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Tony Ramirez

Tony Ramirez

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Single Aspie RSD Need Help 47 From Brooklyn, NY
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  • Tony Ramirez
    New York City sucks for meeting single women. They just ain't many out there.
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    "Happy" is a feeling.
    I was asking in what way would your actions be different.

    What would you do differently if you were happy, in a situation?
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Sorry, probably try to socialize more if I understand the question.
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    You feel discouraged and angry when it looks like everybody in the crowd has a partner.

    But if you were in a positive mood, you might act more outgoing.
    Tony Ramirez
    Anyone can believe that a woman can hate a guy then eventually fall madly in love with must be watching a lot of pure Hollywood fiction. Not in the real world. Not in this lifetime.
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    One of the most common popular plots in fiction.
    The conflict makes the story.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    And it's so far-fetched it almost never happens in real life. I sometimes still believe it which is also why I still go after girls who ignored me.
    Judge
    Judge
    That's exactly how I came to be. My mother initially thought my father was a well-educated, conceited jerk. But when he became and officer and a gentleman it all changed over time. Art imitating life?

    Way to go, Mom & Dad. :cool:

    Tony Ramirez
    Sorry about being so negative lately but it really hurt last week when that woman approached me and I thought the conversation was going good until she mentioned a boyfriend then showed me his picture. That really hurt me.
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    You let it hurt you.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    It still hurts bad. It's even worse now being around couples. I'm at church now and it's torture. I'm about to lose it.
    Tony Ramirez
    I should have died during my emergency surgery when I was two years old instead of suffering these 44 years after.
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    Aspiecats
    Have you identified what it is you want out of having a relationship? Even with your sad picture there you don't appear to be unattractive. Believe me a partner isn't the answer, unless you know yourself. There are so many people out there looking for companions but can't find the right fit. That is why you need to know what you want from them and what they want from you.
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    Steelbookcollector217
    What was the emergency surgery for?
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Could not breathe.
    Tony Ramirez
    I'm at the point of my life where I have a much better chance of winning the lottery then finding a partner.
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    Aspiecats
    Then play the lottery, it may be the answer if you win. I have found that many partner options come available if they see $ signs.
    Tony Ramirez
    I'm getting to the tipping point in telling people I meet what I really think of them.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    No it would be negative for all the payback of them rubbing in their happiness in my face.
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    This idea that people are intentionally torturing you by being happy-----
    please discuss this with your therapist.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I am going to. I will try.
    Tony Ramirez
    There is a 1% chance the next new woman I talk to around my age or younger I have a actual conversation with will be single.
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    So you've got each encounter written down and tabulated?
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I use to keep a anxiety scale and 9 and 10s were encounters with single women but many turned into 5s which is couples and 5M married, 5BF boyfriend. So after awhile I stopped doing it.
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    Yes, I remember that.

    The problem with that personal score keeping/your research method is
    the size of the sample is too small.
    Tony Ramirez
    I been so sick the past few days I have not been able to go to church or yoga. Won't be able to see my therapist tomorrow or hang out with my lifegroup for dinner tomorrow. When I get better everything will be closed and people will be away.
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    Can't do therapist session on the phone?
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I hope they can do it on the phone if they still do it otherwise I will have to see her on Friday
    Tony Ramirez
    Just today at the social I meet a new woman and she has a boyfriend. She showed me his stupid picture. I am stick of 99% of women being taken. I will never be in a relationship. It sucks no matter what I do or where I go women are all in relationships.
    Tony Ramirez
    What's the point to even attempt to try to ask out a woman I like when there is a 99% chance she has a boyfriend or a husband.
    Judge
    Judge
    If you feel that way, perhaps the most logical question is why you don't move on and concentrate on pursuing things as an individual as opposed to a couple?

    Think about it. Whatever it is that prevents you from the obvious needs to be addressed and overcome. Which is likely to be more attainable in comparison. Where you can always readdress pursuing a relationship later.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    When I see couples everywhere outside and most of my friends in relationships it's kind of hard to not think and want to be in one.
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