If you were honest with yourselves, how many of you hate having this condition?

[Judge]

It's an old theme here, often debated. Those who look at it as a liability and those who see it as an asset. In my own case it's not one or the other, but both depending on the circumstances.

Though no matter how one feels about it, it isn't going to magically float away- ever.

"It is what it is."

 

[Chimorin]

It's an old theme here, often debated. Those who look at it as a liability and those who see it as an asset. In my own case it's not one or the other, but both depending on the circumstances.

True, how Mint operates does in fairness have its advantages. You could argue keeping the old packages is good for preservation, and in fairness they have a point. Would be nice if they had a way to potentially mark packages as outdated in some way. Thankfully in my case with Arch if a package is outdated it just moans at me that the package requires out of date dependencies and doesn’t install the package lol.

 

[Boogs]

A happy easy life where everything goes right for you in all ways tends to (or to my observations at least) produce a personality about 'that' thin! The reality is that life isn't easy. Even those who seem privileged may hide some awful life effecting thing, NT or ND. How about if you swapped your life with someone you wanted to be, only to find they are fated to die at an early age of a terribly painful and debilitating disease?

We (ok, me! ) of course envy those who seem to have avoided our suffering, but we rarely see the reality of it, we miss what they may suffer from. I'm not diminishing your struggles, or not meaning to, more trying to show there are infinite ways of looking at things. It takes experience to find them, which takes time. To bow out early is to miss those possibilities. They are there, even if they can't be seen until you get there.

 

[Judge]

True, how Mint operates does in fairness have its advantages. You could argue keeping the old packages is good for preservation, and in fairness they have a point. Would be nice if they had a way to potentially mark packages as outdated in some way. Thankfully in my case with Arch if a package is outdated it just moans at me that the package requires out of date dependencies and doesn’t install the package lol.

The biggest advantage I consistently see with Mint is in the balance of useful applications without too much bloatware. Especially for new users. However as @Outdated pointed out, troubleshooting seems easier with Ubuntu given how broad their user/knowledge base is in comparison.

But ultimately I suppose how good or bad one's experience with any distro may be depends on the hardware platform you're using. And of course, one's ability to be persevering when a problem arises. Something really put to the test recently in my own case, in struggling to pinpoint what was causing Mint to randomly freeze.

 

[Chimorin]

A happy easy life where everything goes right for you in all ways tends to (or to my observations at least) produce a personality about 'that' thin! The reality is that life isn't easy. Even those who seem privileged may hide some awful life effecting thing, NT or ND. How about if you swapped your life with someone you wanted to be, only to find they are fated to die at an early age of a terribly painful and debilitating disease?

We (ok, me! ) of course envy those who seem to have avoided our suffering, but we rarely see the reality of it, we miss what they may suffer from. I'm not diminishing your struggles, or not meaning to, more trying to show there are infinite ways of looking at things. It takes experience to find them, which takes time. To bow out early is to miss those possibilities. They are there, even if they can't be seen.

I agree with you. At the end of the day, I wake up, some days I wake up and it’s a good day and none of the past matters, and then days like today it goes wrong and then I harp on about how X and Y sucks, etc. Guess I just got to wake up literally as well as metaphorically eh?

 

[Chimorin]

The biggest advantage I consistently see with Mint is in the balance of useful applications without too much bloatware. Especially for new users. However as @Outdated pointed out, troubleshooting seems easier with Ubuntu given how broad their user/knowledge base is in comparison.

But ultimately I suppose how good or bad one's experience with any distro may be depends on the hardware platform you're using. And of course, one's ability to be persevering when a problem arises. Something really put to the test recently in my own case, in struggling to pinpoint what was causing Mint to randomly freeze.

Just realised I’ve accidentally spoken about Linux in the wrong thread, whoops lol.

 

[Misty Avich]

I'm glad there's someone here who feels the same way as me though. If you want (OP) you can PM me about how you feel with autism, as it's against the rules here for Misty Avich to have her own feelings about her life. I'm so scared to post in this thread in case it sets off my haters.

 

[Judge]

Just realised I’ve accidentally spoken about Linux in the wrong thread, whoops lol.

LOL....and I followed right along...."Nerds R Us".

 

[Boogs]

Guess I just got to wake up literally as well as metaphorically eh?

You know that better than I! But it sounds like you've put some thought into it. I'm a late diagnoser so went through most of my life blaming myself because I didn't know I had a condition to blame. At this point, I couldn't even imagine not being me. If I'm autistic then that's because someone has defined this thing they named autism and set some almost arbitrary criteria to decide who is and who isn't. In some ways, I'm happier just being the weirdo!
I've suffered depression most of my life (jeez! I can hear violins playing!) which hasn't been fun, though not the worst of depressions, but I still crave to see what will happen next, and have never wanted to end it, just end the pain of it (though that can be a route to substance misuse, not very helpful in the long run).
Every time I came out of a depressive state, it always reminded me there are things worth experiencing, and thinking, about and however bad it may sometimes seem, at some point it does get better.

 

[Boogs]

LOL....and I followed right along....

It confused the heck outta me for a few seconds!

