(SERIOUS) Expelled from School?

[AspieChris]

One more thing. Bullies feed on fear. The whole point of saying those things is to get you into the conversation and make you suffer. The simplest way to avoid bullying online is to close the website. If you can block them then do it. If it’s a text message, then block their number. You have absolutely no need to read what they are writing, so stop keeping it available to yourself.

It’s harder than it sounds, I know. But if you take away an animal’s food, it will eventually die. Bullies are animals. Their food is fear. Defending yourself when it’s words is like a giant meal of their favorite foods. Take away their food and they will eventually get bored and move on.

And don’t forget that they aren’t throwing rocks at you through the internet. Words hurt like hell… but only if you stand up and let them hit you in the face.

 

[Rodafina]

Hope you are doing okay, @tripleU.

Maybe you got some sleep and you feel more calm and ready for another day. Many of us struggle every day, but even with an every day struggle, there are ups and downs. Keep an eye out for the neutral things, and maybe even a few good things that could be a part of your day.

 

[tripleU]

Hope you are doing okay, @tripleU.

Maybe you got some sleep and you feel more calm and ready for another day. Many of us struggle every day, but even with an every day struggle, there are ups and downs. Keep an eye out for the neutral things, and maybe even a few good things that could be a part of your day.

Today, they said that my mom is bad as I immediately entered the class, then the bossy teacher took me outside to a room to take the exam, which only happens if you don't pay the school fees. This happened on the first one but I payed and it didn't happen for a few days more, so they spread a rumor. Then after the exam, Dilawer threw water on me, and Momin, and A.B. (I don't want to reveal more names), came to me and starting talking with me nicely, they said you are in the group chat we created, why didn't you say anything in it, and then asked about how I say that I am tripleU in my conlang, so I said "gul tripleU", then they asked more questions about me, and they said, have you revealed your conlang?, so I said I have taught it to my 3 "friends" in America, so you. They also asked if I would be PM, and I said yes, Are they spying on me? Then Dilawer came and said what is the word for rain in the conlang, and it was raining at that time. Then they both attacked him and he went away. So are they trying to do a confusing attack, like I said in a post earlier in this thread? or is Dilawer and someone else making everyone a bully? They seem to target my conlang alot. Now you know all of our names from this.

 

[Rodafina]

Momin, and A.B. (I don't want to reveal more names), came to me and starting talking with me nicely, they said you are in the group chat we created, why didn't you say anything in it, and then asked about how I say that I am tripleU in my conlang, so I said "gul tripleU", then they asked more questions about me, and they said, have you revealed your conlang?, so I said I have taught it to my 3 "friends" in America, so you. They also asked if I would be PM, and I said yes

Is there any chance this is genuine friendliness?

At your stage in school, most people can be pretty awkward about social interactions. We with autism are not the only ones who have trouble understanding how to connect with people.

 

[tripleU]

Is there any chance this is genuine friendliness?

At your stage in school, most people can be pretty awkward about social interactions. We with autism are not the only ones who have trouble understanding how to connect with people.

No chance, they only do this for one day. But why they are after my conlang? What could explain this Pakistani culture?

 

[Rodafina]

No chance, they only do this for one day. But why they are after my conlang? What could explain this Pakistani culture?

They are probably fascinated by the conlang in a way. They don’t understand it, likely. Plus, they won’t know what you are saying in it, so maybe they want to know.

It seems to be something important to you, and sometimes others latch onto the one thing that makes us stand out. Or the one thing that we talk about a lot, because we love it so much. I know you were trying to keep it private, but it seems to be of interest to your peers now. Probably a mix of a lack of understanding, curiosity, and a mild fear of not wanting to be different, themselves.

 

[tripleU]

They are probably fascinated by the conlang in a way. They don’t understand it, likely. Plus, they won’t know what you are saying in it, so maybe they want to know.

It seems to be something important to you, and sometimes others latch onto the one thing that makes us stand out. Or the one thing that we talk about a lot, because we love it so much. I know you were trying to keep it private, but it seems to be of interest to your peers now. Probably a mix of a lack of understanding, curiosity, and a mild fear of not wanting to be different, themselves.

My mom says that they are triggered by giving wrong;/reverse answers like if they ask what is my age I would say 0, or where I live would be below the ground, and I am afraid of wind. Like that. I also forgot to tell you that they noticed my cloth and asked What is that? And I asked Which? Then I found what they were asking about but they asked an another question or hid my autism they noticed. Now they are noticing something that had been outside my pockets for 2 months but now after I fake-sneezed in those meltdown areas they got suspicious, so I should do it in front of custodians, who are only hired because they can't get an another job as they christians. They won't be able to report me as much. I did get a bit better today by hiding with closing my pencil box which made look down. Have my eyes got malnourished like my face?

