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Zain

Zain

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  • Zain
    Seeing a room full of women waiting for the arrival of Luigi Mangione is very jarring.
    Zain
    IKEA is such a cosy place to be. Nice to see families and optimistic-looking younger aged couples shopping to improve their homes. I hope I can have that one day. If all else fails, I hope I can at least do couple things with an AI partner in 10-15 years. That is a huge thing that is keeping me motivated.
    Zain
    Zain
    I'd be close to forty by then. I can live until 100 if I am smart and stay healthy. I can then technically live most of my life with a partner. It's all I want.
    MildredHubble
    MildredHubble
    The first time I went to IKEA it was like a baffling ordeal for me. I had no idea how it worked. I figured it out eventually. Now when I go to IKEA I walk straight in through the exit and I don't bother with the labyrinthium show room area lol!
    oregano
    oregano
    I have several small furniture items in my home from IKEA. I liked that they came unassembled which made them easy to transport from Sacramento to Jefferson. Also, they fit in the odd nooks of my home just fine. I also like some of the little houseware items they have, like clocks. I use a pair of pot holders from there.
    Zain
    I played football with some workmates yesterday.
    FayetheAspie
    FayetheAspie
    It sounds like you had fun.
    Zain
    Zain
    @FayetheAspie I did. I actually ended up losing track of time and played for 3 hours. My knees and feet didn't like that very much.. it's been a painful recovery for two days. :D
    Zain
    I'm going to spend the next six months learning the piano. Perhaps I can win a women's love with music. I'm completely willing to spend lots of time and money on this. I even bought an expensive new keyboard already.
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    Trophonius
    Trophonius
    I play piano and the pieces you get to play within that time period are fairly basic. Also, I haven't got any love for it.
    Don't spend "lots of time and money". A teacher and 1 hour of daily practice should be enough, more than that it's unlikely to be of much more benefit.
    Zain
    Zain
    @Trophonius How many hours of tutoring do you think I should get a week in addition to 1 hour of daily practice?

    Also, I know it’s not certain but it will likely help.
    Trophonius
    Trophonius
    1-hour lesson a week should be enough.
    Zain
    Why do people say things like "seek professional help" when the other person is likely just as much as messed up as I am? So condescending. It should be more common to say "continue, just learn from your mistakes". Isn't that what the other person has done to get where they are? Experience is the best teacher.
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    Zain
    Zain
    @thejuice Yup. I saw the most condescending post on Friday. It was appropriately vague so that users had to guess whether it was about them or not and example posts weren't provided. Of course, the thread is visible so that others can see their virtue signalling, attacks and crude display of superiority but the comments are blocked so that no one with an opposing view can respond. I wonder why.
    Zain
    Zain
    @thejuice Of course, that post relates to the desire to control others' lives and what they can say, thinking they know what is best for others. It is sickening, especially because this is a platform that has a lot of vulnerable people.
    Zain
    Zain
    Then again, it is difficult to respond to something so vague. It's clear the post was for the person's own ego and probably made in a state of emotion.
    Zain
    My day at work was much better. I interacted with those people in my other post amicably. They initiated in a friendly manner first, and we had a great back and forth. It seems I misinterpreted what happened yesterday. I also worked with a few other nice people. I was good in conversation. My biggest weakness I need to fix is initiation. I cannot read and understand the context surrounding this.
    Zain
    Zain
    I think I have a crush on a girl there. Whenever I see her, I naturally just can't help but smile, laugh and look downwards bashfully. The nice thing is, she does the same. I acted quite cold to her in the final hour yesterday after that interaction in my last post. I want to fix that. She was working elsewhere today.
    Zain
    I also wish that we had a place for outcasts and rejects that is considered 'noble' or 'virtuous' like the night's watch.
    Zain
    I've been at work for 2 months now. All the people I befriended/allied with have gone. They are keeping me on because I'm a hard worker.
    Also, I think I was getting made fun of by people of my own ethnicity. Even worse, it was in the native language. You are the worst if you talk in a foreign language around someone who does not understand it whilst laughing at that person.
    Zain
    Conversation feels so superfluous nowadays. It's been years since I've had a fun, enjoyable conversation with someone. Acting like an idiot and not thinking what I say through, using whatever language I feel like, not being as 'efficient' as possible with my words. I feel like having fun is inefficient, if that makes sense.
    Zain
    Zain
    I'm too scared to let loose as there's a high chance I'll regress like I usually do. I can't judge whether this progression or regression.
    Zain
    It sucks being 5'9.
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    Crossbreed
    Crossbreed
    So I won't derail the other thread, your pheromones will upstage your visual features every time (and hers, too).
    Zain
    Zain
    @Crossbreed I don't know anything about human pheromones. I will say that another girl I liked had a certain smell that made me want to be around her. Does that relate?
    Crossbreed
    Crossbreed
    Yes, but you can't always "smell" them. Sometimes you will have a strong attraction and not know why.
    Some women will have the same kind of attraction to you.
    It is absent when all you have is a photograph or an avatar.
    Zain
    Mutual respect is essential to a healthy, strong and good relationship. A lot of us here are friendless and alone. Would you say a lack of respect for others often on your side is one reason for this?
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    Zain
    Zain
    @thejuice That's exactly what I'm talking about. You are meant to feel tired after eating garbage because of how bad junk food is for you. It takes longer to digest. It negatively affects the body's chemistry. Now, imagine someone has been eating such trash for long periods.. their entire life? How can that person be healthy? They will be awful mentally as the body affects the mind, etc.
    T
    thejuice
    I don't know how they can do it, maybe you get used to it?
    Zain
    Zain
    @thejuice There is no getting used to it. A lion won't be happy being fed anything but meat, nor will he be happy when is not out in the wild fulfilling his natural desires in a natural environment. Humans are just animals.
    Zain
    I may be coming across as 'cold' to people unintentionally. I feel it is kind of inefficient to use energy on others when I could be thinking of something else or relaxing my mind. Does anyone have any thoughts or tips to share here? If I was talking to a beautiful person, I'd be very energetic around them. I feel as though this is natural behaviour.
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    TBRS1
    TBRS1
    Example: A person showing you family photos is expressing joy/pride. They are doing this because they are extending a social invitation to you share in their joy.

