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Tony Ramirez

Tony Ramirez

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Single Aspie RSD Need Help 47 From Brooklyn, NY
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  • Tony Ramirez
    A guy uglier than me but slim only attended church for about 8 months and is already close friends with a woman he only meet last week who is new, they sit together. Meanwhile I been attending for 4 years and I still mainly have more like acquaintances as couples and married women.

    Having autism sucks. Not one good thing came out if it for me.
    Kayla55
    Kayla55
    Tony dear, a lot Bout dating is personality and I'm telling you this is truth. A sense of humour is a good quality, being able to just talk to someone. I'm thinking of going back to my bipolar support group because the people are more interactive and I feel often I'm too talkative for this place, to change subjects, more expressive even with bad language. Anyway blame autism, don't blame Tony as I doubt it's personsl
    Aneka
    Aneka
    When you approach this with a negative mindset, it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. My mom married at 39. Have you tried dating apps? You need to go to a place where other single people look for a partner.
    Tony Ramirez
    Why do people who don't even know each other group in clusters wearing masks? So annoying they are.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I want to get rid if it but it seems impossible. Just like my hearing swearing phobia but medication doesn't really help. What helps with both phobias more is doing yoga and journaling.
    tree
    tree
    You're right. Medication won't erase your thoughts, what you tell yourself about masks and words.
    Your journal activity can help with that.
    Forest Cat
    Forest Cat
    I think you should try to focus on the fact that it started with Supernatural. A tv series. There really is no reason for you to hate masks, before you watched that everything was fine. A fictional tv series shouldn't have enough power to make things like masks so annoying. But I don't know how it is, it's just a shame that a tv series can make problems like that.
    Tony Ramirez
    On the way to the gym I ran into a woman I know from the Thursday group. She now lives in the area. To think I was just thinking before I went out if I would ever run into her.
    Tony Ramirez
    I know I should keep this in my personal journal, which I have.
    I hate the words boyfriend and husband.
    tree
    tree
    You hate them because neither of those words describe you.
    Tony Ramirez
    I went to the gym for the first time. I did feel a little out of place as it's big, but I figured out how to use the bike without it pulling. Another woman there felt worse as she could not figure out the bike.
    Forest Cat
    Forest Cat
    Good luck, the first few weeks are always the hardest part of gym life. Getting used to it. Then it quickly becomes a habbit and it feels strange and wrong if you don't go to the gym. It can be a good place to meet people too, everyone there share an interest or a goal or something.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    Well done, Tony! Hopefully it gets more comfortable for you every time you go.
    Tony Ramirez
    I hate society. How woman only talk to other women. Men only talk to other men. Couples and old people talk to both. I got two words for it. It stinks.
    Tony Ramirez
    I joined a gym in my area. Now I need the courage to actually do it.
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    tree
    tree
    @Tony Ramirez
    Can you use going to this gym to 'fill in the blanks' on days when there are no yoga classes?
    Would that be possible?
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    They are going to be closed for two days at the start of Passover and the end of Passover for two days. I plan on going more to the gym those days if I have the courage to do it.
    Kayla55
    Kayla55
    Being around outgoing people affects you, so go out for sale of it. Try make lots of friends. Watch events, talk about different things, watch comedies for a change, learn some jokes.
    I noticed meeting someone was always when I least expected it, life is like this. When you ready to give up you get job?? Huh
    Tony Ramirez
    I Google Christian singles groups in my area and it gives me a church in Maryland and completly unrelated groups on meetup. Also it gives me a article with no groups saying to look on meetup.

    It also has the nerve to show my church which is so far from having singles I am losing interest in it. I give up what a waste.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Okay so I searched on meetup.com. What a waste. All they had were virtual groups with only one or two members probably all guys. See I am right there are no singles in Brooklyn, just couples, married woman and single guys. I am glad I am listening to smooth jazz to boost my mood because I feel rotten.
    Kayla55
    Kayla55
    So the women you met at yoga....they talking to you, right? So just say gosh...chat to the boyfriend a bit, keep lots of friends...keep bubbly cause less you socialise, harder it is!!! (Fact) then one day when you know people better, say don't you know of a friend for me??
    Who knows maybe the neighbour is lonely and too shy and they hook you up
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Just the teachers. The students ignore me most of the time unless they are older than my mother.
    Tony Ramirez
    Doing yoga helps more with depression than prescription medication.
    Kayla55
    Kayla55
    God made you ND I'm sure you not only lonely one, there has to be someone for you, right? Maybe yoga class is clicky...or snobby, I never did aerobic or pilates, just cycling, bit circuit. I suppose just me, prefer off peak times.
    Where would less snobby girls go?
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Church but most are taken.
    Tony Ramirez
    When you go out things start to look back to normal until you spot someone wearing a mask then you relize it will never be the way it was. So annoying.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    I agree, they don’t go back, Tony. People now wear masks for things like the common cold. To them (and to me) it makes sense for the prevention of infection of communicable illnesses.

    I’m not trying to invalidate your phobia and your hatred of masks, just that sometimes changes are lasting. There is no going back.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I still won't wear them even if I have a common code. They are useless in preventing anyone from getting sick. Actually I found out that people that wear masks more get sick more often then those like me who don't. I have not been sick since December and I still did not wear a mask outside, church or the Christmas party.
    Tony Ramirez
    My DI. FM subscription renewed today for another two years. I was hoping by now people would not be wearing masks.
    Tony Ramirez
    Why is Facebook the worst place to meet single women? I pour out my heart there and only couples reply or want to be my friend.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    It's a terrible place to meet singles as there not any in the groups I am in. There profile pics show their husbands and kids so it's terrible.
    tree
    tree
    I don't really know why you'd expect to meet anybody on facebook.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Now I know I won't. I am just annoyed how others meet on Facebook. I would close my account but I have some logins linked to it.
    Tony Ramirez
    A woman not old but younger said hello to me. I then started a conversation with her. We talked before yoga class.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Good because when she talked to me, I was putting away my earbuds, and I was so nervous that I took the tip off and nearly lost it.
    Judge
    Judge
    Taking those first steps is always tough. But what's important is not how they went so much that you dared to take them as a start. Well done.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Thanks.
    Tony Ramirez
    Yoga class only had one old married guy that showed up. He is a regular that knows me. Matter of fact, only the old students older than my mother know me by name, besides the teachers. It's kind of annoying.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I just tired of knowing old people, single guys and married woman. Before you say anything, a big no, they don't know anyone who is single.
    tree
    tree
    I had no intention of suggesting that these older people might know some single females.

    What I was thinking was that you don't seem to actually hold people in very high regard,
    aside from females of a certain age group. Otherwise you seem to find them without value.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I am trying to change that thinking after thinking that my entire life.
    Tony Ramirez
    I know it's late but I had another private class with my favorite yoga teacher. I like the music she plays. It's emotional.
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