Problem with noise from autistic neighbour

[SusanLR]

I got in on this really at the end since I stay up all night too.

I tend to agree with Autistamatic that this symptom is not autistic related, but, there are many
things it could be related with.

One of the first things I thought of was Norman Bates. Remember how that movie portrayed shadows and
voices all night? I read all the posts and I don't see echos or attempt to protect autism as something precious. But, I have never heard or read of such behaviour as having anything to do with autism either.

I had an odd experience when I lived in an apartment that this also reminds me of.
No upstair apartments, just one level all attached and I was in the end apartment so only one side was
attached to a neighbor. Three different people occupied that apartment during the five years I lived there.
The first was a quiet, older man that you never heard anything out of. Seldom even saw him.
But the second was a woman around 60-ish and everynight I heard the sound of hammering coming from
her apartment. My bedroom was against the dividing wall and it sounded like she was over there building furniture.
She left early in the mornings, didn't speak to anyone and every night the hammering starting.
One day when she wasn't home, the landlord was in there working on a sink and the door was open.
I peeked in and knocked. He asked if he could help me with something.
And I told him about the nightly noise and what it sounded like.
He actually invited me in to look around with him! It was sparsely furnished and no signs of anything that
she could have been building. No tools and no pictures on the walls.
We never found out what it was, but, the landlord must have said something as it stopped and she
soon moved out.

With that being said, one thing about the OP struck me as odd.
Why wait six years to take action with the letter if it is that annoying?
There seems to be something strange surrounding the whole situation IMO.
And I don't say this just in defense of autistic traits.

 

[Progster]

I would really like you to answer the questions in my post, not to write some general truisms

If this refers to my post, I did address some, if not all of your questions in my post.

These were my questions:

Is it possible that he's genuinely not aware he has this loud outbursts of laughter? Or not aware of how loud they are? Is it possible that he doesn't recall that just in the last week he stayed up all night up until 5 or 6 am, on a couple of succeeding nights? Or that he has generally quite awkward sleeping patterns, often staying up until morning hours? (And then he sometimes gets up just 2-3 hours later - I wish I could do that!)

If you really want to know, then why don't you ask him? Why ask internet strangers who know neither him nor you? He is the only person who can really give answers to these questions. If you do, I would leave him a note rather than ask him face to face. He might not answer, but at least you tried.

 

[Kirsty]

Naw - I think it's a ghost making all the noise. lol

Nah if it was a ghost he would of heard it too. It could be an auditory hallucination. She may have schizophrenia. Not saying that in a horrible way, but it is another possibility.

 

[AloneNotLonely]

Autistic:
Factually speaking it could be any of these things...

"Normal" Person:
REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

My explanation is that they're both crazier than a bag of peanuts with raisins mixed in (Seriously... why do they do this?!).

Another curiousity is this whole exciting evening could have been completely avoided if she just waited to see if he continued his weird nocturnal jungle noises. It would have explained everything if it stopped or was much less loud all of a sudden. Instead of waiting for proof we ended up in this pointless debate where nobody knew a damn thing. Blind men and the elephant kind of story.

 

[Mary Terry]

Hi, Kat. I'm NT and have a low functioning autistic nephew who sometimes unexplainedly erupts in loud laughter and squealing, has a clumsy gait when walking so he tends to stomp his feet more than most people, is largely nocturnal, and is unaware of how other people react to his loud noises. He talks a lot to himself out loud which we call "self-talk" and we frequently remind him not to self-talk in public. ASD is a spectrum as I'm sure you know and autistics come in all forms and varieties, like NTs do, so I personally do not doubt your account of what you are experiencing.

I understand your concerns and frustration and urge you to address the problem face to face with him. If your conversation with him yesterday didn't resolve the issue last night, get his phone number and call him when his noises disturb you. Just ask him for his number and tell him why you want it. Give him your phone number in case he needs to call you about anything. He sounds like a very nice guy, Lord only knows what he struggles with, and he could become a friend or at least a friendly neighbor, but you have an absolute right to peace and quiet in your home. If you can't get his phone number, then just bang LOUDLY on his door when the night noises start and leave him another note about the noise.

If all else fails, contact the landlord. Good luck!

 

[Ken S.]

I got here way late in the conversation. The OP must be a real hoot at parties. Here is a parting gift for you.

 

[Pats]

Nah if it was a ghost he would of heard it too. It could be an auditory hallucination. She may have schizophrenia. Not saying that in a horrible way, but it is another possibility.

He could be a heavy sleeper.

 

[Pats]

I kinda think Kat learned more about autism yesterday than she wanted to. She talked to us who are 'perfectly' autistic.
Everyone here was trying to be nice and helpful. Maybe someone should have explained to her that when you go into a public forum you might not get exactly what you are looking for from everyone and to expect kind attempts in helping to resolve a difficult issue. I admire those who continued to overlook her impatience, though, her responses were completely uncalled for.

And, Kat, if you have chosen to get back on here and read this, I hope you realize the kindness that was poured out to you and you rejected it by insulting nearly everyone on here with your echoing comments and calling us names. If you would like to try again, I'm sure everyone here would gladly choose to give you another chance - that's just the kind of people we are. But keep in mind that we will now be a bit guarded because your actions are the reason we find it difficult relating to NT's.