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Tony Ramirez

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  • I approached an attractive woman after yoga how was the class. She was so friendly. She talked to me. She also helped me holding my bag to put my mat in.
    Google will now force block and blur any cleavage in images even if it's not nude but they will show explicit language uncensored with safe search on.
    tree
    tree
    Sounds like you're dis-satisfied on 2 counts.
    What do you plan to do about that?
    Use another search engine?
    MildredHubble
    MildredHubble
    Any cleavage? Seems a little ridiculous, kinda basically assuming women's bodies are just sexualised objects that need to be hidden and censored. If there were nude images, then I could understand the need to censor. But to be impartial, they should do the same with images of men's chests.
    Misery
    Misery
    I looked this up out of curiosity. The thing can be turned off (so it says, anyway)
    How can I resist the urge to look at attractive woman? They are literally everywhere.
    tree
    tree
    This urge to look isn't the problem, is it?
    If there's a *problem* it would be what you say to yourself when
    you see them.
    Why are there no events Friday or Saturday evening for me? Those nights are so boring for me.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    Room for trying something totally new, perhaps?
    I though third time was a charm. That woman I been talking to was at the Wednesday dinner this evening. At the end I took a elevator and walked her outside to say goodnight. I still chickened out by not exchanging numbers.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    What if you forget about getting her number and just enjoy her company so you are not stressing about it?

    Then you could relax and let things happen naturally.

    There is no rule stating you must
    1. Speak to girl.
    2. Exchange numbers.
    3. Coffee date.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    She said she was single so now I know that. But you are right. I enjoy her company. I do get overwhelmed and stressed thinking of those three rules.
    Once again after church I talked to a woman I meet last week. Again I had an opportunity to ask to exchange numbers during the end of our conversation as she seem interesting in talking to me more, but I blew it by saying nothing, chickened out yet again.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    It just seems like a perfect opportunity missed. I did Google "too afraid to ask a girl her number" and it's quite common, not a ASD thing either.
    tree
    tree
    Sounds like you're close to the time when asking for a number
    will be a thing you can do. When it's comfortable enough for
    you, you'll do it.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    I keep on telling you to think like a cat. My little furballs are never shy about asking for what they want.
    Except for spotting two woman at the park, every woman had a man attracted to them.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I know that. I have to believe that.
    AdamG
    AdamG
    Are you going to the park for the sole purpose of meeting women? Are you not going to also enjoy the park?
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    A little bit of both. But I go just about anywhere to meet woman. It's a part of me. I know. I can't help it.
    My complaints journal is been getting less complaints this past two weeks. Been getting more neutral and positive things.
    AdamG
    AdamG
    You are awesome. I have seen you grow so much in just a few weeks. :)
    Although I am trying to get better the sight of face masks still tick me off and I sometimes lose my temper but less than before.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    It’s good to notice progress and think about what is helping.
    If a younger version of myself can see me now he will be shocked that I can socialize by joining groups, going to yoga and approaching women.
    You know what, my life is not that bad. I have no debt. A roof over my head. I am healthy. I got a lot of positive things and positive people in my life from my family they don't sometimes show it (they still love me) but my friends, therapists, and yoga instructors.
    I was bummed my therapist postponed our session until Friday, but I did tell her briefly that I approached and talked to a woman for a long time on Sunday. She was proud and we will talk in more detail on Friday.
    It's true most of the time woman don't come up to you for a conversation you have to come up to them no matter how difficult it is.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I am also finding out that doing it is not as impossible as it seems.
    AdamG
    AdamG
    How I ended up meeting my partner was in a class we both took. I tried talking to her every week for 7 weeks until I did. It was scary, heck yes. But I'm so glad I did.
    S
    Steelbookcollector217
    Adam, you said you didn't meet your wife until your 40s right? i assume you had girlfriends in your 20s
    Just now a woman who I thought was stuck up to me in yoga class today politely said bye Tony after class. She's been too a few of my classes. I judge woman too easily.
    M
    Mary Terry
    I think you do judge women too harshly but you're making progress, Tony. Keep on being friendly, be open to everyone, try to start up a little conversation with people you encounter and remember that every interaction you have with other people is a step forward. It takes a lot of practice.
    AdamG
    AdamG
    Women may often be shy to start conversations. "Stuck up" might just be "introverted". I'm glad you started thinking about this.
    AdamG
    AdamG
    speaking of which, I've been called "Snobby" or "Stuck Up" so many times. But I'm not. I'm afraid to talk, and in conversations, I don't know what to say.
    Approached another woman I don't know at the church lunch today. We had a long conversation. Only big regret was I did not exchange numbers. I hope I see her again. If I see her I will talk to her.
    AdamG
    AdamG
    That is wonderful news. You have really made some progress :) And, now you can look forward to seeing her again to get her number too.
    Though my week was going to be good but started out real bad. Hurt my foot. Tripped over a sheet. In pain. Ruined my plans. Might not be able to do yoga or the gym for a few days.
    I actually talked to a attractive woman after yoga class. She did not scream, run away or was rude to me. She was friendly back. Yes my hands were shaking and I was nervous but I did it.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I just wish it gets easier each time.
    MildredHubble
    MildredHubble
    It will! I believe it takes 27 attempts at something to become comfortable and confident with it, that's the theory anyway! Why not have a little chat with her every time you see her? If she seems like she has to rush off don't take it personally. Just be like if she wants to talk great if she doesn't, ah no big deal. Like the guy in the movie Office Space! Worth a watch :-)
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    Now you need to learn the signals of interest in you from the women you are approaching.
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