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Tony Ramirez

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    I felt intimidated in yoga class. This attractive woman in class before and during did a three legged dog with her foot high up and bended.

    I was only able to put my leg back and hold it for about five seconds but the teacher said she is still proud of me.
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    tree
    tree
    It sounds like you're doing fine.
    You can do things now that Tony didn't even used to consider doing.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Thanks.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    You are putting forth the effort, and that is being appreciated. Good going. Now just think. Make such an effort in interacting with people, and I gaurantee that single women will take notice, just as your teacher has. By putting the effort into being relationship material, soon you will be successful in making a connection. Good Luck!
    T
    My personal journal has gotten a lot of complaints today. Feels good venting.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    It is good that you are venting to your journal. I hope by doing that you can get those negative feelings out and then act accepting towards people. Being known as a pleasant person would be attractive to people noticing you.
    T
    Why am I so depressed today? Is it because I could not do a yoga class because they are closed Saturday?
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    Possibly. You are getting positive feedback from your participation and that must be a mood booster for you.
    T
    I don't know if I should go to church tomorrow. The way I feel now if new or old couples and married woman come up to me I might say something to them I will regret later.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    You are letting your biases get ahead of you. You have been having successes, especially with Yoga, and I think you need to remember those successes and open yourself to others. Yesterday the boy I am mentoring and I had a great discussion after this scene where the protagonist opens himself up to life and accepting the love of friends and family.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    I would hate for you to avoid an important part of your life. Just use the confidence you have earned to avoid prejudging people and open yourself up to life. do that and you will be prepared to open yourself to a relationship and perhaps a lover. Small steps . . . start with the people you may otherwise dismiss and grow from there.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Thanks. It's just been extra hard this week to think positively. Yoga been helping. However today they are closed.
    T
    I apologize to the leader of the Thursday life group after my saying last night during group that I want nothing to do with couples or married women. She said even though she is married I hope we can be friends.
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    Markness
    Markness
    One of my best friends is a married woman.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Same here. One of my best friends is a married man. The problem is I try to emulate him. He met his wife at lifegroup so when I go I expect the same. He says I need to change that though.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    Purge yourself of expectations, that is too ego driven. You must live in the present with the people available to you and appreciate every connection you can make.
    T
    I had a private class and a private group session at the yoga studio because no one else showed up.
    tree
    tree
    Good for showing up.
    Did you do anything new?
    T
    My yoga teacher said she is confident I will meet that special someone.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    I hope that this gives you confidence in noticing when somebody is interested in connecting and you can approach them.
    T
    I been talking to my yoga teachers like I talk to my therapist and they are great at responding nicely and saying I am a good person.
    T
    My mother says for my singleness. If it's meant to be its meant to be.
    Gerontius
    Gerontius
    That could be optimistic (acceptance over pining for what isn't), or it could be something else. I don't know your mom's personality. Try to take it as a positive and keep on improving
    Gerontius
    Gerontius
    - - because you're really making some major progress on your life
    T
    I am listening to this song on repeat.
    I remember hearing it on the now defunct Kiss FM in high school my sophomore year in New York.
    T
    It's senor citizen day at yoga class today. Really it's all old people except for one younger guy.
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    tree
    tree
    Even though you know the masked individual will do you no harm,
    it still happens that you revert to the story that scares you. But you're
    working on it. You managed to stay in the class and try.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    You stayed through class. Sounds like you didn’t yell at him. You were exposed to your phobia and you survived. Keep this as evidence for next time.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Forgot to say, but later in the class two younger woman showed up. One was friendly saying I was not in her way and smiled at me so that helped.
    T
    I'm trying to be positive but life group tonight is a miserable experience hearing how three couples meet there spouses.
    T
    I blew two chances one yesterday and today to talk to an woman after yoga class after she was friendly and said hi. The other one had the same mat holder who she compliment me on.

    The issue is thar they were both attractive which makes it harder to talk too.
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    Tony Ramirez
    The thing is I can talk to one of my yoga teachers who is very attractive and have good conversations but when I talk to her I sweat buckets everytime.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    Never confuse attractiveness with worth. Because I thought myself ugly and unworthy, I felt intimidateed by attractive women. Little did I recognize that women look for more than attractiveness much of the time. The comedian, Red Green put it succinctly: "If the women don't find you handsome, they should at least find you handy."
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    My wellness group at the yoga studio is canceled because no one bothers to sign up. I was looking forward to it since last week. I wanted to expand my social circle past my church groups.

    I am going to Justin life group instead. Which is part of my church group.
    T
    Unlike last night when I tried to socialize with a female student and two if them were rude and one gave me a weird stare. I talked to a woman after class and she was friendly. I knew she was as earlier she said hi and smiled at me so I knew approaching her after class she would be nice.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    Way to go! You will surely encounter rude types and it is better to find out right off. Those that are pleasant and make connection easy are the reward for putting up with people carrying baggage. All it takes is meeting one accepting woman with harmonious interests. You are doing well.
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