Losing yet another friend?

[Markness]

You were gung-ho about having met her.

What did you expect?
That I would say *Hey dude, you met a girl and had fun one evening with her.
For sure, don't try to follow up on that.*???

No, I wasn’t expecting that.

I am just still despondent how it looked like my social life was going to get better but then I got my hopes up.

 

[Markness]

Even if she did keep in contact with me, I feel like the only way I could visit her is if she told me where she lived in New Orleans, if she was ok with me visiting, and I would have to take vacation time.

 

[Misty Avich]

I am sorry for indirectly causing that.

Not your fault.

Yes, I don’t understand why she said she intended on introducing me to her friends and that we would hang out only to move away.

I understand how disappointing it feels.

 

[tree]

Even if she did keep in contact with me, I feel like the only way I could visit her is if she told me where she lived in New Orleans, if she was ok with me visiting, and I would have to take vacation time.

Yes, the only way to visit with a person where they are living
would be if you knew where they lived.

Vacation time?
You work five days a week?
Or a broken schedule?
Or what?

 

[Markness]

I tend to think those who used to post positively to me who now either are completely negative or don’t respond to me at all don’t want me to have a girlfriend.

 

[Rodafina]

I tend to think those who used to post positively to me who now either are completely negative or don’t respond to me at all don’t want me to have a girlfriend.

Maybe you could try responding more to other people in threads that they start to show you care about their problems, too.

 

[tree]

I tend to think those who used to post positively to me who now either are completely negative or don’t respond to me at all don’t want me to have a girlfriend.

You realize that 'tending to think' is another way of saying
*I'm telling myself a story*?

You are one thinking these thoughts.

People who used to post positively toward you have their own issues.
After having said their positive stuff, they are leading their own lives.

 

[Forest Cat]

I tend to think those who used to post positively to me who now either are completely negative or don’t respond to me at all don’t want me to have a girlfriend.

I don't think that is true, I'll bet they only wish you well. I hope you meet someone and achieve what you wish for.

 

[Markness]

I don't think that is true, I'll bet they only wish you well. I hope you meet someone and achieve what you wish for.

Why do you think that’s the case?

 

[Forest Cat]

Why do you think that’s the case?

I don't think people have a reason to wish for you to fail or not meet a girlfriend. If someone sees your posts and thinks "I really hope Markness doesn't meet someone", that would be strange and unusual. It seems unlikely.

 

[Markness]

I don't think people have a reason to wish for you to fail or not meet a girlfriend. If someone sees your posts and thinks "I really hope Markness doesn't meet someone", that would be strange and unusual. It seems unlikely.

I just wish I could actually meet that someone.

 

[Markness]

Why was I even born?

 

[kenaij]

Well, when a mommy and a daddy love eachother very much.......

Sorry just a bad joke to a question no one on this forum can answer for you. No one knows why they are born. We might all just be born without a purpose. Or atleast most of us are.
What you are going to make your purpose is the more important question. What will you bring to the world.

 

[Markness]

I’ve lost my social nerve completely.

 

[tree]

Told yourself everything is hopeless?
*bound to fail*?

 

[Markness]

Told yourself everything is hopeless?
*bound to fail*?

The thoughts range from “I want to talk to her but I can’t.” for various reasons to “Apparently I am not even supposed to socialize until I am no longer ‘depressed.’”

 

[tree]

Yep.

You have a lot of stories.

 

[Markness]

I feel like I am about to cry now. I just feel so crummy and there are no solutions for my struggles.

 

[tree]

There aren't any magical solutions.
The only solutions are ones that require
continued effort.

 

[Markness]

There aren't any magical solutions.
The only solutions are ones that require
continued effort.

It’s not too late at my age?