    This is very kind of them.
    Zain
    Zain
    @TBRS1 I see.
    What about formal conversations? Is it worth it to take emotion into account over reason? Like trying to inject humour into a response even if you don't detect joy in their speech? Like when speaking to a manager, it can be hard/impossible to detect a feeling when things don't feel personal.
    Hopefully you know what I mean.
    TBRS1
    TBRS1
    Talking to a manager is about conveying information.

    Emotional content is pleasant/polite, with an undercurrent of subservience.

    Listen, respond politely. Inserting humor (as opposed to polite responses) is going off topic and likely to be viewed as "silly" or "distracting" by somebody expecting to convey clear data.
    Zain
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    The power of strong, healthy genetics on full display. Scary. Which do you want your kids looking like? Eat healthily, guys. Nourish yourselves. Don't degenerate.
    Zain
    It's weird how you cannot not like beautiful people. They really are God/nature's gift to us average people. I feel so much gratitude towards them, even towards the whole world/universe as circumstances led to the moment of me seeing them and feeling such an emotion.
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    Zain
    Zain
    @thejuice Believe it or not, we are all meant to look like this. We are meant to be in harmony with nature. But even looking at the average person doesn't create natural, immediate and effortless joy unlike when you look at one of these models. It is pathetic what we have become. I think in the future we'd all be able to look that beautiful via genetic reconfiguration, or something like that.
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    thejuice
    As society advances, the people get weaker. Perhaps applies to genes. "Hard times create strong men. Strong men create strong societies, strong societies create weak men, weak men create hard times" Thus every great civilisation eventually rots out from the inside and collapses, to be overthrown by the hungry, ambitious, up and comers. The east sees us as decadent and complacent.
    Zain
    Zain
    @thejuice An individual in our modern day has the power to eat healthily for themselves and their future generations. I spend so much more less money on the raw meat I buy and eat simply because it is more satiating so I don't feel I have to eat too much. There's evidence that anything else gives less nutrients. I believe there's a nefarious power at work with all the propaganda about food.
    Zain
    I had my first clash with a co-worker today. I thought about it for a while and realised it is beneath me and a waste of my time caring for the opinion of an undisciplined, late 40s, minimum wage worker. Who even has the energy to get frustrated during some minimum wage random job?
    Zain
    Zain
    I'm not pretentious. By beneath me, I just mean someone who I don't and can't respect. If you get frustrated over terribly minor things and then can't control how you are around others, you are lost and insecure. Healthy people do not act this way.
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    thejuice
    I had the same thing
    Zain
    Christmas feels odd this year. Everyone seems miserable on Christmas eve. Must be because I've transitioned more deeply into the adult world?
    Zain
    I've been doing new things, so meeting new people as well. I realised that my social life and social skills haven't changed much at all. I had expectations that I don't think were extreme, yet I've not met them. I think I can conclude that the problem is with me fully. Perhaps I'm not open enough, giving others enough of an opportunity to connect, or not reciprocating enough or clearly.
    Zain
    Zain
    It's pretty jarring once I realised that the problem is truly fully with me. At the same time, it's powerful. I always thought it was my social status and looks that held me back, but I'm not able to solidly connect with people in the same group as me, yet others are.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Same here. I keep trying but I am spoken over. Don't even mention the disaster it is whenever I try to talk solo with a female that's not a boomer that's single. A trainwreck at best. Talk about 2 word convert and lots of dead silence disputes my best efforts to ask relevant questions.
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