Unexpected Effect of Asperger's Diagnosis

[Julia 27]

Before I was diagnosed, I had reasonable confidence in my ability to interact socially, although I was constantly frustrated at how others seem to 'get it' and I seemed to be missing something and didn't know why. But I knew how to behave in the various scenarios of my work and personal life. Alcohol was very helpful (up to a point!) with socializing. A crutch, I hate to admit.

People with whom I share my diagnosis are usually surprised, 'you seem perfectly normal to me' reactions. But not always. Some people have been honest saying 'that explains why you say strange and unexpected things sometimes,' which I appreciate.

I've lost most of my self-confidence in social situations as a result of this. I'm no longer comfortable around people, even people I know fairly well, except my closest friends. I wonder if I've misread people all this time. I no longer feel assured that my 'pre-programming' of social scenarios is sound and effective. Sort of like back to Square 1! Can anyone relate to this, and if so, what'd you do about it?

 

[Julia 27]

Totally relate to what you are saying
I am 60 ish and was diagnosed a couple of years ago but am finding i am withdrawing more socially
Part of the problem is that NT's have such a need to talk and I am quite happy with silence as a lot of what is said is not all that important or interesting so i like to be left to my own thoughts and silence. And too much socialising that comes with the SILLY SEASON is exhausting me. Does anyone relate to what I am saying?