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Tony Ramirez

Tony Ramirez

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  • Tony Ramirez
    When I had a meltdown after church feeling ostracized I was actually told by S and a new friend she said I was not being ignored that I am the most noticed and welcomed person there.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    S was the first person to talk to me at game night to find the new church BTW. Told them I am autism. Accepted. New friend is also ND with don't want to disclose.
    T
    thejuice
    I think the truth is somewhere in between. Probably a lot of times you are included, but occasionally excluded which hurts a lot (almost like a death). With our mind's negative bias, those times we are hurt are amplified, especially if were on a downward mood swing.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Sav you know her name from the DM says I was always included. I am the most noticed person. I told them personally my past college young adult I was ignored. She even forgot to say goodbye at the cafe then apologized after. Not the first time other women did that a few times this past two weeks.
    db05
    Hey Tony, have you ever tried Hiki? Dating app for autistics. Personally, I hate that stuff and would love nothing more than to get rid of my cell phone, but maybe it could help you meet a nice autistic girl? Maybe even having the same frustrations as you are.

    Hiki | Autism, ADHD, Neurodivergent Dating App & Social Community
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I sure as hell have not meet a single one in the 20+ places I wasted my life socializing the past 5 years there were fakers that were really neurotypical and I thought were ones until I saw them talk and socializing then they were definitely neurotypical.

    I'm petrified trying online dating cuz I know I will get no responses.
    T
    thejuice
    Online dating is a waste of money and time for most men
    Tony Ramirez
    I was in the cafe trying to watch The Cable Guy 1996 movie until the place filled up with couples and platonic guy girls when one sat in front I left half way. I put this in bolting. I am heading home to watch the rest of the movie.
    Tony Ramirez
    Why do so many people say "Have a good one" What should I say back to them?
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    AuroraBorealis
    AuroraBorealis
    I was also confused about this one when I visited the U.S. for the first time, simply because I wasn't used to it. "Thanks, you too" works great.
    T
    thejuice
    What's happening is confusing to answer as well
    Judge
    Judge
    The trick is not to dwell on it. It has no deep meanings or hidden agendas. It's just a simple colloquial greeting. No more, no less.
    Tony Ramirez
    Why am I ignored in every social groups I go too?
    tree
    tree
    That is an impossible question to answer
    since nobody here is an eye witness.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I could have filmed it but concent and all. New topic is going up.
    Tony Ramirez
    Will I ever in my life board a commercial flight in my lifetime like every tom dick and harry does?
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    Judge
    Judge
    People who fly for their job don't count. And that's a lot of them. Flying for business reasons was always very depressing to me. Meaning advanced training and testing...and if I didn't perform well I might have lost my job. Nope...hated flying for business. Too much dread. Besides, it seems a silly thing to brag about whether business or pleasure. :rolleyes:
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    When you live in a household where everyone insults and puts you down all your life and lived in the same city all your life with very little travel all by car or bus you understand where I am coming from. I just wanted to escape they and could never.
    Judge
    Judge
    I travel very little at all. However I have no resentment or jealousy of those who do. We all have to live our own lives and not that of others. To rely on whatever resources we have, rather than to dwell on resources we don't have.
    Tony Ramirez
    All women hate me. 😂 I think it's all in my head. I just disproved that theory multiple times today.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Kind of still can't stop the prn.
    T
    thejuice
    Sounds like spicy websites have hijacked your brain's reward and motivation pathways, it can happen, just like any social media (believe it or not PH is social media)
    T
    thejuice
    If it's a problem for you, and only you can decide, perhaps when you get an urge to go spicy you could swap in something equally stimulating, say a videogame?
    Tony Ramirez
    IRL sucks so bad it's nothing like my daydreams and dreams and will never be 1 and a million odds.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Odds of ever having a real single female friend.
    tree
    tree
    I believe that is an estimate made on the basis of feelings,
    not a calculation derived from any mathematical process.
    T
    thejuice
    Ah 1% I see. Have you ever seen Dumb and Dumber Tony? Do you know the scene where he says to his crush "So you're saying there's a chance?" 😁
    Tony Ramirez
    I actually been much less stressed since my mother stopped talking to me and controlling me. Like I have more independents.
    FayetheAspie
    FayetheAspie
    Less stress sounds like a good first step towards recovery.
    Tony Ramirez
    My social skills are not that bad in person if I am heard. I can actually talk to people if they actually listen to me and don't ostracize me. Better I can talk to people who actually have been ostracized.
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    S
    Steelbookcollector217
    well the average man is invisible to most women
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    No I am they talk to other men
    T
    thejuice
    I witnessed 'gentle ostracism' today, where the neurologically different person is smiled at awkwardly, given brief but polite responses and the body language suggested they wanted to exit. I believe it to be the most common type. Not malicious, they probably dont realise it.
    Tony Ramirez
    I feel much better I am not the only newcomer ostracized at that so called welcoming churched. Many at the newcomers meeting felt and voiced the same thing.
    Tony Ramirez
    Either this terrible year end now or I am going to end it by jumping off the highway or bridge.
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    tree
    tree
    You aren't making any attempt yourself to find a therapist,
    is what that sounds like. You expect somebody else to
    do it?
    jsilver256
    jsilver256
    FYI, I did reach out to the church in a couple different ways. They haven’t gotten back.
    S
    Steelbookcollector217
    are you still feeling this way at the moment?
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