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Tony Ramirez

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    Why is Facebook the worst place to meet single women? I pour out my heart there and only couples reply or want to be my friend.
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    Tony Ramirez
    It's a terrible place to meet singles as there not any in the groups I am in. There profile pics show their husbands and kids so it's terrible.
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    tree
    I don't really know why you'd expect to meet anybody on facebook.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Now I know I won't. I am just annoyed how others meet on Facebook. I would close my account but I have some logins linked to it.
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    A woman not old but younger said hello to me. I then started a conversation with her. We talked before yoga class.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Good because when she talked to me, I was putting away my earbuds, and I was so nervous that I took the tip off and nearly lost it.
    Judge
    Judge
    Taking those first steps is always tough. But what's important is not how they went so much that you dared to take them as a start. Well done.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Thanks.
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    Yoga class only had one old married guy that showed up. He is a regular that knows me. Matter of fact, only the old students older than my mother know me by name, besides the teachers. It's kind of annoying.
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    Tony Ramirez
    I just tired of knowing old people, single guys and married woman. Before you say anything, a big no, they don't know anyone who is single.
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    tree
    I had no intention of suggesting that these older people might know some single females.

    What I was thinking was that you don't seem to actually hold people in very high regard,
    aside from females of a certain age group. Otherwise you seem to find them without value.
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    Tony Ramirez
    I am trying to change that thinking after thinking that my entire life.
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    I found out that my church friends are not true friends . They don't give a crap for me when I was in crisis mode.
    AprilR
    AprilR
    In my experience most of the time, you will go through these times alone. Other people have no idea about the things we struggle with.
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    @Tony Ramirez
    What would have been the right thing for them to do?
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    Sorry for posting negative messages again. I just want to be in a relationship.
    Misery
    Misery
    Honestly, dont worry about it. You're doing so very, very much better than you had been before, and that's something to really be proud of.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Thanks.
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    I hate going to some social event and being completely ignored.
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    Forest Cat
    Forest Cat
    Yeah it can be difficult to talk with people at gatherings. At a social gathering with many people it's not unusual that people get into other peoples conversation. I don't know, it's about engaging people and just talking and making them talk. People who are good at this often have lots of practice/experience.
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    Tony Ramirez
    How do I practice if I have no one to talk too most of the time and my mother is bad. Tells me to cut the and get over it. Then gets angry at me.
    Forest Cat
    Forest Cat
    I guess you have to get experience wherever you can. You do go to gatherings where there are many people, so that's a good start. But I know it's difficult, I wouldn't mind being better at it myself.
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    Please don't say I am missing on good friendships with men and old people. They might know some one. Trust me their daughter, sister, cousin, friends are all married or in a relationship so stop it.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    You could use it as a chance to practice being sociable and schmoozing. Learn that with old people and soon you will be schmoozing women.

    The Art of Schmoozing​

    1 Understand the goal. ...

    2 Get out. ...

    3 Ask good questions, then shut up. ...

    4 Unveil your passions. ...

    5 Read voraciously. ...

    6 Follow up. ...

    7 Make it easy to get in touch. ...

    8 Give favors.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Good tips. Thanks.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    Now decide your goal and practice.

    Y'know how we can miss so much, especially about relationships. Here is a great song about that.

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    My family keeps asking if I am going out tonight. I keep saying I have no place to go on Friday nights. It's depressing I have no one to hang out with like a woman on Friday and or Saturday nights.
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    How was your week? Why is that question asked the most? It's hard for us to answer sometimes.
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    One that gets me is 'what are you doing today? '
    I'm doing what I usually do. What else would I be doing?
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    All old women talked to me today. There was only two old women at yoga class.

    Then on my way home a grandmother complimented me on my green jacket saying we match.

    Really it can't be younger women talking to me.
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    Forest Cat
    Forest Cat
    Things change, lots of people who are in relationships today will be single next month. I think it's smart to have a big network, to know many people. No matter what their personal status is. People often meet people through someone they know. A friend of a friend or work colleague or whatever.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Not if they are married and just had a kid. I encounter a lot of people they know that the woman sister, relative or friend is married.
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    @Tony Ramirez "...all of their friends and relatives are married or in relationships."
    And like I said to Markness about that, So what?

    Why have such a small heart? Are you not able to enjoy people? Don't brush them
    off as worthless. You might be able to learn from them.
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    The yoga studio I go to is becoming like a second home too me.
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    You feel comfortable there, in the surroundings and with the teachers.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Sometimes I feel uncomfortable around the students since most of the time it's different students. Only one student knows me by name and she is not a regular.

    The teachers I am completely comfortable around and have good communication with them.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Here is progress on the canoe. I am making the botton out of Western Red Cedar. I will do one side to the centerline and then mirror the other side. There is a lot of stress in the wood with curvature in several dimensions. That has slowed progress.
    20230314_154225.jpg
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    Tony Ramirez
    Thought so. Still good to share.
    What is stencil the hull?
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    She has a pattern that is cut out from waxed paper. She will orient it on the hull and use non-running markers to fill in the pattern.

    Here is a canoe I made. The diamond pattern along the side was stenciled onto the wood then covered with fiberglass/epoxy.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Thanks for explaining.
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