What are you trying to overcome?

[Aspychata]

We are all here as collective colleges helping each other thru what feels like unsurmoutable obstacles. What is your current obstacle that you need to vent about?

 

[Outdated]

The huge obstacle I'm still trying to overcome is in trying to regain my regular sleep patterns, they were destroyed by SSRIs, but I don't feel a need to vent about it. Instead I'm getting involved with research projects and policy makers in order to change current policies and give better protections to autistic people in the future.

From my Great Grandmother when I was little - "If you don't like something, change it. And if you can't change it then there's no point whingeing to me about it.".

 

[Neri]

My pattern of being abused. It stems from my cptsd. And my poverty and welfare dependancy.

 

[Outdated]

I grew up around some very hard people but they'd had tough lives and had to be like that. They were always kind and generous to others but hard within themselves because the alternative would lead to depression.

"You have to laugh, otherwise you'd cry."
"If I kick you in the shins will it help take your mind off it?"

Discussing issues in a constructive way trying to find answers is a good thing, dwelling on issues in a self destructive way is not.

 

[Neri]

I'm lucky I have my my various art forms I enjoy, that are reperative. I'm lucky I've had children to "pull myself up by my bootstraps" for. I'm fortunate I have finally got a safe and comfortable and affordable enough place to live and I have, and am in the process of obtaining, enough supports to set myself up for success.

 

[Outdated]

I'm lucky I have my my various art forms I enjoy, that are reperative. I'm lucky I've had children to "pull myself up by my bootstraps" for. I'm fortunate I have finally got a safe and comfortable and affordable enough place to live and I have, and am in the process of obtaining, enough supports to set myself up for success.

Things always seem to come your way more often if you can stay positive like that, you're doing well.

It's a nice area you're living in too, I lived in Middle Park for 6 years and loved it, I lived in Hambledon Street and I used to drink in the Montague Hotel. That was almost 30 years ago though. Used to have mates come over and stay with me every year when the Grand Prix was on, you might not enjoy that so much when it comes around again, seriously loud.

 

[Neri]

Things always seem to come your way more often if you can stay positive like that, you're doing well.

It's a nice area you're living in too, I lived in Middle Park for 6 years and loved it, I lived in Hambledon Street and I used to drink in the Montague Hotel. That was almost 30 years ago though. Used to have mates come over and stay with me every year when the Grand Prix was on, you might not enjoy that so much when it comes around again, seriously loud.

I won't enjoy it. I live SO CLOSE. I hear those noisy beasts, sometimes late at night. They give all the people here free tickets but there is no way I'd enjoy it. I'm gonna have to invest in some serious noise cancelling headphones to get through that one.

 

[Outdated]

I won't enjoy it. I live SO CLOSE. I hear those noisy beasts, sometimes late at night. They give all the people here free tickets but there is no way I'd enjoy it. I'm gonna have to invest in some serious noise cancelling headphones to get through that one.

I thoroughly recommend you getting some decent noise cancelling headphones when you can afford them, just for general use. I hate wearing mine but sometimes that's better than listening to my alcoholic neighbours.

The Grand Prix is only for 4 days though and it usually quietens down around sunset when everyone heads in to the city, maybe a good time to stay with your son for a bit?

 

[Neri]

I thoroughly recommend you getting some decent noise cancelling headphones when you can afford them, just for general use. I hate wearing mine but sometimes that's better than listening to my alcoholic neighbours.

The Grand Prix is only for 4 days though and it usually quietens down around sunset when everyone heads in to the city, maybe a good time to stay with your son for a bit?

I wish. Nah, can't stay there. Maybe I can hit up my ndis people for the STA funding again. STA stands for Short Term Accomodation. I stayed at Mantra, fancy place in nth melbourne, when I was homeless, late last year with that funding. My plan gets reviewed in early may. When does the grand prix happen?

 

[Outdated]

When does the grand prix happen?

