Good morning/evening.

[marc_101]

Thanks!
I would like to know is there anything else I should know which isn't written in the rules (i read them), maybe there are some words or something else which is considered as offensive or stuff like that, because I want to talk to people here, but in no way do I want to say something which can offend them. I came here to learn and give support
If there are some topics explaining this then I'll sooner or later find them, just thought that introducing myself may be a good first step

Welcome. Are there rules? I guess I need to read them.

And interesting discussion about writing a biography. I hope some of you do so. There is so much need to communicate what autism and comorbidities mean for real people with diverse experiences. One thing is to read about symptoms in abstract, but another thing is to see how those traits are combined with personality and life experiences.

Besides some of those amazing savant-like abilities that appear to come out of the blue, there are certain skills that may appear as talents but are actually a combination of practice and obsession over a topic. I have several of those that allowed me to have a good professional life. But I also have a lot of cognitive problems like bad short-term memory and confusion from time to time that have made things very difficult. I compensated with temporary obsessions over some topics.

 

[Aspychata]

As you can see you are quite welcomed here, looking forward to reading your posts!

 

[VictorR]

Hello!
Ah, I can't remember when the last time I actually walked bare feet (beaches don't count). Probably when I was a kid... I like your quotes.
As you like reading books, are there any books which portrait romantic interactions with ASD people? I mean specifically romances where one of the main characters is autistic. Or maybe some films about this? I watched so far only the "Mozart and the Whale".

I haven't read many novels and of them, only one, Convenience Store Woman, has an autistic lead. It doesn't really get into romance per se, but it does explore relationships.

 

[Tired]

Welcome. Are there rules? I guess I need to read them.

And interesting discussion about writing a biography. I hope some of you do so. There is so much need to communicate what autism and comorbidities mean for real people with diverse experiences. One thing is to read about symptoms in abstract, but another thing is to see how those traits are combined with personality and life experiences.

Besides some of those amazing savant-like abilities that appear to come out of the blue, there are certain skills that may appear as talents but are actually a combination of practice and obsession over a topic. I have several of those that allowed me to have a good professional life. But I also have a lot of cognitive problems like bad short-term memory and confusion from time to time that have made things very difficult. I compensated with temporary obsessions over some topics.

Thanks! And yes haha website literally pushes them into your face once you register, so I made sure to check them out
Wish we had some virtual reality things which allow you to see the world through people with ASD, or disabilities, it would definitely help so many others to understand how it may feel to others, and how much they struggle to live in the "normal world". The closest which comes to my mind are autobiographies

May I ask what are these obsessions you have?

 

[Tired]

As you can see you are quite welcomed here, looking forward to reading your posts!

This feels so amazing for me actually, because irl i struggle to have conversations with people (and having friends), because they just kinda sound shallow, yet literally everyone who wrote to me here is such an interesting person

 

[Tired]

I haven't read many novels and of them, only one, Convenience Store Woman, has an autistic lead. It doesn't really get into romance per se, but it does explore relationships.

I see, thanks a lot!

 

[SusanLR]

Yes, as @Crossbreed replied, there are many here who were diagnosed late in life because when we were young, they weren't even thinking about ASD.
I was always several grade levels ahead, but considered weird, strange and a loner.
Didn't have friends like other kids and was home schooled during high school.

The teachers and schools told my mother I was anxious and not connecting with other students. They recommended she take me to a therapist for anxiety and she did. I was given tranquilizers for a while and told I was having panic attacks.
Aspergers or autism was never mentioned.
I really knew nothing about it until I was going through a difficult time in my fifties and getting grief counseling. She was the one who recognized Aspergers and suggested getting tested.

 

[marc_101]

May I ask what are these obsessions you have?

