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[Markness]

@Markness


What volunteer positions have you held?

How long did you pursue these activities?

I’ve handed out pizza and snacks for two different high school sports events.

My mother made me volunteer at the public library for months until I got hired.

I got to volunteer as a helper for two events for a local museum and was hoping to do more but the supervisor of the museum never called me back nor answered my inquiries ever again.

A convention friend gave me a volunteer badge to attend a con and I offered to help but didn’t really get to do anything.

 

[tree]

So the volunteer experiences you have had have been of
limited/brief duration, the exception being the library stint
which you felt compelled to participate in because your
mother told you to do it.

What volunteer activities have you looked at or offered your
services for in the past three months?

 

[Markness]

So the volunteer experiences you have had have been of
limited/brief duration, the exception being the library stint
which you felt compelled to participate in because your
mother told you to do it.

What volunteer activities have you looked at or offered your
services for in the past three months?

I haven’t looked at nor offered services to anything since then.

 

[Markness]

Try volunteering again. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

What are your hobbies?

Reading, going for walks at the park/in the neighborhood, listening to alternative music, occasionally drawing, occasionally playing the guitar (Which I struggle at, even 22 years into it.), playing video games when I feel up to it, and meditating.

I get bullied for these things, either because they are seen as somehow being homosexual or “Satanic.”

 

[Tony Ramirez]

Reading, going for walks at the park/in the neighborhood, listening to alternative music, occasionally drawing, occasionally playing the guitar (Which I struggle at, even 22 years into it.), playing video games when I feel up to it, and meditating.

I get bullied for these things, either because they are seen as somehow being homosexual or “Satanic.”

What. Men do that all the time in New York City, and they have plenty of female friends, girlfriends and wife's.

 

[Mary Terry]

Reading, going for walks at the park/in the neighborhood, listening to alternative music, occasionally drawing, occasionally playing the guitar (Which I struggle at, even 22 years into it.), playing video games when I feel up to it, and meditating.

I get bullied for these things, either because they are seen as somehow being homosexual or “Satanic.”

Who bullies you? That are regular, normal, ordinary, everyday hobbies.

 

[Wizardry]

If I recall correctly, the one girlfriend you briefly had, you met in a mental health support group.

I think a support group is a good idea because you can be upfront about your situation around people who are likely also struggling with their own difficulties, and if someone appears interested, you know they're doing so with some understanding of where you're coming from.

it wouldn't be wise to join a support group with the explicit intention of trying to "pick up chicks", but rather to seek support for your situation and support others with theirs in kind, remaining open to the connections that might blossom in the process.

Just be mindful not to monopolise the talking time in the group, and try to only share as much as is needed to convey the point you're trying to make.

I don't think things like volunteering are the best option unless Markness is actually interested in volunteering in spite of the romantic outcome. If it's something he'd immediately drop as soon as he got a girlfriend, any relationship he'd start with another volunteer would inherently be built on the pretence that they're both interested volunteering.

 

[Mary Terry]

@Markness - I wish I could transport you to a place where you would not be bullied and made fun of.

 

[Markness]

Who bullies you? That are regular, normal, ordinary, everyday hobbies.

People who still behave like they are in high school. Texas culture is rough.

 

[Tony Ramirez]

@Markness I feel so sorry for you. I can't believe how difficult it is to make friends, really. It must really suck where you are. I really don't want to rub this in, but I just hanged out with a bunch of strangers for a game night that a friend from church recommended I never met, including four women. They were so kind to me. Right away, I was able to talk to them. They were not rude at all to me. We even talked about anime, Mindcraft, Fortnight and Dungeons and Dragons, which I know you like things like that. They added me to their WhatsApp group for any future game nights. Not only were they attractive but single and no they did not do any drama like say you are gay or satanic or judge you like the terrible places you have been. I am so sorry you live in such a horrible town. I really pray you can move to New York City. My friend Madison moved here from San Diego not knowing anyone and because of me she has all the friends I have now.

 

[Markness]

This thread’s title is still the same in regards to my life.

 

[kriss72]

Sorry to hear that, I hope you will find someone... you know that person might be out there, searching for someone like you right now ! But also be careful to not accept someone who's just looking for a lonely soul to abuse...

 

[Tony Ramirez]

This thread’s title is still the same in regards to my life.

Read my recent post history. My life has gotten much worse relationship wise and others. I don't blame you.

 

[paloftoon]

1. These volunteer activities you've done can be used on your resume to get other job experience(s).
2. Try volunteering at a variety of things so that you have more knowledge of the world around you and how to talk about different things.
3. Instead of always asking a woman for coffee, try to chat with a girl briefly and invite her to an event. Or maybe invite her to an event for next time after coffee. Make sure you are "going dutch" (each person paying for themselves) for their own so that you don't feel that someone is into you specifically just for the free cup of coffee etc.

 

[Markness]

I’ve had to consider two more people detractors because they don’t want me to have a girlfriend.

 

[tree]

I’ve had to consider two more people detractors because they don’t want me to have a girlfriend.

What has convinced you of that?

 

[jsilver256]

What has convinced you of that?

I recall a few months ago, he asked what would happen if he had another (event) without a girlfriend, and I shared a list of historical people who were single all their life and said he would be in the same company as these greats.

The next day, I felt he made a post which alluded to that list to use it to claim some on the site did not want him to have a girlfriend.

 

[Judge]

I’ve had to consider two more people detractors because they don’t want me to have a girlfriend.

Perhaps it might be more beneficial for you to simply cut such people out of your social orbit altogether, regardless of whether friends or family. Leaving them as a distant memory at best.

Everyone has a right to the pursuit of happiness.

 

[Markness]

What has convinced you of that?

They don’t want to talk to me so they don’t wish me well and hope I continue to struggle.

 

[Cryptid]

I’ve had to consider two more people detractors because they don’t want me to have a girlfriend.

What has convinced you of that?

They don’t want to talk to me so they don’t wish me well and hope I continue to struggle.

Why do you assume their silence means they do not wish you well and that they hope you continue to struggle? You may be over-thinking things again.

What makes you assume that ANYONE would not want you to have a girlfriend? Even if your assumption was valid, why should it matter to you? Someone not wanting you to have a girlfriend does not, in and of itself, prevent you from having a girlfriend.