Unfortunately it's only 3 weeks away, 13 to 16 March. Hitting up NDIS is a good idea, it would save you a lot of stress.

 

[Neri]

Damn. I want out for this. I will check see if they'll put me up. My last ndis funded org. which were in nsw, kind of bleeped me over when I went up nth to get some of my important stuff a month or so ago. I am due for new people down here. I want an org. of all neurodivergeys.
These guys Support Coordination — Independent Support Coordination

 

[Neonatal RRT]

At 58, things that could be changed in my life, have, for the most part. The rest, well, I play the cards in my hand as best I can.

I still have plenty of goals in life, things left undone that I am working towards, but I don't think any of them have anything to do with mental or physical health.

 

[Outdated]

It certainly can't hurt to ask them. I have a bit of a problem with phones and prefer to walk through the front door and speak to people in person, not sure if that's practical for you or not but if you can doing that usually gets better results. It's easier to just fob someone off when they're on the phone, entirely different kettle of fish when you're leaning over their desk.

 

[Neri]

It certainly can't hurt to ask them. I have a bit of a problem with phones and prefer to walk through the front door and speak to people in person, not sure if that's practical for you or not but if you can doing that usually gets better results. It's easier to just fob someone off when they're on the phone, entirely different kettle of fish when you're leaning over their desk.

I prefer in person too.

 

[vergil96]

Well, I'm worried if my autism will act up when I staet the new job. I don't feel like I can predict what can set off overstimulation and nonverbal episodes and I really need to function and speak for my job. I need money and it's not a tough job, hey, the fridge won't fill itself alone...

 

[Aspychata]

Right now, it feels like a ton of obstacles and l can't jump over any of them, l don't want to fall into helplessness, but l feel back at that door right now, and it feels bleak like Charles Dicken's Bleak House.

 

[Rodafina]

Unemployment.

I've tried a few jobs recently and it didn't work out. I'm wondering what I can do for work that won't send me marching back into permanent burnout.

 

[Judge]

Something that happens every year.

-Winter. My least favorite season. Which seems to get just a little more difficult each year no matter how harsh- or not winter actually is.

 

[Ken]

For me - Depression.

My depression is due to a lack of personal value. I have never experienced any indication of personal value - ever in my life. Plenty of professional value, but nothing personal. All my life, I have felt rejected. I have always felt like a Quasimodo.

Except for one point in my life, I felt personal value when I got married. I was on the top of the world. What a profound contrast. I got married in 1996 when I was 44 years old. However, within about a year, I found that my wife's attraction to me was because she did not know me. At that point, my "value" dropped to what it had been for all the years prior to 1996, which was always negative. Not just zero, but negative. Thus, I realized that my personal value was never good, it was all a misunderstanding. Trying to discuss this with my wife inflicts extreme anger. I think this is because when speaking on this subject, I am unable to mask, thus everything I say is misinterpreted. I am amazed that she hasn't kicked me out yet. I'm still here, but suicidally depressed.

Recently, I have hired a therapist that advertises that she specializes in autism. I wanted someone who can interpret for me. We have had 4 sessions so far, but still no resolution. I guess I can't judge as yet because I guess it's not over yet. I have expressed to her my issue and asked her to ask my wife what, if anything she likes about me. This was asked on the first session - what I wanted to be the subject matter. Still no answer. Instead the sessions are focused on "couples therapy". I guess that's fine, but does not answer my question or alleviate my depression. When directly asked, "what is my value" everyone was silent.

Please wish me luck!!

 

[Ken]

Unemployment.

I've tried a few jobs recently and it didn't work out. I'm wondering what I can do for work that won't send me marching back into permanent burnout.

Of course I don't know you situation, but I have seen a lot of your photography and It is astonishing - totally mesmerising. It is better than most professional photographers.

Have you considered or tried to make that a career?

At least for me, doing something I am not interested or passionate about will burn me out in an instant. I assume you are interested in photography, because if not, I don't think you could be that good at it.