 

[Chimorin]

I'm glad there's someone here who feels the same way as me though. If you want (OP) you can PM me about how you feel with autism, as it's against the rules here for Misty Avich to have her own feelings about her life. I'm so scared to post in this thread in case it sets off my haters.

Sure. Feel free to fire me a message whenever about whatever too, people talking to me is much appreciated these days after being isolated for a year haha.

 

[Boogs]

Sure. Feel free to fire me a message whenever about whatever too, people talking to me is much appreciated these days after being isolated for a year haha.

You'll find a very eclectic bunch here with a huge range of interests and types. It's a very friendly place to come for some company and understanding.

 

[Chimorin]

You know that better than I! But it sounds like you've put some thought into it. I'm a late diagnoser so went through most of my life blaming myself because I didn't know I had a condition to blame. At this point, I couldn't even imagine not being me. If I'm autistic then that's because someone has defined this thing they named autism and set some almost arbitrary criteria to decide who is and who isn't. In some ways, I'm happier just being the weirdo!
I've suffered depression most of my life (jeez! I can hear violins playing!) which hasn't been fun, though not the worst of depressions, but I still crave to see what will happen next, and have never wanted to end it, just end the pain of it (though that can be a route to substance misuse, not very helpful in the long run).
Every time I came out of a depressive state, it always reminded me there are things worth experiencing, and thinking, about and however bad it may sometimes seem, at some point it does get better.

I really relate to you on that. In truth, I tried to commit a permanent solution to temporary problems before (all of course failed), but look, I’m still here, and sure I still have my bad days (sometimes really bad), but still, I wake up, today’s a new day, and by waking up, I have good days too, some very good days, and I do still have some very good days to wake up to in the future. When there’s a very big high, there’s a very big low, the most important thing is to keep finding the strength to keep trying to walk up the metaphorical mountain when you do fall off it so you can reach to the top to get the reward. Easier said than done of course, but at least there is a reward up there.

 

[Chimorin]

You'll find a very eclectic bunch here with a huge range of interests and types. It's a very friendly place to come for some company and understanding.

Agreed, it’s a cool bunch here.

 

[Boogs]

I doubt anyone at all always has good days, but I do know a lot of people, especially NT's it seems, will lie for all their worth to say everything is super fine and dandy. On top we have all the media telling us how we should be living our lives, and if we don't we aren't matching up. But look at the state of the world and ask yourself if the normals are really doing such a good job of things? Maybe the only thing wrong with you is there are too many of them?

 

[Chimorin]

I doubt anyone at all always has good days, but I do know a lot of people, especially NT's it seems, will lie for all their worth to say everything is super fine and dandy. On top we have all the media telling us how we should be living our lives, and if we don't we aren't matching up. But look at the state of the world and ask yourself if the normals are really doing such a good job of things? Maybe the only thing wrong with you is there are too many of them?

We can’t control the hurdles life hands us, but as annoying as it sounds when people say it, but you can control how you react to things, all be it easier said than done. Sadly, for most people, smiling through the pain, learning to dance in the rain is what keeps most people sane to keep going, however something is better than nothing.

 

[Boogs]

I found a lot of people around me who struggle to be in control make the mistake of trying to control their environment including the people around them. This seems to invariably come unstuck, because you simply can't do it, and it tends to involve imposing themselves on others, even to the degree of bullying. I think you're quite right that we can learn to control ourselves instead, and in the end, the people who achieve that are usually the most in control.

 

[Chimorin]

I found a lot of people around me who struggle to be in control make the mistake of trying to control their environment including the people around them. This seems to invariably come unstuck, because you simply can't do it, and it tends to involve imposing themselves on others, even to the degree of bullying. I think you're quite right that we can learn to control ourselves instead, and in the end, the people who achieve that are usually the most in control.

I relate to the controlling everything bit, just led me to needless stress and meltdowns. Giving up control ironically gave me more control.

 

[Roisin]

I've not seen the point in hating my Autism, then again as a late diagnosed woman it was liberating to have a name for why I felt like such an 'other' since childhood.

I have hated parts of myself pre-identification, for how they seemed to cause exclusion, rejection or betrayal for example, but that was before I knew better.

Its a decade since I recognised myself as autistic and 8 years since diagnosis. I reckon it took 3 years to alter my negative self perception and 4 years later still, I realised that there will always be echos of harmful social conditioning to work on.

Those harmful thoughts are not my own and if Autism 'gifts" me anything, it is how I value my autonomy in every way.

 

[Chimorin]

I've not seen the point in hating my Autism, then again as a late diagnosed woman it was liberating to have a name for why I felt like such an 'other' since childhood.

I have hated parts of myself pre-identification, for how they seemed to cause exclusion, rejection or betrayal for example, but that was before I knew better.

Its a decade since I recognised myself as autistic and 8 years since diagnosis. I reckon it took 3 years to alter my negative self perception and 4 years later still, I realised that there will always be echos of harmful social conditioning.

Those harmful thoughts are not my own and if Autism 'gifts" me anything, it is how I value my autonomy in every way.

I get you. I definitely acknowledge the perks the condition has, just y’know, has some very major drawbacks too as well lol. I just need to work on acceptance and how I perceive it I suppose.