How To Stop Wanting Relationships

[Steelbookcollector217]

There are a couple or more reasons that come to mind that may support this.
Obviously, this does happen, but I don't believe to the extent that it happens for males.

Simply my opinion.

probably the main reason is because of how human mating or how men and women have always interacted with one another, even though i don't know if there is any evidence on how that it has been for the past 300,000 years or more.

 

[Misty Avich]

It might be of the following reasons:-

1. A lot of Aspie women seem less stereotypical in their body language and interests, and the way they interact might suggest quirkiness, which a lot of men find attractive in women

2. Many women (both NT or ND) can be more shallow than men, meaning we often play hard to get, not just for men wanting relationships with us but also for other women wanting to be friends with each other. I think this explains why my friendship circle consists of more men than women

 

[Steelbookcollector217]

It might be of the following reasons:-

1. A lot of Aspie women seem less stereotypical in their body language and interests, and the way they interact might suggest quirkiness, which a lot of men find attractive in women

2. Many women (both NT or ND) can be more shallow than men, meaning we often play hard to get, not just for men wanting relationships with us but also for other women wanting to be friends with each other. I think this explains why my friendship circle consists of more men than women

or because which i have been a broken record on, men always being expected to make the first move all the time and ask the woman out, initiate the relationship.

 

[Misty Avich]

or because which i have been a broken record on, men always being expected to make the first move all the time and ask the woman out, initiate the relationship.

Or that maybe. But what is the rule with gay women?

 

[Steelbookcollector217]

i know i have said this before, and i know its a bad mindset, but over the years, i sometimes like to think, that women are the only gender that are owed a relationship, even though its the standard mentality by everyone that the world owes us nothing, it just feels like women are the only gender that are owed a relationship, since women are less likely than men are to reach a certain age and never have dated or been with anyone before, and how women have men come to them, but men normally never have women come to them.

 

[Rodafina]

i know its a bad mindset,

You are right that it's a bad mindset. It doesn't help you whatsoever.

If you know it's a bad mindset, what are you going to do to change that?

Therapy?
Support group?

How does continually sharing this feeling help you?

 

[tree]

i know i have said this before, and i know its a bad mindset, but over the years, i sometimes like to think, that women are the only gender that are owed a relationship, even though its the standard mentality by everyone that the world owes us nothing, it just feels like women are the only gender that are owed a relationship, since women are less likely than men are to reach a certain age and never have dated or been with anyone before, and how women have men come to them, but men normally never have women come to them.

Are you currently seeing a therapist on a regular basis?

 

[Steelbookcollector217]

Are you currently seeing a therapist on a regular basis?

i see one a few times a year, but i don't see the point, because even if i do go see therapists regularly, its a fact that far more men than women end up remaining forever alone, chronically single, later than normal. Thats a fact that reality that won't change, and i get very pissed off as to why guys, men, should feel lucky to be born a man, i will never understand that.

 

[Au Naturel]

i see one a few times a year, but i don't see the point, because even if i do go see therapists regularly, its a fact that far more men than women end up remaining forever alone, chronically single, later than normal. Thats a fact that reality that won't change, and i get very pissed off as to why guys, men, should feel lucky to be born a man, i will never understand that.

That is statistically impossible. Men and women are about equal in number. Each single guy corresponds to a single woman. The big difference is that women are more willing to stay single if they can't find their ideal partner, and many women have taken themselves out of the marriage market as a career move.

 

[Steelbookcollector217]

That is statistically impossible. Men and women are about equal in number. Each single guy corresponds to a single woman. The big difference is that women are more willing to stay single if they can't find their ideal partner, and many women have taken themselves out of the marriage market as a career move.

yeah, i'm open to the possibility that women also just don't bother to disclose their case or situation as much as men do, for example, guys like Tony.

 

[Zain]

That is statistically impossible. Men and women are about equal in number. Each single guy corresponds to a single woman. The big difference is that women are more willing to stay single if they can't find their ideal partner, and many women have taken themselves out of the marriage market as a career move.

You have to divide men and women by age and account for the fact that younger women would prefer older men since they're more likely to be established. There are way more younger men than women.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

For me, relationships represent money that isn't available for makeup, clothes to look presentable. Hair styling products can be expensive also. So financially, it dosen't seem like a good choice. l prefer to put my discretionary cash in the stock market or repairing my home. Maybe if you can break it down into expenses needed, going out for dates, gas needed, you can see why so many women can find it hard to date also. My partner takes me out to eat all the time, this does add up, but we both enjoy trying different places.

My wife does not like opening a can of beans is good enough for me for some thing to eat. I do not like fashionable clothes, do not like going out for dinner unless it is with a friend.

 

[Steelbookcollector217]

You have to divide men and women by age and account for the fact that younger women would prefer older men since they're more likely to be established. There are way more younger men than women.

yeah, my gut instinct tells me, i would believe for all time, its more common for men than for women to reach a certain age, for example, 30s, 40s, or older, and to have never dated, never been in a relationship before, to be male-dominated cases.