 

[AspieChris]

Today, they said that my mom is bad as I immediately entered the class, then the bossy teacher took me outside to a room to take the exam, which only happens if you don't pay the school fees. This happened on the first one but I payed and it didn't happen for a few days more, so they spread a rumor. Then after the exam, Dilawer threw water on me, and Momin, and A.B. (I don't want to reveal more names), came to me and starting talking with me nicely, they said you are in the group chat we created, why didn't you say anything in it, and then asked about how I say that I am tripleU in my conlang, so I said "gul tripleU", then they asked more questions about me, and they said, have you revealed your conlang?, so I said I have taught it to my 3 "friends" in America, so you. They also asked if I would be PM, and I said yes, Are they spying on me? Then Dilawer came and said what is the word for rain in the conlang, and it was raining at that time. Then they both attacked him and he went away. So are they trying to do a confusing attack, like I said in a post earlier in this thread? or is Dilawer and someone else making everyone a bully? They seem to target my conlang alot. Now you know all of our names from this.

You’re intelligent. No question about that. Don’t EVER say it to anyone. However, also don’t assume that anyone your age is as intelligent as you are. Kids your age play stupid games but they’re not normally able to play psychological games at the level you assume they are with this situation.

It’s possible something is changing. Maybe an adult has talked to them. Maybe they’re actually interested. Maybe it’s s one-time thing. Just enjoy this moment of relief. But also do not let your guard down. I have had a bully get lonely or bored and try to be nice to me, only to get some new energy and go straight back to being mean the next day.

Please be careful about telling of your experience on this forum. Save personal details for people you can genuinely trust. Bullies are great at pretending to be nice just to get personal information and using it to embarrass you later. It’s like asking for the ball politely, then throwing it at your face so that they can point and laugh with everyone watching.

 

[AspieChris]

My mom says that they are triggered by giving wrong;/reverse answers like if they ask what is my age I would say 0, or where I live would be below the ground, and I am afraid of wind. Like that. I also forgot to tell you that they noticed my cloth and asked What is that? And I asked Which? Then I found what they were asking about but they asked an another question or hid my autism they noticed. Now they are noticing something that had been outside my pockets for 2 months but now after I fake-sneezed in those meltdown areas they got suspicious, so I should do it in front of custodians, who are only hired because they can't get an another job as they christians. They won't be able to report me as much. I did get a bit better today by hiding with closing my pencil box which made look down. Have my eyes got malnourished like my face?

Your mom might be correct. Or maybe you found a new way to be funny to them. It might be a good idea to keep making the same kind of jokes. I learned to make funny jokes around your age (even though I never understood why they were funny) and it got me more friends.

 

[tripleU]

Your mom might be correct. Or maybe you found a new way to be funny to them. It might be a good idea to keep making the same kind of jokes. I learned to make funny jokes around your age (even though I never understood why they were funny) and it got me more friends.

The reverse happened for me. They started at the same time, I did them

 

[tripleU]

You’re intelligent. No question about that. Don’t EVER say it to anyone. However, also don’t assume that anyone your age is as intelligent as you are. Kids your age play stupid games but they’re not normally able to play psychological games at the level you assume they are with this situation.

It’s possible something is changing. Maybe an adult has talked to them. Maybe they’re actually interested. Maybe it’s s one-time thing. Just enjoy this moment of relief. But also do not let your guard down. I have had a bully get lonely or bored and try to be nice to me, only to get some new energy and go straight back to being mean the next day.

Please be careful about telling of your experience on this forum. Save personal details for people you can genuinely trust. Bullies are great at pretending to be nice just to get personal information and using it to embarrass you later. It’s like asking for the ball politely, then throwing it at your face so that they can point and laugh with everyone watching.

For the privacy part, I gave them the wrong words quickly made up lies for what I do. Also, what are those psychological games?

 

[AspieChris]

For the privacy part, I gave them the wrong words quickly made up lies for what I do. Also, what are those psychological games?

You did great. Do your best to remember this day. Practice getting better at it. It sucks, but life will probably get better for you get better at lying about your strange behavior, and learning to hide your true thoughts.

Children your age are just starting to learn psychological games. It’s a lot like learning to cook food. Nobody is born with the knowledge of how to make a meal. But it gets easier with time. At 13 years old, they are probably just starting to learn how to boil water.

I hate to say this, but don’t trust anyone. Be thankful that your jokes were funny and you found a way to cover up some of the things they make fun of.

For example: If I’m tired, I might say that I was up all night watching pornography (at your age most boys start thinking about sex). Don’t let any adults hear you. Always pay attention to your volume of your voice and who might hear you. And don’t put it on a chat or text. You’ll always need to be able to deny it later.

I still practice my jokes and excuses in the mirror. I practice my facial expressions and the tone of my voice. Nobody knows I do this. And be careful that sound goes through walls (you won’t want your parents to hear you). I have hundreds, maybe thousands, of responses memorized. It’s like being an actor all day. It wears me out and I’m exhausted all of the time. But it works.