There are so many. They come and go, but there is a pattern or an underlying theme: learning and information. I'm just curious. I want my grave to read "He just wanted to learn." The long-term ones are math, statistics, economics, and understanding the world/universe. Maybe language, too, including reading novels and non-fiction. I used to be way more driven. I mostly taught myself English and math and was determined to leave my country to come to the US to study at the best universities. Somehow I managed to do it. I'm a professor now. I try to carve out time to learn, but the politics, committees, grants, and drudgery of a real job get in the middle. When I was a teenager I wanted to be a chauffeur so I could just sit in a car to read.

I guess I'm at the stage that I wonder what is next, and I look at the younger me with some mix of awe and distance. I'm not sure how younger me managed to make it. From the outside, some people think I'm bright and super smart, but they don't realize how much more time things take me or how much isolation or bad moments I had and have. I have a lot of different "personas," so some people think I have this amazing life full of adventure and fun, which is not the case at all. And for sure there are people who think I'm very weird and moody. For each obsession I have I also have periods in which I procrastinate and have problems focusing and doing the things that I'm supposed to do because I get into another short-term obsession.

Anyhow, thanks for asking.

 

[Tired]

Yes, as @Crossbreed replied, there are many here who were diagnosed late in life because when we were young, they weren't even thinking about ASD.
I was always several grade levels ahead, but considered weird, strange and a loner.
Didn't have friends like other kids and was home schooled during high school.

The teachers and schools told my mother I was anxious and not connecting with other students. They recommended she take me to a therapist for anxiety and she did. I was given tranquilizers for a while and told I was having panic attacks.
Aspergers or autism was never mentioned.
I really knew nothing about it until I was going through a difficult time in my fifties and getting grief counseling. She was the one who recognized Aspergers and suggested getting tested.

Oh, was is bad for your mental and physical health to drink those tranquilizers?
Did you want to be a loner, or you just couldn't connect to other kids?

 

[Aspychata]

I like your description of yourself @marc_101 . That's what l love doing is just learning. I like studying foreign languages, l would enjoy taking classes studying literature, trying coding for Linux, and so on. But l struggle with anxiety, and want isolation at times. It's a dichotomy of needs, and l wonder how l took care of myself, yet l did.

 

[Tired]

There are so many. They come and go, but there is a pattern or an underlying theme: learning and information. I'm just curious. I want my grave to read "He just wanted to learn." The long-term ones are math, statistics, economics, and understanding the world/universe. Maybe language, too, including reading novels and non-fiction. I used to be way more driven. I mostly taught myself English and math and was determined to leave my country to come to the US to study at the best universities. Somehow I managed to do it. I'm a professor now. I try to carve out time to learn, but the politics, committees, grants, and drudgery of a real job get in the middle. When I was a teenager I wanted to be a chauffeur so I could just sit in a car to read.

I guess I'm at the stage that I wonder what is next, and I look at the younger me with some mix of awe and distance. I'm not sure how younger me managed to make it. From the outside, some people think I'm bright and super smart, but they don't realize how much more time things take me or how much isolation or bad moments I had and have. I have a lot of different "personas," so some people think I have this amazing life full of adventure and fun, which is not the case at all. And for sure there are people who think I'm very weird and moody. For each obsession I have I also have periods in which I procrastinate and have problems focusing and doing the things that I'm supposed to do because I get into another short-term obsession.

Anyhow, thanks for asking.

Wow, well done, I would be ultra proud of myself in your place!
Is it hard to be a professor, because you all the time need to communicate with tones of young people? It would definitely stress me out so much...
And oh yes I get the curiosity, I'm definitely not interested in math, but other topics yes, my youtube is filled with random videos from different people with proved sources about close to anything, and I feel damn good every time I learn something. I hate feeling stupid and that's probably because I don't like math, programming and stuff like that. It sounds so hard and I just struggle feeling that I can't succeed at something after a lot of tries when it looks simple and others seems to grasp it just fine.
Thanks for telling me all this, if you have interesting YouTube channels to send y way a out random stuff (just not math! ) please send them in my dm

 

[Tired]

I like your description of yourself @marc_101 . That's what l love doing is just learning. I like studying foreign languages, l would enjoy taking classes studying literature, trying coding for Linux, and so on. But l struggle with anxiety, and want isolation at times. It's a dichotomy of needs, and l wonder how l took care of myself, yet l did.

