Things that sabotaged me in terms of romance and more

[Kayla55]

meant to say this

 

[Markness]

My mother has actually wished I didn’t have autism and she pities women who have autistic children.

 

[Kayla55]

My mother has actually wished I didn’t have autism and she pities women who have autistic children.

I'm sorry she feels that way.

 

[SweetHoney]

Baby bird you can get out of the nest and join social groups and meet girls based on any number of interests

 

[Mary Terry]

I am not saying that at all. My point was that my mother said abusive things to me and it’s mentally scarred me. It felt like being told she wished I never existed and that it’s my fault that she is unhappy. My post had nothing to do with feminism, just my mother’s mean behavior.

Your mother sounds like a real problem. I wish you could move away from her.

 

[Steelbookcollector217]

yeah, my last relationship which felt like a friendship, just destroyed me mentally and emotionally

 

[Markness]

Your mother sounds like a real problem. I wish you could move away from her.

I think come next year, I will start saving my money more so I can begin moving away from her.

 

[tree]

Telling yourself that you will start saving "more" in the future
is not as useful as establishing a quantifiable amount that you
plan to set aside.

 

[Markness]

My mother actually screamed at me for being sad that girls weren’t interested in me.

 

[tree]

My mother actually screamed at me for being sad that girls weren’t interested in me.

When?

 

[Markness]

When?

My early teens.

 

[Markness]

My father also screamed at me. He even threatened to kill me sometimes.

 

[tree]

My father also screamed at me. He even threatened to kill me sometimes.

When did this happen?

And what prompted it?

 

[Wizardry]

It seems like you come from an avoidantly attached family. Learning about attachment styles will help you understand some of your difficulties. I don't think securely attached people have the kinds of difficulties we're having.

This is a really good video. Not every point applies to every single avoidantly attached individual, but it gets the idea across.

 

[Markness]

When did this happen?

And what prompted it?

It was the summer of 2009.

I was exasperated with how dating sites were not working for me and I was struggling with a mandatory remedial math course.

 

[Tony Ramirez]

yeah, my last relationship which felt like a friendship, just destroyed me mentally and emotionally

At least it was a friendship and not a textationship which is the worst kind of relationship.

 

[Markness]

I wish my tale would have a happy ending.

 

[Tony Ramirez]

I wish my tale would have a happy ending.

Me too but IRL the odds are 99% it won't because of my ASD1.

 

[Steelbookcollector217]

Me too but IRL the odds are 99% it won't because of my ASD1.

another reminder that it sadly just comes with the territory, even long before i joined this forum, i always read and heard of disclosed cases of guys, men, on the autism spectrum, on other forums or even comments on social media, who reach a certain decade and have always been single, never dated, never been in any relationship.

Heck, its not even unusual or unheard of for many men who don't have autism either.

Which reminds me, i even did research, there are sadly even some species of animals, in which majority of the males never get to male, only a small percentage of them do, Elephant Seals are an example.

 

[Markness]

I don’t want the years of struggling to be in vain.