 

[tripleU]

You did great. Do your best to remember this day. Practice getting better at it. It sucks, but life will probably get better for you get better at lying about your strange behavior, and learning to hide your true thoughts.

Children your age are just starting to learn psychological games. It’s a lot like learning to cook food. Nobody is born with the knowledge of how to make a meal. But it gets easier with time. At 13 years old, they are probably just starting to learn how to boil water.

I hate to say this, but don’t trust anyone. Be thankful that your jokes were funny and you found a way to cover up some of the things they make fun of.

For example: If I’m tired, I might say that I was up all night watching pornography (at your age most boys start thinking about sex). Don’t let any adults hear you. Always pay attention to your volume of your voice and who might hear you. And don’t put it on a chat or text. You’ll always need to be able to deny it later.

I still practice my jokes and excuses in the mirror. I practice my facial expressions and the tone of my voice. Nobody knows I do this. And be careful that sound goes through walls (you won’t want your parents to hear you). I have hundreds, maybe thousands, of responses memorized. It’s like being an actor all day. It wears me out and I’m exhausted all of the time. But it works.

What do you mean by psychological games? And the mirror practice thing, I do that slightly but not in the tone of my voice but what I would say.
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[AspieChris]

Psychological games like telling lies to get you angry

 

[tripleU]

Psychological games like telling lies to get you angry

So ignoring them on whatever they say. I think I did that at the start of this year by not saying, I am a programmer.

 

[AspieChris]

So ignoring them on whatever they say. I think I did that at the start of this year by not saying, I am a programmer.

The problem you have is that they think it’s really funny to tell lies, but you don’t understand why. So you feel the need to respond, correct them, or prove that what they said is a lie. The best thing is to practice standing up straight, showing no emotion, and making your face look like you might have heard but you genuinely don’t care what they said.

When you get good at this, the next move they will go to is physically bullying like poking you or throwing water (they’re already doing that). I suggest you try to stay somewhere that an adult might see this. Bullies are cowards, and they will be afraid of being seen. Maybe you could offer a teacher to help clean the classroom instead of playing outside? This is something that worked for me. And the teacher became a friend. I was like you: too intelligent and mature to fit in with children my own age. I always felt better around adults.

Remember. If you can take away their fun, they will get frustrated and move on to bullying someone else. It is takes time but it works

 

[tripleU]

The problem you have is that they think it’s really funny to tell lies, but you don’t understand why. So you feel the need to respond, correct them, or prove that what they said is a lie. The best thing is to practice standing up straight, showing no emotion, and making your face look like you might have heard but you genuinely don’t care what they said.

cambridgeWhen you get good at this, the next move they will go to is physically bullying like poking you or throwing water (they’re already doing that). I suggest you try to stay somewhere that an adult might see this. Bullies are cowards, and they will be afraid of being seen. Maybe you could offer a teacher to help clean the classroom instead of playing outside? This is something that worked for me. And the teacher became a friend. I was like you: too intelligent and mature to fit in with children my own age. I always felt better around adults.

Remember. If you can take away their fun, they will get frustrated and move on to bullying someone else. It is takes time but it works

That didn't work, they had even more fun. The school also seems a bit racist to me, They put ugly people with darker skins on the sides and people who are pretty are put in the middle. Both the students and teachers force this. The children are dumb, when the school took international cambridge checkpoint exams, the students got shocked by the questions, which weren't about memorization but using your brain, I liked that. When the old good german teacher asked about why there are so many people in Pakistan, 200 million. The students were shocked that it is from poverty, I knew it the whole time. They don't like talking about actual issues. Back to the bullying, I think I didn't make the right face, and I can't do it in certain situations. I did the cloth thing less today, so their suspicion lowers. The kids are also afraid of my conlang, like it is a curse, it will curse them. They ran away from me. They think that the curse can't be sent through an image but with text, which is impossible. Today is friday, so I don't have to sleep early.

 

[Rodafina]

My mom says that they are triggered by giving wrong;/reverse answers like if they ask what is my age I would say 0, or where I live would be below the ground, and I am afraid of wind. Like that. I also forgot to tell you that they noticed my cloth and asked What is that? And I asked Which? Then I found what they were asking about but they asked an another question or hid my autism they noticed. Now they are noticing something that had been outside my pockets for 2 months but now after I fake-sneezed in those meltdown areas they got suspicious, so I should do it in front of custodians, who are only hired because they can't get an another job as they christians. They won't be able to report me as much. I did get a bit better today by hiding with closing my pencil box which made look down. Have my eyes got malnourished like my face?

I’m having trouble understanding.

 

[tripleU]

I’m having trouble understanding.

Spend more time, the same happens to me in English exams with extracts from Novels.

 

[Forest Cat]

Spend more time, the same happens to me in English exams with extracts from Novels.

It's a little difficult to understand your writing, this for example, I don't know what this means:

"Now they are noticing something that had been outside my pockets for 2 months but now after I fake-sneezed in those meltdown areas they got suspicious, so I should do it in front of custodians".