You should also feel proud of yourself, and because none of us can know everything, studying whatever we can with the time we have sounds good enough to me

 

[marc_101]

I like your description of yourself @marc_101 . That's what l love doing is just learning. I like studying foreign languages, l would enjoy taking classes studying literature, trying coding for Linux, and so on. But l struggle with anxiety, and want isolation at times. It's a dichotomy of needs, and l wonder how l took care of myself, yet l did.

It's never too late. I mean it.

 

[marc_101]

@Tired Anna. Thanks. Don't watch many YouTube videos. There are good podcasts that I follow. Ologies, Science Friday, Hidden Brain, This American Life... And books. Check out NeuroTribes.

 

[Tired]

@Tired Anna. Thanks. Don't watch many YouTube videos. There are good podcasts that I follow. Ologies, Science Friday, Hidden Brain, This American Life... And books. Check out NeuroTribes.

I can suggest you kurzgesagt channel if you ever want to try watch smth on yourube, they do those amazingly drawn informative videos about literally everything, and they explain it like for kids, really love them.
I never really listened to podcasts, guess it's time to start, and thanks for the book, I'll add it in my list of 31 books i need to read this year lol

 

[Kaz2012]

Hello and welcome

I love playing pc games (consoles as well) and RPG is my favourite genre. I have been a gamer since I got my first pc at 18 (51 now and still madly gaming - hoping to live long enough to see Elder Scrolls VI ) What games are you making?

Late diagnosed in my late 40s but always knew something was different about me just like so many folks here. It is a great community - so glad I found this place.

 

[Tom]

Oh, I see. Do these dog breeds need any specific training, or are they just perfect family pets by default? I never had a dog, only a cat.

Do your "collector genes" mean that you have your relatives also collecting stuff?
Okay, this looks like... a lot of cards Sadly I don't have anything like this here in Serbia, wish I could actually send you smth for the collection, but alas. Man, 30 years... that's indeed a lot of collecting going on
And yeah, I myself collect stickers, so I understand that I spend money on stuff I don't even use and won't be able to sell later for any real money, but as long as it makes me happy it counts I guess lol

Like all breeds they generally come with some preset (genetic) traits but like people Chihuahuas also can display a good ammount of variation from the stereotype.

But to answer your question they are considered excellent pets, especially for single and older folks. They often are great family dogs as well, loving everyone (They crave attention) but are not recommended for small children. Being smallest they have a very strong defense mechanisim and can act very agressively when they feel threatened or afraid. So they have to be shown careful handling and respect which a small child may not yet know how to do. On the good side Chihuahuas have the weakest jaw strength of any dog and never killed anyone. But they will psych the heck out of you with their ferocius demeanor. I've seen mine drive bears away multile times. They are natural alphas (male or female) and will likely dominate any and all dogs you already have, They also tend to be little Napoleons or Divas so training is important if you don't want them to completely run the houshold. They really are a remarkable dog and you will find their owners tend to adore them.

Some of their qualities include:

Smallest dog breed
Longest living Dog breed
Most agressive and high strung dog breed - stress doesn't seem to bother them I guess
Considered one of the best watch dogs. They alert on danger before almost anything.
Most complicated, tempermental and amusing personality breed
Possibly the most Loyal and Loving/Affectionate breed
They may be one of the oldest breeds tracing their lineage from the Aztecs thru the Toltecs and perhaps Mayans, which means they came accross from Eurasia with the people that became the Native Americans in South and North America.

To sum it up their classification is 'Companion Dog' Their job is protecting and loving you. (And manipulating you to give them the best treats).

