Of course we know. Many of us have brothers, husbands, male friends, male cousins, sons and boyfriends, etc. If men enjoy having potty mouths, it is because they think they are cool and think they are impressing their listeners. Pathetic, actually, and hardly the mark of a gentleman.
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Meetup.com needs to be banned.
- Thread starter Tony Ramirez
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Of course we know. Many of us have brothers, husbands, male friends, male cousins, sons and boyfriends, etc. If men enjoy having potty mouths, it is because they think they are cool and think they are impressing their listeners. Pathetic, actually, and hardly the mark of a gentleman.
Zain
Active Member
Whatever you know, make it 20x worse.
And what is your point, there?
Are we that bad? 
I'm an attorney. I've visited men's prisons including Angola in Louisiana and Parchman in Mississippi. I'm confident that I know more than you about what some men talk about and what they do concerning women. Unless, of course, you've served time for violent felonies and sex crimes, in which case you might know as much as I do.
Like @tree, I am also wondering what your point is.
Thinking that there is a point at all may be unbridled optimism.
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Yikes. I know Angola has a reputation that far exceeds the boundaries of the South.
Why Louisiana's Angola Prison Is So Dangerous - Grunge
Why were you kicked out?
I have no issue whatsoever saying that I absolutely cannot stand so-called 'nice guys.' Ass-kissing, subservient, ingratiating, manipulative little pricks. I love men who have a spine. I don’t want a man to be 'nice' to me. I never have. I’m not a dog;—just because you’re “nice” to me doesn’t mean I’m going to roll over and love you. I’m attracted to men who are funny, intelligent, confident, kind, and funny. I said funny twice on purpose, because I love humor, and I love men who are witty and fun to be around.
In terms of dissatisfaction with meetup groups: perhaps Tony is dissatisfied because he’s trying too hard to be “nice”? Maybe stop being nice and try being authentic? Women respond to authenticity and sincerity, and other good qualities, not “niceness.”
The word "nice" means different things to different people. To me "being nice" means 'being polite"' I don't think anything is wrong with being polite.
It seems to me that you are referring to so-called henpecked husbands and boyfriends. Are they in majority? I don't know.
You described the kind of men you're attracted to. Incidentally, I'm attracted to the same kind of women, who are pretty. Wish there were more of those!
Not just authenticity, but maturity, independence, being able to read context can help a lot too.
For atypical behavior and leaving feedback for being ignored.
Kalinychta implies that when most people think of "nice", yeah they do think of "being polite". But being polite is not enough if people want to form deeper bonds. And there are the things we can't control 100% such as our physical looks.
I think Tony wants to build those deeper bonds. I think he can sense when he has no chance for it to happen. I also think people can sense what I am guessing is Tony's lack of sophistication and interests.
People generally want that in some form too.
Tony, I think volunteering is a good way for you to start off because the rules are more straightforward. You can build yourself to become smart about what you need to do and build up to understand social and physical nuances around you. With these social groups, you might have to be able to "hold your own" and I'm guessing it's more than difficult for you to have this assuredness in a random group.
There are probably autistic support groups that would be good for you to look for to- as they are more likely to understand your mannerisms more overall.
I haven’t used Meetup in 15 years. I had used it for awhile to participate in monthly local game nights but it slowly died down with regular gatherings due to the main hosts having other things to do in their lives and not everyone could host a game night at their own homes. Tried to use it again two years later but couldn’t find any local groups that shared my interests. The members of the group were fine with me and the two main hosts did know that I was autistic and were okay with it.
Masked Man
Well-Known Member
This is why.
You have to get a handle on this. You can't act like this in public.
You are trying to treat Meetup groups like an autistic support group. That is not going to work. That's not the purpose of these meetings. The group organizer recognizes that and that's likely the reason you were removed from the group.
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Again without references it's useless, and again my deadbeat friend say they will give me references but never happens so again stop beating a dead horse. Like we travel ask them a zillion times till I was blue in the damn face, and they did absolutely nothing The gas might be with talk to my therapist, so that's a useless solution.
Masked Man
Well-Known Member
Once again... specifically where did you apply for a volunteer position? I have never been asked for a reference for a volunteer position. So WHERE did you apply that they told you you needed a reference?
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