What traits would you put you off dating someone

[QueenOfFrance87]

-Abusive/violent behavior towards myself, other people, and animals
-Dishonesty
-Jealousy
-Low self-esteem
-Won't accept me for me
-Doesn't help me with anything when asked to
-Manipulative
-Loud and obnoxious
-Bigotry of all kinds

 

[Shevek]

I could write a long list, but usually, the only one that gets applied is eating animals for pleasure.

 

[NDR2]

I could write a long list, but usually, the only one that gets applied is eating animals for pleasure.

Wow! I think that’s wrong, too. I’m definitely not pleased when people eat animals, but it’s not a date dealbreaker for me. I just make it clear that I won’t pay for any animal products.

 

[Cryptid]

Using their religious beliefs to justify their bigotry, hatred, and contempt for others.

 

[FayetheAspie]

Cruelty to humans or animals
Dishonesty
Manipulation
Gaslighting
Infidelity
A hot temper
Being a hunter
Having tattoos
Having piercings or similar
Listening to types of music that bother my nerves
Poor hygiene
Having a bitter angry attitude
Watching sports
Having huge unnatural looking muscles
Not having enough special interests that match mine

There are others that I have not listed I'm sure.

 

[Tom]

I'd be wary if they were a cannibal. I take a holistic approach to things so it would not automatically be a show stopper. But I'd want a pre-dating agreement from them and their friends, and family, in writing, that I was not going to be on the menu. I'd want that official stamp thing on it too. I forget what you call it. Notarized! Thats it.

 

[Captain Jigglypuff]

Being a toxic narcissistic gaslighter is a total deal breaker for me. I put up with it for years because I didn’t know that I deserved better than that and I’m not letting it happen to me ever again.

 

[AprilR]

-Irrational people who don't communicate and have intense emotions.

-People who lovebomb without knowing me at all, it seems insincere and fake.

- people who do not respect my want for space

- sexist or racist basically hateful people.

- controlling or overly jealous.

 

[DrBadStrings]

For me it'd be overly emotional people that think their opinions matter as much as facts even when facts contradict those opinions. I've no time for people to get emotional when it's a subject with a clearly defined yes or no answer based in documented facts.

Then I'd include
-Idiots
- Folks that don't know the difference between what a democracy with social supports in place and a fascist Communist Dictatorship.
- Rich folks - Anyone that is Rich does so at the disservice of the general community. By hoarding all that wealth they ensure that countless others will never be able to repay their debts and ultimately are forced into financial ruin.
- Folks that require 24/7 contact and can't accept that having alone time in a relationship is equally as important as together time.
- Overly materialistic folks
- Anyone that doesn't read regularly and I'm talking about books here.
- Greedy self serving people

 

[Tony Ramirez]

Resting face ???? Confused
ostracized me
Smokes
Swears
Snob

 

[Misty Avich]

Liable to cheat on you
Strong liberal views
Prone to typical autistic meltdowns (if they're autistic)
Likes to be an adult baby for entertainment
Beats you up
Is a narcissist or psychopath
Likes bars and clubbing
Has special interests that are boring, such as excessively playing Zelda games or
something. God I hate Zelda
Smokes weed or does any other stupid drugs

 

[RemyZee]

Those all would be red flags for me as well. The only one I might find ok is the victim card depending on what it is. I think that might be something you can work with.

Oh, and leprosy. Only online relationship with that.

There'll

Those all would be red flags for me as well. The only one I might find ok is the victim card depending on what it is. I think that might be something you can work with.

Oh, and leprosy. Only online relationship with that.

Oh yes there is the whole leprosy thing.

 

[DrBadStrings]

There'll

Oh yes there is the whole leprosy thing.

Yeah I think I'll be adding that to my list now. That and any condition that's going to result in open sores being a common thing.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

Viruses do not bother noticed on my statistics my immune system takes care of the quickly.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

There'll

Oh yes there is the whole leprosy thing.

Bacteria, antibiotic available now.

 

[Tony Ramirez]

She being a little plump does not bother me or does being too tall. Just noticing and actually talk to me is all I care about.

 

[Misty Avich]

Oh, I forgot to mention the physical deal-breakers. I couldn't date a man who is shorter or thinner than me, but not too many muscles either.
I seem attracted to overweight men, especially with a beer belly. And grey hair. I just find grey hair attractive, especially if they're balding as well. Hence why I've always gone for older guys.

 

[Magna]

"Dating" someone. There are different kinds of dating so what might be deal breakers to me in one type of dating would be requirements in the other kind of dating.

Dating in a mutually monogamous but not have not professed any long term commitment, no talk of engagement or marriage (but presuming cohabitation at some point):

^ Put offs in the above kind of dating would include:

> Incompatible sex drives and/or significantly different sexual proclivities
>Incompatible housekeeping and personal hygiene
>Significantly different financial practices and ideologies
>Debt
>Emotional instability/unpredictability
>A grating voice
>Someone who favors drama and chaos
>Overly materialistic
>Controlling
>Tobacco smoker
>Pressure to commit even though both had previously agreed that a "commitment" isn't needed in the relationship (this can be an example of something that would be a requirement if the "dating" was for the mutual purpose of a lifetime commitment)

Physical/sexual attraction is a necessity IMO so there are only a few physical things that would likely be deal breakers:

>Morbid obesity
>Anorexic
>Chronic Halitosis

 

[Tony Ramirez]

Also not a man or my mother's age or in a relationship the only damn women who actually approach and talk to me.

 

[gabesroom]

Immaturity, i already have enough trouble taking care of myself emotionally. I don't want to feel responsible for someone else.

tbf i think this is also the reason i don't want to have children. It drives me nuts when adults act dense and take everyone else for granted. You can't even criticize them for it.