Everyone online, stop using stupid phrases like "you will find your tribe" or "your people".

[Tony Ramirez]

It is making me sick hearing it. So far, I have not "found my tribe". I found nothing but misery going to nothing but new social groups trying and trying. Getting sick mentally and physically. Mentally, causing me to go on higher antidepressants and antipsychotics. Physically causing me to actually catch more colds, which before I once went three years without catching a cold. Never mind the body aches and the physical headaches and the cramps and the agonizing pain I get in my body.

It's always the same thing when I try a new social group. I try to talk to people, but I am always spoken over. It gets to the point where every person is engaged in a conversation, even people right next to me and yes I try to talk to them, but I am often ignored and spoken over. Then I just give up and end up putting on headphone every time to drown out their chatter. This happens last Friday when I joined a new Meetup cooking club that my "two friends" were in. Not only after my meal was not even in the picture, but I was the only one without a picture. Even the two newcomers engaged in detail conversations and the new women just said glad to meet you saying goodbye but meanwhile talked to everyone including a "shy guy" who sure knew how to talk.

I am tired of every group containing fake introverts who might possibly be autistic. The only autistic I meet IRL are level 3 worse than my sister than can't even talk sentence and just make noises. Everyone else looks like they might be a level 1 until they start talking, then they are surely normal.

 

[lunarious]

Right.

A narsissist Loves himself. I wonder if that's exactly what you must do. To Love yourself, (edit: then) Love others.

Life is difficult. So i can't write how you should think. You must find that out through meditation for example.

But, recently i learned to better meditate. Meditation is Physically about balance. Balance is in you, balance starts in your core and spine.

But right now you are good to beat up people though . Though defence and balance is not about beating people.

PS: I see Meditation as a sport, i'm Muslim.

 

[lunarious]

I'm a semite and not a Jew. Semites guides to God. When you don't have the strength to "carry on" you can lean on God. I find it good to lean on God. Hopefully .. their god will let me talk to you about God who gives, to he whom asks and he whom doesnt.

Certain people are Semites only in terms of saying "no". I find it inhumane what you must go through @Tony Ramirez when it could be so easy. Why aren't semites helping you?

I'll help you if my post now doesn't get deleted. In the name of The Deity.

Lean on God before you lean on me

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

Used to be brother and sister, only brothers and sister I have is my actual family.

 

[lunarious]

The Family is the foundation of society. But And people as Prophet and similar people are also our "brother and sister". Strictly speaking.

Strictly speaking we are nephues and cousins from Adam and Eve. For they whom want to Believe.

 

[velociraptor]

So far, I have not "found my tribe".

That sounds like a you problem. I found my first one over three decades ago and celebrate my next AA birthday on Feb 15th. Found a few others along the way and am looking forward to going paddle boarding with one of them if it ever warms up again. Winter. Blah.

 

[Tony Ramirez]

That sounds like a you problem

How can it be a you problem when I put in the effort to show up to all of these meeting groups but in the end I am ignored. No I don't look miserable at first. I put in a smile. I try to engage but when I am talked over, interrupted and then invisible my mood changes.

 

[Tony Ramirez]

It's now affecting my body me mentally and physically I think it's damaging it. All I get here is that it's my fault from the same people and that I am not doing enough. I am putting tremendous stress and debt on my parents.

 

[lunarious]

I think or know these same people want you to think they are god. They are arrogant.

If one is dumb, then i'd think he/she is arrogant.

 

[velociraptor]

How can it be a you problem when I put in the effort to show up to all of these meeting groups but in the end I am ignored.

Because all you do is complain to the point where you are a toxic individual and others flee your presence to preserve their own mental health. This is the fundamental problem you have and it is not going away until you change you. Sorry for the bluntness, but this is the hole you're in and all I see you doing is continuing to dig it deeper.

 

[Tony Ramirez]

Because all you do is complain to the point where you are a toxic individual and others flee your presence to preserve their own mental health. This is the fundamental problem you have and it is not going away until you change you. Sorry for the bluntness, but this is the hole you're in and all I see you doing is continuing to dig it deeper.

I'm toxic when I go into a new group without knowing anyone but they treat me like I don't exist. I try my hardest to socialize to the point now that I am getting sick insomnia and major anxiety depression my household is a mess literally falling apart the house is too physically because of financial then I have to keep hearing crap from you like it's my fault always gaslighting me instead of encouraging me saying something positive.

 

[lunarious]

@Tony Ramirez ... Right. The people are not so helpful. They don't say good things. Positive things.

I thought: I get more a sense of purpose when I ignore the people and hate, because all i get from them is bad Negativity. So two minus equals plus.

Hate the thought, has never hurt anyone. However the hypocrisy has. Most people are hypocritical.

So we say in Arabic: "The door that brings you Wind, close and relax".