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KevinMao133

KevinMao133

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  • KevinMao133
    Subtle racism is real

    The way people see me, the expression is different. It’s almost like I’m a nuance just existing

    I also find people not wanting to interact with me. I give out creeper vibes even though I don’t intend to do so

    It’s like being an Asian man is a problem
    Levitat0r
    Levitat0r
    It can be hard to tell whether it's racism as such when there is such a wide variety of reasons for people to hate, and race is just one of them. But it's possible.
    Kayla55
    Kayla55
    Maybe just walked. People think I'm a blue eyed idiot,
    Remember as young women tying my boyfriend up, had done my eyes smokey and was on spidergirl tangent.....
    He was happy, I wasn't so I left him tied up. Got phone call later

    Maybe it's just like misunderstood, he thought x, and young impulsive expressive me was on y tangent.

    I think moral of story is don't pick up stray dogs
    KevinMao133
    Do you guys ever catch yourself overthinking things that do not matter?
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    Judge
    Judge
    All the time...because I give that a lot of thought as well.

    Seriously though, it's who and what we are to do so. Not really sure if there exists a surefire way to subdue it.
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    I tell myself l am overthinking, then l distract myself to do something else.
    KevinMao133
    KevinMao133
    @Aspychata I’m the same. I don’t think about those things, I try to

    It doesn’t make it easier though but there’s less distractions
    KevinMao133
    Just know one thing: you don’t have to be open to everything

    You don’t have to accept everything the world offers. Doesn’t mean you are close minded though. It just means you have your own interests and specialities
    KevinMao133
    Sometimes knowing too much does more harm than good

    When you are in too ingrained in a culture, you see the good bad and flat out ugly. The way you see things will be different than those on the outside

    That being said, I’m learning to be more objective towards certain things. I’m quite judgemental, something I have learned over the last few years
    KevinMao133
    The more I think about it, the more I blame certain individuals for thinking a certain way

    I don’t believe non Asians for finding us unattractive. After all, as an Asian man, even I don’t find us attractive. Heck, even I don’t like Asian people

    I especially don’t like Chinese people, those from there. I find them to be too barberic, not good enough for me
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Let's not bad mouth others. My ex-husband's grandmother is from China, and my daughter is then part Chinese.
    KevinMao133
    KevinMao133
    Well I guess being ethnically Chinese has a lot to do with it. Their double standardness is what drives me nuts and the big reason why I want nothing to do with them
    KevinMao133
    People who play games in relationships, in my mind, are those who are shallow

    That is one thing I don’t understand about the world. I wish everything can be more transparent
    KevinMao133
    You know what bothers me? When people put labels on me and say we all act like that

    Pretend to be cool it’s not cool. Coolness is within, not something that is pretended
    KevinMao133
    For those who have embraced their autism diagnosis, how did you do it? How long did it take?

    I’m on my way
    jsilver256
    jsilver256
    I'm still in the process too. Probably not a popular answer, but faith continues to be by and far the most important factor for me. Believing there is a reason and a plan can be a self-fulfilling prophecy if nothing else.
    AuroraBorealis
    AuroraBorealis
    May sound weird, but I needed a few proper meltdowns until I started accepting it and feeling less like an imposter. How do you define "embracing"? I'm not sure which moment I'm supposed to think of.
    KevinMao133
    I just realized something: I am too combative and my attitude sucks

    That being said, I’m trying stay away from triggers and live like a stoner
    T
    thejuice
    Problem with drugs is its like a credit card. They offer short-term pleasure and long-term pain. It gives you the illusion of having more money than you have. Then you live with less because each month it takes away what you earn to pay past credit.

    Almost everyone I know who grew up as stoners left it behind them. The ones who still smoke are unhappy.
    KevinMao133
    Yes I am well aware not sleeping will push my body to further deterioration

    No, I don’t really care. I never expected to make it to 27, and I don’t care if I die before I turn 28

    I am still unlearning things, so I’m a baby who’s still growing
    KevinMao133
    Hope this helps

    It’s ok to not have a plan. A lot of what is being taught, needs to be unlearned

    It’s ok. Embrace, rather than loathe

    We in this together
    KevinMao133
    I will never go to another concert, ever again in my life

    Seeing all these people, especially women, brought back haunting memories, nightmares that still bother me
    oregano
    oregano
    AFAIC a concert is akin to the tenth circle of hell. Earsplittingly LOUD music, LOUD screaming fans packed like sardines into a big arena. And that's nowhere near getting into any sort of bad memories it may trigger. Recently thousands of Taylor Swift fans in Spain got covid at her concert there. Gouging my eardrums out with a rusty knife would be more pleasant.
    superboyian
    superboyian
    Could it be a sensory overload kind of situation that brings back haunting memories or something that has happened that was traumatic that has happened in the past?
    KevinMao133
    KevinMao133
    @superboyian it is. I saw some things that I shouldn’t have saw, as it triggered memories. I also went to a place where I feel wanted
    KevinMao133
    Coming to grips with something while also trying to challenge my beliefs

    I might not like woman after all. The more I think about it, the more I realized this: I vibe with guys better, since we are equal

    Some women in china secret admire me but I don’t like them, due to cultural differences as well as excessive white worshipping shown by them

    Wouldn’t call myself gay yet but I’m dangerously close
    oregano
    oregano
    There's a hashtag called #boysober going around social media. Basically women who have given up trying to find men or falling in love and are happy alone. #girlsober is the male version. Personally I'm #peoplesober.
    KevinMao133
    I’m battling depression recently. Suddenly feel like I’m losing control
    Judge
    Judge
    My experience with clinical depression has always reflected that you don't control it, but rather than you just wait it out. That it will ebb and flow like the tide.
    KevinMao133
    Just watched the documentary called the downfall on Diddy

    June 1st might be the start of my downfall. Had a good run, can’t complain
    tree
    tree
    What's special about the 1st of June?
    KevinMao133
    KevinMao133
    The day my dad finally left
    KevinMao133
    No one is 100% nice and I’m not going to sugarcoat things, I can be downright nasty at times

    That being said, they really trying to force a nice guy into a madmen. What is wrong with being an introvert? What is wrong with wanting my own space?

    Some people don’t like living with others, doesn’t mean they are the sinister one, they are just different
    KevinMao133
    I am spending most of my days questioning myself

    I know I shouldn’t and I’m not broken and the pressure of fitting in is overwhelmed

    I don’t know what to do anymore
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