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36 and still feeling like I did when I was 17.

Rodafina said:
Maybe you can try to also notice feelings of hope, determination, acceptance, and gratitude.
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Wish I'd read this comment before replying right away. Neural plasticity studies/positive psychology have shown that you can actually train your brain to start looking for positives instead of focusing on the negatives. If for example you start writing down 3 positive things a day that happened after a few weeks your brain will be on the look out during the day for more positive things. And it's not that the percentage of positive things increases, but your awareness of them does as at the same point the focus on the negatives goes down.

As someone that started doing this about a year ago, it's worked for me. Bad things still happen but I deal with it and move on and I'm less apt to dwell on it.
 
I feel both disappointed and embarrassed after being told “My boyfriend wouldn’t like that.” once again.
 
Markness said:
I feel both disappointed and embarrassed after being told “My boyfriend wouldn’t like that.” once again.
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What happened that lead to her saying that? Did you ask her to hang out and do something like play video games or go out and do something together?

I hope that I'm not coming off as accusatory, I'm curious to know what happened.
 
honeytoast said:
What happened that lead to her saying that? Did you ask her to hang out and do something like play video games or go out and do something together?

I hope that I'm not coming off as accusatory, I'm curious to know what happened.
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I am having a hard time typing it out. I am just really stressed at the moment.
 
honeytoast said:
That's okay. I hope you feel better soon.
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Thank you. It doesn’t help that some people outside of here I had to block and set my YouTube channel on private because said people were spamming my intro video on Discord and making fun of it.

EDIT: I just learned that one of those people wants to make an account on here and bother me.
 
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I am about to be 34 and feel the same way, i don't drive, never dated and i am currently unemployed. I am just glad that i can live independently, if i can also find a well paying job it would be enough for me. I think you should practice gratefulness, bc you never know when you will lose the things you already have.

Sorry if this sounds dismissive, but sometimes changing your mindset Will really help with changing the circumstances.
 
I saw a young lady who works as a manager and server at a local DQ; I haven’t been to that particular location for a long while now. When she saw me, she called me “sweetheart” and after some small talk, she asked me if I had a girlfriend. Was she just asking out of curiosity or giving me a possible hint? Situations like that really bumfuzzle me.
 
I think the word was used the way some people say "honey" or "hun" or "dear"
in public situations, like a worker might to a customer, or grown person to a child.

Friendly and kind. But not something to inflame the imagination.
 
Markness said:
I’ve just noticed that if I wear my green eye or dragon necklace as well as my wrist bands, I’ve had women tell me they like them. I wonder if something I’ve been lacking is a style?
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Styles come and go, but the important thing is to be the authentic you, and that is more than style. I only made progress towards a relationship when I decided to live for myself and take an interest in life. That allowed me to confidently express the person I am and only then did I attract the attention of the woman who would become my spouse.
 
It's true. You are fishing.Some women will find you attractive. Other women won't find you attractive.
 
Like you are casting your fishing pole, and seeing if you get any bites. Like women do come up and talk to you, it helps starts conversations, having some swag, maybe a cool necklace like you have gives a opening to talk to you. I always talk to women and compliment the ones that have beautiful artistic tattoos. Usually they have a story why they have the tattoo.
 
My mother thinks if I haven’t figured out how to find a partner at my age, then I will never figure it out at all. Is she right or is she just being a control freak?
 
Her thoughts don't control you.

It takes action to control another person.

It sounds like the action of telling you she doesn't
believe you will ever *figure it out* is enough to
make you anxious and depressed.
 
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