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Tony Ramirez

Tony Ramirez

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Single Aspie with perceived rejection 47 From Brooklyn, NY
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  • Tony Ramirez
    I Google Christian singles groups in my area and it gives me a church in Maryland and completly unrelated groups on meetup. Also it gives me a article with no groups saying to look on meetup.

    It also has the nerve to show my church which is so far from having singles I am losing interest in it. I give up what a waste.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Okay so I searched on meetup.com. What a waste. All they had were virtual groups with only one or two members probably all guys. See I am right there are no singles in Brooklyn, just couples, married woman and single guys. I am glad I am listening to smooth jazz to boost my mood because I feel rotten.
    Kayla55
    Kayla55
    So the women you met at yoga....they talking to you, right? So just say gosh...chat to the boyfriend a bit, keep lots of friends...keep bubbly cause less you socialise, harder it is!!! (Fact) then one day when you know people better, say don't you know of a friend for me??
    Who knows maybe the neighbour is lonely and too shy and they hook you up
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Just the teachers. The students ignore me most of the time unless they are older than my mother.
    Tony Ramirez
    Doing yoga helps more with depression than prescription medication.
    Kayla55
    Kayla55
    God made you ND I'm sure you not only lonely one, there has to be someone for you, right? Maybe yoga class is clicky...or snobby, I never did aerobic or pilates, just cycling, bit circuit. I suppose just me, prefer off peak times.
    Where would less snobby girls go?
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Church but most are taken.
    Tony Ramirez
    When you go out things start to look back to normal until you spot someone wearing a mask then you relize it will never be the way it was. So annoying.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    I agree, they don’t go back, Tony. People now wear masks for things like the common cold. To them (and to me) it makes sense for the prevention of infection of communicable illnesses.

    I’m not trying to invalidate your phobia and your hatred of masks, just that sometimes changes are lasting. There is no going back.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I still won't wear them even if I have a common code. They are useless in preventing anyone from getting sick. Actually I found out that people that wear masks more get sick more often then those like me who don't. I have not been sick since December and I still did not wear a mask outside, church or the Christmas party.
    Tony Ramirez
    My DI. FM subscription renewed today for another two years. I was hoping by now people would not be wearing masks.
    Tony Ramirez
    Why is Facebook the worst place to meet single women? I pour out my heart there and only couples reply or want to be my friend.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    It's a terrible place to meet singles as there not any in the groups I am in. There profile pics show their husbands and kids so it's terrible.
    tree
    tree
    I don't really know why you'd expect to meet anybody on facebook.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Now I know I won't. I am just annoyed how others meet on Facebook. I would close my account but I have some logins linked to it.
    Tony Ramirez
    A woman not old but younger said hello to me. I then started a conversation with her. We talked before yoga class.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Good because when she talked to me, I was putting away my earbuds, and I was so nervous that I took the tip off and nearly lost it.
    Judge
    Judge
    Taking those first steps is always tough. But what's important is not how they went so much that you dared to take them as a start. Well done.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Thanks.
    Tony Ramirez
    Yoga class only had one old married guy that showed up. He is a regular that knows me. Matter of fact, only the old students older than my mother know me by name, besides the teachers. It's kind of annoying.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I just tired of knowing old people, single guys and married woman. Before you say anything, a big no, they don't know anyone who is single.
    tree
    tree
    I had no intention of suggesting that these older people might know some single females.

    What I was thinking was that you don't seem to actually hold people in very high regard,
    aside from females of a certain age group. Otherwise you seem to find them without value.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I am trying to change that thinking after thinking that my entire life.
    Tony Ramirez
    I know it's late but I had another private class with my favorite yoga teacher. I like the music she plays. It's emotional.
    Tony Ramirez
    I found out that my church friends are not true friends . They don't give a crap for me when I was in crisis mode.
    AprilR
    AprilR
    In my experience most of the time, you will go through these times alone. Other people have no idea about the things we struggle with.
    tree
    tree
    @Tony Ramirez
    What would have been the right thing for them to do?
    Tony Ramirez
    Sorry for posting negative messages again. I just want to be in a relationship.
    Misery
    Misery
    Honestly, dont worry about it. You're doing so very, very much better than you had been before, and that's something to really be proud of.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Thanks.
    Tony Ramirez
    Maybe I should close my Facebook account. It is depressing seeing couples showing each other on their profile pic.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Wait, nope, I can't. I have some logins tied to Facebook.
    Tony Ramirez
    I hate going to some social event and being completely ignored.
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    Forest Cat
    Forest Cat
    Yeah it can be difficult to talk with people at gatherings. At a social gathering with many people it's not unusual that people get into other peoples conversation. I don't know, it's about engaging people and just talking and making them talk. People who are good at this often have lots of practice/experience.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    How do I practice if I have no one to talk too most of the time and my mother is bad. Tells me to cut the and get over it. Then gets angry at me.
    Forest Cat
    Forest Cat
    I guess you have to get experience wherever you can. You do go to gatherings where there are many people, so that's a good start. But I know it's difficult, I wouldn't mind being better at it myself.
    Tony Ramirez
    How the heck do NT talk to three people for over 10 minutes once while I can't even talk to one for a minute?
    Tony Ramirez
    Please don't say I am missing on good friendships with men and old people. They might know some one. Trust me their daughter, sister, cousin, friends are all married or in a relationship so stop it.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    You could use it as a chance to practice being sociable and schmoozing. Learn that with old people and soon you will be schmoozing women.

    The Art of Schmoozing​

    1 Understand the goal. ...

    2 Get out. ...

    3 Ask good questions, then shut up. ...

    4 Unveil your passions. ...

    5 Read voraciously. ...

    6 Follow up. ...

    7 Make it easy to get in touch. ...

    8 Give favors.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Good tips. Thanks.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    Now decide your goal and practice.

    Y'know how we can miss so much, especially about relationships. Here is a great song about that.

    Tony Ramirez
    My family keeps asking if I am going out tonight. I keep saying I have no place to go on Friday nights. It's depressing I have no one to hang out with like a woman on Friday and or Saturday nights.
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