Subjectively speaking?
But it's your choice whether to have those choices or not.
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If you were honest with yourselves, how many of you hate having this condition?
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But it's your choice whether to have those choices or not.
Slyfox
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dont follow i was born this way. i had no choice.
If you call it luck, you are not noticing how hard they worked.
It’s not about seeing others have great lives, it’s about learning from others who have worked hard to develop a perspective that all people suffer and none of us are all that special in our suffering. It’s about having role models who no longer dwell in self hate and pity.
People on the spectrum can still "work hard" and feel resentment of having autism at the same time.
And how can I live in peace with autism when there's so much to be fearful about having autism?
"Autistics are more likely to become homeless"
"Autistics are more likely to develop epilepsy"
"Autistics are more likely to become murder/rape victims"
"Autistics are more likely to get Parkinson's disease"
"The lifespan for autistics is short"
"Autistics are more likely to commit suicide"
Living in fear of my own body because I don't feel physically normal after reading such scary stuff about how our bodies are different (different blood types, gut bacteria, heartbeat, risk of developing epilepsy which is why I'm scared to drive, etc) and how we're more likely to have bad things happen to us like becoming homeless due to nobody caring about our wellbeing or us struggling in employment, and walking down the street knowing I look weird because apparently "NTs can know everything what's going on inside your head and your whole life based on your body language no matter how much you try to hide it", living in fear of change that you can't control - all these fear factors also contribute to my hatred of autism. It makes me realise how unlucky I am, that something bad is going to happen to me just because I'm on the spectrum.
"Autistics are more likely to become homeless"
"Autistics are more likely to develop epilepsy"
"Autistics are more likely to become murder/rape victims"
"Autistics are more likely to get Parkinson's disease"
"The lifespan for autistics is short"
"Autistics are more likely to commit suicide"
Living in fear of my own body because I don't feel physically normal after reading such scary stuff about how our bodies are different (different blood types, gut bacteria, heartbeat, risk of developing epilepsy which is why I'm scared to drive, etc) and how we're more likely to have bad things happen to us like becoming homeless due to nobody caring about our wellbeing or us struggling in employment, and walking down the street knowing I look weird because apparently "NTs can know everything what's going on inside your head and your whole life based on your body language no matter how much you try to hide it", living in fear of change that you can't control - all these fear factors also contribute to my hatred of autism. It makes me realise how unlucky I am, that something bad is going to happen to me just because I'm on the spectrum.
My point is to put in the hard work to make life better for yourself. I accept that some people will unfortunately dwell in resentment, misery, and self hatred for all time. Far be it for me to change their minds, but I am speaking to people who have some hope for living a less loathsome life.
All I do is hold on to the hope that I was misdiagnosed and that I don't have it at all and instead it's all just the ADHD and anxiety disorder.
If you ask why that is, see post #267.
If you ask why that is, see post #267.
But it doesn't matter what they diagnose you with, is not like doctors can slap you disorders if you don't have it.
I know but I think of the possibilities that I could have been misdiagnosed, then I see posts on autism sites and Facebook groups with things like "is emetophobia common in autism?" with all the replies being "yeah, I think I have autism, and I have emetophobia!" It's like everyone "wants" to have this frightening disorder, while I'm like "no, no, please don't add confirmation that I have it because I have other disorders that I didn't know were so common with autism!"
It seems everything is related to autism. Why don't they just put everyone in the world on the spectrum and be done with it? Because that is where it's heading.
Never think of that aspect, because of late diagnosis and thus, just trying to negotiate my life around dealing with it.
I don't however, see that I have autism; but Asperger's syndrome, because that is what I was diagnosed with.
What I wish truly I did not have was social anxiety and agoraphobia. I hate being so aware of others, because it truly does stunt my life.
I don't however, see that I have autism; but Asperger's syndrome, because that is what I was diagnosed with.
What I wish truly I did not have was social anxiety and agoraphobia. I hate being so aware of others, because it truly does stunt my life.
It wouldn't be so bad if they hadn't of taken Asperger's syndrome out of the criteria. If anything they should have made Asperger's syndrome a separate condition to autism, as Asperger's syndrome is just as similar/different to autism as what Fragile-X syndrome and ADHD are to autism; all share a lot of symptoms with autism but are still separate diagnosable disorders.
Slyfox
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and for those who cant work hard? i cant handle full time work. its too much and casues mental breakdowns.
I struggle in the working world too. And having ADHD can cause me to struggle with following my dreams, as I don't have that intense focus thing that most autistics are blessed with. Life can be so hard for those of us who sit on the "too NT to be autistic, too autistic to be NT" division line. That's what it feels like for me anyway.
Plus executive dysfunction is a thing, although we'll probably be advised to "go to therapy" for that.
@Slyfox
The only “hard work” I was talking about was the concerted effort to change one’s perspective from self hate to self acceptance.
I too am having an impossible time with working full time.
Ah therapy, the silver bullet for everything apparently. Often snarky. "I suggest you get therapy"Plus executive dysfunction is a thing, although we'll probably be advised to "go to therapy" for that.
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Sure, you joke, but for some of us, therapy has helped a great deal and for others, it saved our lives. It is just one means of support that may help people. When people suggest it, they are very likely trying to help and offer an idea that was helpful to them. I don’t see any reason to be derisive of one tool that people can use when they are suffering.Good old useless therapy, the silver bullet for everything apparently. At least the therapist's are making bank.
Then the problem is with that person and their passive aggression and not the tool itself (therapy).
So it did not work for you at that time. Okay. Not saying it is helpful to everyone.
What I am saying is that it is helpful to some people. Nothing more than that.
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