This is Daisy. She was adopted by a Veternarian and brought home to live with the Vets other 8 dogs of various breeds. Within a few weeks she was King.

 

[Tired]

Hello and welcome

I love playing pc games (consoles as well) and RPG is my favourite genre. I have been a gamer since I got my first pc at 18 (51 now and still madly gaming - hoping to live long enough to see Elder Scrolls VI ) What games are you making?

Late diagnosed in my late 40s but always knew something was different about me just like so many folks here. It is a great community - so glad I found this place.

I read a study which says that most people count themselves and others old when they get to around 70+ years, so you're young enough to get there, no worries, I'm only afraid that they'll instead make a rereremake of skyrim named "super mega deluxe edition" instead haha
Well I'm making games which my boss tells me to make, which for 2 years were "escape the room" type of the game, and right now I'm working on a horror game. It's an indie company, so alas you won't see my name in credits for the new God of War or stuff like that
And damn that's a big gaming experience, did you count how many games you finished so far?

Happy to hear that you like it here, I now also like it here, maybe I even should start thinking about actually restricting the hours I spend here, because I like reading books, and today I read like 0 pages... which is ultra lame for me

 

[Neri]

Oh, I immediately have a lot of questions for you, but I'm not sure should I ask here, or how do I write in private... and would you even be interested in writing me your autobiography haha
I'm just interested in other people's lifes and how they came to the point where they are now, and you sound like you have a very interesting life
Plus you already made me go and google more info about "twice exceptional" and "ASD2" so thanks for immediately introducing me to new things

Here's a suggestion. Start a thread about one of those "burning questions" and people like me will, happily respond.

You don't have to feel compelled to reply to every response. An emoji is a nice easy response if things get too busy to respond in writing to every responder, but you can pursue lines of response that intrigue you and ask us more questions, if you desire.

I'm very happy to be utterly frank, I prefer the open shared communal space that can opened up to surprising and informative responses from you-never-know-where

 

[Tired]

Like all breeds they generally come with some preset (genetic) traits but like people Chihuahuas also can display a good ammount of variation from the stereotype.

But to answer your question they are considered excellent pets, especially for single and older folks. They often are great family dogs as well, loving everyone (They crave attention) but are not recommended for small children. Being smallest they have a very strong defense mechanisim and can act very agressively when they feel threatened or afraid. So they have to be shown careful handling and respect which a small child may not yet know how to do. On the good side Chihuahuas have the weakest jaw strength of any dog and never killed anyone. But they will psych the heck out of you with their ferocius demeanor. I've seen mine drive bears away multile times. They are natural alphas (male or female) and will likely dominate any and all dogs you already have, They also tend to be little Napoleons or Divas so training is important if you don't want them to completely run the houshold. They really are a remarkable dog and you will find their owners tend to adore them.

Some of their qualities include:

Smallest dog breed
Longest living Dog breed
Most agressive and high strung dog breed - stress doesn't seem to bother them I guess
Considered one of the best watch dogs. They alert on danger before almost anything.
Most complicated, tempermental and amusing personality breed
Possibly the most Loyal and Loving/Affectionate breed
They may be one of the oldest breeds tracing their lineage from the Aztecs thru the Toltecs and perhaps Mayans, which means they came accross from Eurasia with the people that became the Native Americans in South and North America.

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To sum it up their classification is 'Companion Dog' Their job is protecting and loving you. (And manipulating you to give them the best treats).

This is Daisy. She was adopted by a Veternarian and brought home to live with the Vets other 8 dogs of various breeds. Within a few weeks she was King.

I love your description of them ahaha they sound (mostly ) delightful!
I never had a god myself and i don't think i ever will, because i was attacked by the dog on the street so i just dislike or am scared of literally all of them except these small ones, cause yeah i understand that it's harder to be harmed by a small dog
Also the photo is delightful, the way she shows who's the boss there ahah