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Aspies and casual sex

Slim Jim said:
I think it's a mortal sin and quite evil and destructive. But yeah it's great.




It's funny, how I can go seemingly forever 'solo. But a woman is so arousing...that engulfing sensation....is just too much.

I know in the wild, animals only mate very briefly. It's supposed to be quick, because you're in a vulnerable position. SO Evolutionary wise....everything is as it should be.

For the record. I can last more than 2 minutes.... :sweatsmile:
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So short?!?! Don't know what they are doing, but I enjoy seeing my spouse satified first and the languid enjoyment of that time spent certainly gets me aroused. Then from there I get even more enjoyment that I want to last. Why hurry things with the woman I love? Such time is a gift we give each other.
 
Had forgotten about this thread. Yes, I decided since posting that I don't want to sleep with someone unless we are in a commited relationship. A man came into my life recently who wants to sleep together casually and I realised this is not what I want at all. He wants sex but no relationship. I prefer to stay single.
 
Primrose said:
Had forgotten about this thread. Yes, I decided since posting that I don't want to sleep with someone unless we are in a commited relationship. A man came into my life recently who wants to sleep together casually and I realised this is not what I want at all. He wants sex but no relationship. I prefer to stay single.
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As I have related before, my anxiety and fear of being vulnerable left me a virgin until 28. The difference then was a great friendship and shared adventures and we were ready for each other. I don't see anything wrong with your expectations and I have heard too many women feeling used when things turned out casual when they were hoping for a deeper connection.
 
Gerald Wilgus said:
So short?!?! Don't know what they are doing, but I enjoy seeing my spouse satified first and the languid enjoyment of that time spent certainly gets me aroused. Then from there I get even more enjoyment that I want to last. Why hurry things with the woman I love? Such time is a gift we give each other.
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Depends on if you include foreplay. You know there are many factors..variables at play.

Who says anything about love ? I thought this thread was about casual humping.
 
Slim Jim said:
Depends on if you include foreplay. You know there are many factors..variables at play.

Who says anything about love ? I thought this thread was about casual humping.
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Well I do like to DATY and I consider it more than foreplay. We are all different and for me, love, the bond we have, is the difference between a selfish act and mutual pleasure. I guess it takes all types.
 
Slim Jim said:
I think it's a mortal sin and quite evil and destructive. But yeah it's great.




It's funny, how I can go seemingly forever 'solo. But a woman is so arousing...that engulfing sensation....is just too much.

I know in the wild, animals only mate very briefly. It's supposed to be quick, because you're in a vulnerable position. SO Evolutionary wise....everything is as it should be.

For the record. I can last more than 2 minutes.... :sweatsmile:
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Masturbation is usually sex with someone who cares. :)

Foreplay IS sex. And sex is the one endeavor where only a fool races to the finish line.

Being "good in bed" can be learned. Everyone can learn it. Unlike basketball, it doesn't require high levels of agility and dexterity. Everybody should read a book like "The Joy of Sex." I mail-ordered it as a teenager (nobody was going to sell it to me over the counter back then) because It was a skill I wanted to be good at.

If one considers premature ejaculation a "problem," there are ways to solve the "problem." One needs to see it as something to be worked on and not just lived with. Too many men take the attitude that it's not their problem, while others think of it as a permanent disability.

Human females have concealed ovulation. That means she has to have a lot of sex to make sure she gets pregnant. Female orgasms also enhance the likelihood of pregnancy. The point of it all is to form strong bonds. Humans are meant to have lots of sex, and women are supposed to have lots of orgasms. The mate who tries to please her will probably stick around to be a caring father.

One needs to abandon the notion of sex as dirty. Or that the objective of sex is just male orgasm. Instead, approach sex as a form of mutually pleasurable play. You'll see it becomes as much (or even more!) about the trip as the destination.

And that's why good sex can last for hours. The real problem is that men are in a hurry and don't consider their partner's needs.

Civilization has imparted all kinds of bizarre notions about sexuality into our heads. Shoulds and shouldn'ts and musts and mustn'ts. And broadcast made-up, photoshopped, cherry-picked, and carefully scripted ideals nobody lives up to.

 
Au Naturel said:
Masturbation is usually sex with someone who cares. :)

Foreplay IS sex. And sex is the one endeavor where only a fool races to the finish line.

Being "good in bed" can be learned. Everyone can learn it. Unlike basketball, it doesn't require high levels of agility and dexterity. Everybody should read a book like "The Joy of Sex." I mail-ordered it as a teenager (nobody was going to sell it to me over the counter back then) because It was a skill I wanted to be good at.

If one considers premature ejaculation a "problem," there are ways to solve the "problem." One needs to see it as something to be worked on and not just lived with. Too many men take the attitude that it's not their problem, while others think of it as a permanent disability.

Human females have concealed ovulation. That means she has to have a lot of sex to make sure she gets pregnant. Female orgasms also enhance the likelihood of pregnancy. The point of it all is to form strong bonds. Humans are meant to have lots of sex, and women are supposed to have lots of orgasms. The mate who tries to please her will probably stick around to be a caring father.

One needs to abandon the notion of sex as dirty. Or that the objective of sex is just male orgasm. Instead, approach sex as a form of mutually pleasurable play. You'll see it becomes as much (or even more!) about the trip as the destination.

And that's why good sex can last for hours. The real problem is that men are in a hurry and don't consider their partner's needs.

Civilization has imparted all kinds of bizarre notions about sexuality into our heads. Shoulds and shouldn'ts and musts and mustn'ts. And broadcast made-up, photoshopped, cherry-picked, and carefully scripted ideals nobody lives up to.

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What has helped me immesurably has been enjoying a sense of deep vulnerability with my partner, letting her through my physical and emotional boundaries. That let me take great pleasure in her excitement and satisfaction. I started out so inexperienced that I did not know that was a great way to approach such intimacy.
 
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