad you & your husband are being so supportive of Kyoko's dreams. She's lucky to have you.
Thank you! I showed her the theatre yesterday before we left for her street dance class and in the car she said "your the best parents ever and I'm so happy I'm your daughter" she then went on and on about how her friends parents don't let them do anything, don't take them to classes they love or play with them or really talk to them much other then the usual(get dressed, eat your breakfast, be quiet etc).
I find that so sad, we talk to Kyoko all the time about allsorts of things and we've had some very interesting debates / conversations with her. For example last night we had the para - olympics on TV whilst she was getting ready for bed and we ended up talking about various physical disabilities. She couldn't fathom why they were not allowed to compete in the 'normal' olympics and that they were people too so why did they have to be separated. She raised some good points so we went on to explain how they would not be physically matched because a man in a wheelchair playing basketball would have a disadvantage to a man who was capable of walking so they do it so it's fair on everyone.
Kelly, That is sooo awesome first of all for your daughters debue. I hope it all goes well. I hope school is going better for her now? Or are you still struggling with her being overly stimulated? Hugs.
So far school has been a bit mixed, every single morning we have massive tantrums over her clothes irritating her which I can't do much about because she has to wear a uniform, the best I can do is get larger sizes so they don't fit too snug. She has her chewigem and a few fidget toys in her bag to keep her calm, she's used them a few times but not a whole lot, as always it's afterschool when the meltdowns happen.
Thursday she came out of school looking miserable, she practically threw her bag at me and just stood there, so I asked what was wrong, she wouldn't answer. So I went through the usual questions - has someone said/done or not said/not done something? did you fall, was the noise too much? did you eat/touch/smell/feel something that upset you. She just stared into space not answering and began to flap her arms, then she just stopped and screamed at me "I can't believe you don't even know!" folded her arms and started crying. So then we had 10 minutes of trying to figure out what it was before we finally got it out of her, she'd run into one of the other kids, banging her head and she had a red mark on her head, neither of us noticed it because we had sunglasses on(and were standing in the shade of a tree). My husband had to carry her home, she was crying the whole way and wouldn't talk, we went past one of her best friends who shouted hello to her and asked if she was okay but she just turned her head away and wailed even louder.
We got home she calmed down, we played for a bit and then I started talking to her about her day (because I know that the head banging was just the last straw and it would have been several things built up over the day that caused her to lose it like that). Long story short they had a really big spelling test which she found incredibly stressful, couldn't concentrate and then was enraged when the teacher marked one word wrong because she had used a capital, she'd spelt it correctly but had used a capital at the beginning. Of course Kyoko being Kyoko tried to argue the point that she had in fact spelt it right and the capital should make no difference (essentially I agree with her, it was a spelling test not a grammar one) but the teacher just told her off and said it was wrong and that she should know not to use a capital for that word.
She was also really upset over the head banging thing because it was one of her old friends who she doesn't really play with anymore (they grew apart) and she didn't say sorry. So then I had to explain that the girl didn't bump into her on purpose, wasn't being mean and was either in a rush or was just a bit rude and that's why she dind't say sorry there was no other motive behind it.
Then one of her male friends said something mean to her that made her upset and she had to chew on her chewigem to calm down, the 'nasty thing' he'd said was that her portrait of one of their classmates wasn't very good. Again I had to explain that he still liked her, still wanted to be her friend, that he wasn't being as horrendously offensive as she thought and that it was just a silly little remark that didn't mean anything to him and that her drawing was probably very good and maybe he was just a little jealous or something.
Then she had to stay in class late at lunch to finish her work and was late getting to lunch which made her miss alot of playtime. She also had a run in with her best friend at afternoon play, they were playing chess and Kyoko took one of her pawns, her friend got really annoyed so Kyoko said she'd make it up to her. Then we had 10 minutes of her begging me to buy a pineapple flavour lip balm that her friend really wants and that her friend said she would not be her friend anymore unless she got it...this really annoyed me because that is blackmail and I suffered alot of blackmail at her age because I so desperately wanted friends and ended up doing silly things to gain and / or keep 'friends'. I explained to her that this friend does not sound like much of a friend if she is saying stuff like that, Kyoko disagreed and said it was her own fault because she promised she would make it up to her and she can't break a promise. This sort of thing is happening more frequently, she gets taken advantage of or feels pressured to do things and she never sees that it's the other person who is in the wrong / taking advantage of her nice nature.
We've had lots of other incidents but Thursday was the big one (she also had a massive meltdown on Tuesday) she's only been back for 4 days, I'm dreading next week particularly Tuesday because e don't have time to play on that day because it's home, eat, off to dance class, bed when she gets home and if she doesn't get to play monster high she loses it big time. I think I'll let her stay up 30 mins later on a Tuesday just so we can squeeze in 20 or so minutes of playing monster high, otherwise it will be meltdown Tuesday every single week.
Oh what kind of dress are you having made? I've seen a really cute pink lolita dress but I have absolutely no cash to spend on myself right now, it's all going on Kyoko and then I have our anniversary then my husband's birthday, no treats for me until next year now.
I can't believe your work place are not doing more to stop this guy, could they not at least say to him next time he's in if he continues to bother you then he will be banned from the store? It might be enough to keep him from doing the creepy stuff anymore, he might stare at you or something but it might scare him enough so that he just get son with shopping and leaves promptly.
really stressed about my uni course work which I'm doing and deadline is today, which I have done, but the course involves a 3 week online daily participating research project (mouthful) so a hell of a lot of work and some statistics (aaarrrgghhh). Anyway, have felt really agitated and anxious which is being made worse by noise generated by workmen outside which really unnerves/agitates me. Just having a stressful and anxious day 
