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Very well said, Nitro. You're sure correct on that, my friend. I was a cocaine addict for 12 MISERABLE years and No, I did NOT choose that addiction. I was thrown into it when I was abandoned and all alone in a big city where I didn't know anybody and the only person who I had to run to happened to be a coke dealer. People ask, "Why didn't you go to a shelter ?" The reason is because shelters here only take you in from the hours of 4pm until 7am the next morning. That means I'm on the streets, fending for myself all day long. I didn't have a safe place to go to. I'm clean and sober now, since July of 2012 and very grateful I was rescued from that HELL. I most certainly did not choose addiction,it hunted me down. Furthermore, cocaine is a demonic force that it takes hold of you, and doesn't let go. It makes you think you're happy and content with yourself and all the while dragging you down further into a bottomless pit.Although there are life choices that directly influence addictions,it is important to remember that people do no choose addictions,the addictions choose them
My own father was reading the police beat section of our local newspaper one morning and saw an article about someone who was addicted to cocaine and said out loud that he could not understand how anyone could be so addicted to something that they couldn't just give it up and quit. Not wanting to start an argument with him,I asked him if he could give up flying his airplane. He told me gosh no,I could never give up flying for any reason. He got pissed when I said that you just answered your own question
My late husband was the best with our cats. He treated them just as gently as I do, and probably spoiled them even more.
He also insisted on tipping wait staff appropriately, and when we'd go to Asian restaurants, he always carried in his wallet tiny origami birds he'd folded and would leave one along with the tip. He had a huge amount of class.
I agreed with K, almost all the qualities that related to Chivalry.Patient, loves nature, non-violent, very physically affectionate, loyal, intelligent, open-minded, protective of me, reasonably confident, not a sociopath, tolerant of my eccentricities, and knows when to tell me to shut the **** up.
Dangit,Rayner ,why can't you be at least in your thirties???
Still too young for me, sweetie. Happy premature birthday in case I quit AC!
Honestly, I am experimenting with trying to be more assertive because I naturally possess the trait of passive-aggressive and people hate that. And it seems to be coming off as bitchy because I am trying something new to break free from my comfort zone which I'm told I must do to turn my negative life around. I don't want anyone to think I'm stalking them or being invasive. I'm just trying to make friends with people on the specrtum,like me,but I'm feeling unacceptable here so I was thinking to forget it and do this all by myself.
@cig114 I appreciate your kind words, thank you. I will stay on. This is new and overwhelming (AS) and I do my best to bring a little sunshine in another's dark world because we've all been in some sort of negative circumstances at one time or another.
Although there are life choices that directly influence addictions,it is important to remember that people do no choose addictions,the addictions choose them
True. Not everyone has an addictive personality for the same stimulus, and for some, quitting bad habits may be relatively easy. But you don't know who you are until you're way into it.
For example, I am addicted to Coca-Cola and cigarettes. They are hard and steadfast addictions, but I drank alcohol heavily and regularly for years, and one day I just quit. I now drink occasionally, but I never experience cravings for it. Never did. Same thing with cocaine. Did it for months when my first husband used to trade it for weed he grew. When the weed ran out, we quit doing the cocaine. We were lucky. That wasn't an addictive trigger for us.
Basically, if I could get young people to understand anything, it would be to stay away from these behaviors and substances entirely to avoid life long problems. The "fun" you may experience in doing them isn't worth the risk. Too bad kids never listen.
My husband was not rough around the edges at all. He was quite polished in fact. Always extremely tidy in his appearance, except at work in his job as a hospital cook. Always soft-spoken, considerate and thoughtful. Always either remaining silent, or saying something intelligent and relevant. Always prepared, much like a boy scout ... lol. Always exuding class from every pore. He reminded me of a worldly professor type. I think that's why I fell in love with him. He seemed so respectable. Someone to be proud of who would never embarrass me in public or show disrespect to me.
My husband's father was a professor of economics and an administrator at Harvard, so my husband did come with a bit of a pedigree, and it made me feel good to know I was worthy of such a man.
