I think a lot of people here genuinely care about your happiness and you really disrespect them in return. Pretty soon you'll get your wish and the only people who will respond will be in total agreement with you to uphold your views of yourself and the world.
Well put.
You may not believe it,
@Tony Ramirez , but this bit here is the truth. I sincerely doubt that anyone here actually dislikes you. But some are definitely getting tired of the toxicity you constantly show and your refusal to even consider listening.
You know what I am getting sick of your mouth. You always blame me for anything relationship. You have to reply putting me down every freaking time I post an new post here. Every time. This is why I won't pay for VIP as I am strongly considering leaving this toxic place.
Who the hell keeps marking your rant to me as Winner.
And I'm quite tired of your toxicity and refusal to accept ANY responsibility for things that you do. I mean really, did it ever occur to you that there might be a REASON I keep popping up?
Nobody is putting you down here, and honestly, I cant remember anyone ever having done so on this forum. Oh, some have gotten FRUSTRATED at you, yes, certainly including myself, but there's a big, big difference between the two. There's also a big difference between that and "giving a harsh truth". You see it as "putting down" because again, you cant accept that you might be at fault for something. Even here, you'd rather blame me as an easy target than even CONSIDER you might be at fault.
Helping someone doesnt mean sugarcoating every bloody little thing to make them feel like a happy little bunny because they're getting told exactly what they want to hear despite nothing being accomplished. Helping someone means telling them what they *NEED* to hear.
The reason it's usually me over and over again is because I'm generally the one spiky enough to really do it without any sugarcoating. But also because I'm the stubborn one that generally never gives up (even when, logically, I probably should), whereas I'm already aware that there are others who have indeed tired of interacting with you, and so wont make those tougher posts (or respond whatsoever).
But it's not just that though. I use this approach because it's what worked on me, all those years ago. I was able to overcome my main problem back then because I finally stepped back and accepted that there was a problem, and said "you know what, screw that... I'm fixing this", and then actually did so. I was able to do that because people on my life did what I'm doing now: they refused to sugarcoat things and told me the harsh things that I *needed* to hear, instead of just repeating what I *wanted* to hear. And it worked, and so much improved. THAT is what I want to see for you, and why I keep posting. I dont dislike you, I dont hate you, and as others on this very forum can likely attest, I sure aint a bully of any sort. What I *want* is to see you succeed.
You may not believe any of that, but it remains true regardless.
If you keep acting like you do though, well... it's as Silhouette says: Eventually the only ones who will interact (here or elsewhere) are the ones who will merely state whatever it takes to calm you down, and no true advice will ever be given, because why would it? Many here want to see you succeed, believe it or not, but with each of these posts of yours, nerves fray just a bit more...
