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Tony Ramirez

Tony Ramirez

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  • Tony Ramirez
    I blew two chances one yesterday and today to talk to an woman after yoga class after she was friendly and said hi. The other one had the same mat holder who she compliment me on.

    The issue is thar they were both attractive which makes it harder to talk too.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    The thing is I can talk to one of my yoga teachers who is very attractive and have good conversations but when I talk to her I sweat buckets everytime.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    Never confuse attractiveness with worth. Because I thought myself ugly and unworthy, I felt intimidateed by attractive women. Little did I recognize that women look for more than attractiveness much of the time. The comedian, Red Green put it succinctly: "If the women don't find you handsome, they should at least find you handy."
    Tony Ramirez
    My wellness group at the yoga studio is canceled because no one bothers to sign up. I was looking forward to it since last week. I wanted to expand my social circle past my church groups.

    I am going to Justin life group instead. Which is part of my church group.
    Tony Ramirez
    Unlike last night when I tried to socialize with a female student and two if them were rude and one gave me a weird stare. I talked to a woman after class and she was friendly. I knew she was as earlier she said hi and smiled at me so I knew approaching her after class she would be nice.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    Way to go! You will surely encounter rude types and it is better to find out right off. Those that are pleasant and make connection easy are the reward for putting up with people carrying baggage. All it takes is meeting one accepting woman with harmonious interests. You are doing well.
    Tony Ramirez
    I am dealing with rude woman better with rejection. I had two who were rude at yoga class. One slammed the door in my face and when I talked to the other one she completely ignored me. But I did not let it ruin my day and my mood is good as I focus on the yoga. I also like talking to the teacher who is super friendly after class.
    S
    Slime_Punk
    This can be said about anybody so it's not a jab, but some women really have a vendetta against men. I'm glad you're handling it well and not taking it personally.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    You have made great progress! With that attitude you may be making yourself more attractive to a serious, accepting, woman who appreciates people. I hope you run into one of those.
    Tony Ramirez
    A woman who knows me from church approached me at the park. Too bad that the guy who is lucky and clings to her also lives in my neighborhood. Probably her boyfriend by now.
    tree
    tree
    Literally clings to her? Like touching her?
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    No but I always see them together. Even when she is by herself eventually he comes.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    He showed up about 10 minutes after talking to her.
    Tony Ramirez
    Has this happened to you go to talk to someone you know but it's the wrong person a stranger and you feel embarrassed. It happened today. The woman was confused.
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    S
    Slime_Punk
    Do you have trouble with facial recognition? I do, so I hardly approach anybody first for that reason!
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    She was Asian. So is my yoga teacher. Lot of them look the same.
    Slightly
    Slightly
    I got so tired of introducing myself to people and then discovering I already know them that I no longer introduce myself. I just say 'hey'.
    Tony Ramirez
    I am bumbed my monthly membership from the Yoga studio is going up. The owner said because of rent. It's still way cheaper than if I paid for each class separately.
    Tony Ramirez
    Downward facing dog hurts my arms.
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    Raggamuffin
    Raggamuffin
    You shouldn't focus on competitiveness or peacocking. Best not risk injury. Pushing yourself is good, but listen to your gut - enjoy the poses, playfully. Try and ease off the negative thinking if such thoughts pop into your head. And breath through it all - deeply.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Thanks. I am told if I can't do the downward dog, I can just do a child pose.
    Raggamuffin
    Raggamuffin
    What matters is what you tell yourself. I'm sure you'll get there.
    Martial Arts Yoga GIF by Xbox
    Tony Ramirez
    Why are people with ASD ignored by others, even in a group?
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I actually like to be around NT people but only the nice ones. I agree I do find their topics to be boring. When they keep changing the subject is annoying as I am still on the last subject. Except here of course I don't mind talking with ASD.
    LadyS
    LadyS
    Can only speak for myself but I used to get ignored too until one day I realized it was because of the reasons you've stated.. staying on the last topic of discussion instead of moving with the flow of the conversation, and if you do it enough times (along with not listening and commenting on what others are saying which I would do) people will impulsively ignore you other times as well unfortunately.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    In a group, I often get ignored because I don’t have the will to fight to be heard.

    Another reason that I am ignored is because I make myself invisible, so that works out in my favor when I don’t actually want to be in the group.
    Tony Ramirez
    Life group was stressful today. There were over ten people there and whenever I tried to talk the dog will start barking and the doorbell would ring.

    Yet when the others talked on and on they were not inturruped until I tried to talk then I was inturruped.

    What is up with that?
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I seen that happen your right.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    Still sucks. :imp:
    S
    Slime_Punk
    I've had this happen, too! I definitely think for me it's usually a self-fulfilling prophecy because I won't return to saying much after the interruption and assume everyone has tuned me out, which definitely doesn't help the issue.

    Sometimes, though, this really does happen to people. I've witnessed it from afar and it's like luck / magic just isn't on their side for the day. It's a weird phenomenon.
    Tony Ramirez
    My yoga teacher says I am the only student who went to every teacher.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    They are separate classes. One teacher might only teach in the morning. While other teacher only teach in the evening.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Also all four teachers know me on a first name basis.
    tree
    tree
    Sure, you're the guy that shows up regularly and is putting his heart into it.
    Tony Ramirez
    Why do I keep freezing when I want to speak to a girl I find attractive?

    Just now there was one in yoga class that smiled at me but I just could not talk to her.
    Jordy
    Jordy
    I can also get nervous with pretty woman.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    It's easier if they are talking to someone I know and I join in.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    That may be easier, but may not get you noticed. I hope that you will have confidence that you are a worthwhile person who make a good companion for somebody who will take the time to know you. Are you enjoying the yoga? But you see, you are being noticed positively. Remind yourself of that.
    Tony Ramirez
    Why can't I break the cycle thinking all woman hate me when I know it's not true?
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Thanks for the support. I guess I feel like this when a woman ignores me. It's hard to distinguish if she is rude or not.
    Judge
    Judge
    Sometimes there's also the likelihood that their attention is elsewhere in their own mind. Where it may appear as being rude, but really is just one's attention elsewhere in real time. Something we can't see or detect so easily.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    That's what I think. Like they are preoccupied with something else.
    Tony Ramirez
    My cat Gray was not peeing, but we took him to the vet, and he had no blockage. He peed there. He must eat nothing but prescription food.
    Tony Ramirez
    Another private yoga class with my female teacher. Again no one else bothered to show up. Better for me because I am not distracted and I can focus on the poses.

    I was able to get one on one and my stretching is improving.
    tree
    tree
    That Chair Pose is strenuous.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I did not have to do the chair pose today. But tomorrow I will.
    Tony Ramirez
    My Yoga teachers are proud I am the only student who shows up several times while others are just one and done.
    Stuttermabolur
    Stuttermabolur
    I've also been in that situation numerous times. If I have an obligation of some sort, I'll be there, even if it's difficult.
    Tony Ramirez
    It's hard to make new friends when the same people you don't want to be friends with always show up. The ones you do want to be friends with rarely or only show up once never to show up again.
    Tony Ramirez
    I have been feeling heavier the past few days. I have not done yoga the past weekend, but I did it today. I am afraid to weigh myself.
    tree
    tree
    How about not weighing yourself for another day or two?

    And keep sneaking in some yoga moves, meanwhile.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Will do. I went again tonight for yoga and although it was a flow class I sweat a bit.
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