I attended a speed dating event today

[FeatherBird]

yes, that goes to the explaining why some people say, that women by nature, by default, are in abundance with men for just existing, women by default have options for just existing, men are by nature in scarcity with women since even handsome decent looking men normally don't have women throwing themselves at them

On that note, many a woman thinks if a man struggles romantically/sexually, there must be something severely wrong with him (because since it's practically unheard of for a woman to get no attention, it's hard for her to fathom how different it is for men)

As you said, even men with decent looks are prone to struggling.

 

[FeatherBird]

or because women just stubbornly adamantly expect men to do that, my gut intuition tells me, womens instinct of expecting men to approach them or make a move on them is stronger than the instinct, desire, of men making a move on a woman, because if that was the case, approach anxiety would not exist.

Reminds me of this twitter post from a guy who gives dating advice for men:

"A lot of women, or just many women, cannot understand, will not understand, how someone(a guy, man, human male) cannot be desired or doesn't have any dating options, or has never dated or never been with a woman before by a certain age, unless something is seriously wrong with them. They(women) get desired and wanted, sought after, by default have dating options, always have choices, opportunities, get attention, just for existing and being a normal person, so they assume that's how it is for men, but it's not., women who think that way are completely
delusional

never truer words have been said or spoken."

In some cases (possibly many cases), there's a simple explanation for why a woman expects the man to make a move: Because she's incapable of handling rejection.

I think I might have shared the story on here of a college girl I chatted with on a different platform bragging about pushing a male friend onto his bed, then proceeding to get on top of him (and force him into sex), even though he told her to stop.

Her behavior indicates an inability to handle rejection. Rather than accept the fact he told her to stop, she convinced herself he didn't really mean it.

Yet the very same college girl had the audacity to tell me I should accept rejection.

 

[Steelbookcollector217]

On that note, many a woman thinks if a man struggles romantically/sexually, there must be something severely wrong with him (because since it's practically unheard of for a woman to get no attention, it's hard for her to fathom how different it is for men)

As you said, even men with decent looks are prone to struggling.

yeah i even saw a powerful post on instagram, a guy made a post on what he thinks society should be more aware of, on the differences between men and womens lives, he said that, women often or just many times have to deal with unwanted attention from men, men often have to deal with getting no attention from anyone at all.

 

[Hypnalis]

In some cases (possibly many cases), there's a simple explanation for why a woman expects the man to make a move: Because she's incapable of handling rejection.

This is true, but I don't think it's the whole picture: there are evolutionary psychology reasons for this kind of behavior too.

Women are looking for someone to provide while their children are helpless (very rare in mammalian offspring - AFAIK it's it's only humans). So women innately test for commitment, ability to provide, generosity, etc.
They also seem to be wired to compete for the same men, but getting the best hunter isn't useful if he redirects his resources to another mate later on.

My personal theory is that the wildly asymmetric approach women take to dating (even strong independent women) is testing for the early "OCD" stage of love in their partner. Better to wait for that before intimacy.
Our species predates effective birth control by 250K+ years (and adaptations for helpless offspring a lot longer) - we're evolved for intimacy inevitably followed shortly afterwards by pregnancy. Which explains many innate behaviors that seem very strange at first glance.

Someone even more cynical than me might ask at this point if there's a place for the ability to simulate emotional states in this puzzle

Evolutionary pressures don't necessarily influence female fidelity though (humans are also unusual in females not signaling estrus), nor act against "monkey branching".

There's certainly a place for the asymmetrical operation of bonding hormones in this too, but it makes people uncomfortable. The data is easy to find if you're interested.